Please Help

[Daddy Dom France]

Hello

I'm new to the DDLG, I would like to find help and answers to my question.

 

I was always a caregiver, I struggled a lot when I was young, girls always preferred me as a friend because I know how to listen, to understand and I take their problem like mine...

 

I was acting like Daddy before I know I was one, I do love huge, to listen to give attention and to take care of my little but I don't like rainbow colors, I don't like that my little wear child cloth especially pink clothes. I prefer black, grey, Brown clothes.

 

I prefer my little between 13 to 15 years old.

 

Also I'm not 100% DDLG, I can say 80% DDLG and 20% D/S.

Is it ok to think this way, or I'm missing something something ?

Thank You

[Guest You're adorable.]

Well, first i would like to adress the  "is it ok to think this way" thing. The answer is : if you like it, it's ok. There are very few people that fit perfectly or like everything about a particular kink just as there have never been or never will be clear and rigorous definition of particular kinks. Because it's just not possible.

Back to the question. If you like one aspect of DDlg and not other, it's perfectly ok to just take what you like and discard the rest. Whatever works for you. As i said, nobody is "perfect daddy".

 

Also, 13-15 is called a mid. And of course there are people like that also. Everybody has these little 'deviations' that somehow derail from conventional definition and create something that works for them.

 

So to somehow summarize, never feel insecure about not fitting perfectly in the definition of some kink. Nobody ever does.

[Guest Little Otter]

Ah dont worry! Your feelings are your feelings and you are free to have any preferences you want! Ddlg/mdlb is such a wide spectrum. Ive met plenty of LG's that would be perfect for you, want the same in a dd as you are willing to offer and likewise have the same aspects as a little that you are looking for.

[Guest SUeB]

You prefer her to be 13-15? Are you talking her actual, biological age, or her "little" age?

[Guest BabyPeach]

It sounds like you prefer a middle and not a little.  Although even a middle might like rainbow colors.  I mean, you might find someone who only likes to wear those colors when they're in middle space or little space, but black, gray and brown is a little restrictive.  My adult wardrobe is mostly black, but little me loves pink and pastels and ruffles and girly and frilly and cute patterns and would say nuh to black, gray and brown (unless it was a cute onesie pattern)......little me is 3 though (not a middle). A lot of littles love onesies and child-like clothes.  Middles are more of a teen age and probably don't prefer "baby-ish" clothes (though there are no rules to this....we're all individuals....including you).

 

It's okay to be 80% DDLG and 20% D/S because that is you.  You just have to find someone who is compatible with that. When you're talking to potential partners you two need to communicate as adults what your wants are in a relationship.  That way, there are no surprises of incompatibility later.

[Guest BabyPeach]

if you're referring to her being 13-15 biologically, that's actually called being a pedophile and that means your a sick, fuck.

however, if you're referring to 13-15 in LITTLE age, that is not a little. that is a middle. 

 

I'm certain he means a middle.  His name says he is from France so I think English isn't his first language.

[Daddy Dom France]

You prefer her to be 13-15? Are you talking her actual, biological age, or her "little" age?

of corse his little age, and as I said I'm new to this world so I don't know everything secondly, sorry english is my 4rd language 

[Guest ScorpioBeastWolf]

of corse his little age, and as I said I'm new to this world so I don't know everything secondly, sorry english is my 4rd language

 

You need not be sorry for English not been your first or second language. Well we all are different so our needs, wants are different. Are you in any relationship right now, if yes talk more to her. Study more about her, a lot more about yourself. Study and go deeper into knowing ddlg is not just a act but it is lifestyle to be lived by. Talking helps. You are not missing anything just know you feel yourself and think you are a caregiver, so know what she wears is what she likes, what she does is how she is.. Never try to change someone nor necessary we have to change ourselves but to hold a hand it is always better to adapt things. Well all I can say is communicate and be honest if you are into middles and not littles.

By not been honest you can unknowningly hurt the feelings of a little and give her stress.

[Little_Ghoul]

Hi and welcome to the forum! 

[Daddy Dom France]

Thanks to everyone who take time to answer me,

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Bonjour and welcome to the forum

You sound very self aware which is a great start for anything in life, and especially for a relationship.  The more you understand about yourself, the better you can communicate to a potential partner or partner.

Everything you said about yourself is TOTALLY ok. Don't doubt yourself.  You can be a caregiver, a Daddy, a Dom, all of them, some of them, or it might change over time how much you like each role.  Just enjoy discovering yourself!

You said you had a hard time when you were younger.  Because you're able to listen, care etc., and girls wanted you only for a friend.  In the DDLG world, you will find those same qualities - the ones that made life hard when you were younger - these qualities are going to help you so much in a DDLG relationship.  

There is a lot of good information on this website, and please feel welcome to ask any questions you have.