How do I know if I'm a little?

[paperthincloud]

I need help. So, I'm usually quiet and awkward, not exactly your bubbly, cheerful person. But whenever I get excited or comfortable, my friends say I get very childish and even my speech changes to something more.. juvenile, and I get very giggly and clingy. I also love getting taken care of and babied, even when my friends do it in a joking way. When I researched, I found littlespace and ddlg, ddlb, etc. 

 

I think I might be a little, but I don't want to label myself, since I don't even know if I am a true little. So, I joined this site to see if I can figure myself out. I have a girlfriend, but I can't go to her about this stuff, since this isn't exactly something you can casually bring up to someone who doesn't know anything about it (at least that I know of). There seems to be a certain stigma to it in the public, and I don't want to weird out my friends or her with something that is embarassing and get shunned. 

 

That's why I need help. Before I can tell anyone, I want to know if I am an actual little. Can someone tell me how to figure out if I truly am a little? 

 

 

[Guest Little Otter]

Idk. For me its like, something that triggers in my head. Certain situations, verbal cues, scenerios, etc. Its like an overwhelming sense of elation and joy. My little space sorta operates on a spectrum, but the varying degrees have different effects. Like sometimes its more extreme and I cant think clearly, motor skills dont function the same, Im in a very zen state of total present awareness with no complex thoughts, but I am just thrilled to be alive and everything feels amazing and sorta pure. Theres a sense of naivete, like sometimes my ex texts me and when Im in that place at all I just feel love for her. Like not "in love", but just enjoy her as a person. Yet as adult mode Im quite irate due to her multiple cheating. I just operate on a different level. I of course enjoy kids things like toys, coloring, simple cartoons, I even wrestle around with my dog and stuff (she loves when Im little lol). My voice raises and gets more exciting and childish. I cant form words properly most the time.

 

But less extreme, I just get more joyous and happy, feel a lot of love for everyone around me. I get more cheerful, excitive, giggly, etc. And of course a sense of "feeling little" or "cute" carries with that. However you could interpret that.

 

Its difficult for me to describe, its sorta nebulous.

[Guest Elfenkotze]

Helluu!

 

At first, I dont think that there is a specific thing or behavior that tell that you are a litte or not. Not only because you like pink or you are a little childish, you are deffinetly a little. Beeing a little means so much more than just liking series like my little pony or loving baby food. I mean it can be delicious but it doesnt mean that you are a little, if you like these things. 

 

A little needs someone who is careing about it. 

 

But thats my opinion. It can be a complete different for you and the other members of this forum.

 

If I was you, I would try to talk with your girlfriend about it. Start slow and just tell her a little bit. Like. "Hey do you know what? Sometimes I`d like to behave like a child. They dont have all the worries we have you know?" if she really loves you, she would understand it. 

 

Keep ya head up you dont want the crown to fall, huh?

 

greetings from germany (and sorry if my english isnt perfect )

 

Much luv <3

[Littleone89]

Idk. For me its like, something that triggers in my head. Certain situations, verbal cues, scenerios, etc. Its like an overwhelming sense of elation and joy. My little space sorta operates on a spectrum, but the varying degrees have different effects. Like sometimes its more extreme and I cant think clearly, motor skills dont function the same, Im in a very zen state of total present awareness with no complex thought.

Same:)

 

To add my own words.....sometimes I just get super cuddly and clingy with daddy, and when he takes care of me, I get this, I would say euphoric feeling, and I know I’m in my happy place.

Edited April 14, 2018 by Littleone89

[BabyFennecFox22]

 

 

But whenever I get excited or comfortable, my friends say I get very childish and even my speech changes to something more.. juvenile, and I get very giggly and clingy. I also love getting taken care of and babied, even when my friends do it in a joking way.

It's up to you what you label yourself as, but if you ask me, you are definitely a little, because i get exactly the same way.

 

Sometimes i act so little that my friends catch on an will try to baby me, an i would never tell them, but i love it. 

[TeaPartyBaby]

Being a little isnt like gender or sexuality.. its an interest more than anything, littles dont "feel" different to other people we just like kids stuff and act like kids. A lot of us use it as a coping mechanism, for others its a kink, it really depends on the person.

[Guest GiveMeMyTeddy]

I don’t understand it completely myself, but it may help to think about to what extent would you really enjoy being treated as a child? You don’t have to feel Little ALL the time to consider yourself a Little... I noticed you said you feel more childish when you get excited or comfortable, that’s something to pay attention to... When you are in that mood, (you could call it your Little Space), do you lose a bit of your inhibitions? It sounds like you do, as in, you let yourself act differently than you normally would. That’s a good indicator that you might be a Little. For me, it’s really hard to get into my Little Space, because I don’t like to be babied... even when I’m feeling Little, I like to be treated like a big girl... until it’s time for cuddles and naptime/bedtime. But when I am in my Little Space, this is what it’s like for me: I enjoy my hobbies more than I do when I’m in an adult mood, even when I’m having trouble with something and it doesn’t come out perfect, I don’t mind. Then some of my inhibitions go away, where I feel comfortable singing and dancing to my favorite songs even in front of Daddy. Also a key component for me is the submissive aspect of it... I love it when Daddy really enforces his rules, even if I don’t want to listen right then... but I usually do listen because I like it when Daddy says I’ve been good. Would you like it if your girlfriend (your Mommy... or Big—you could call her many things if not Mommy, even simply Ma’am) rewarded you for being a good Little, or even possibly punished you for misbehaving?

 

Also... your girlfriend and friends shouldn’t shun you for being a Little. If that’s how you feel sometimes, then they should just appreciate that part of you. They wouldn’t be acting as very good friends if they put you down for being a Little. But tbh, only one of my friends knows I’m a Little. It’s not really anyone’s business anyway. And who knows, your girlfriend could warm up to the idea of being a Big or a Mommy. Before you talk to her, think about whether you would be disappointed by a negative response from her... and how happy you might be if her response was in line with how you feel.

 

I hope I’ve given you some things to think about! You’ve certainly made me reflect on my own definition of a Little, as well :-)