Littles with "Daddy Issues"

[Little kaiya]

I can 100% state that my being a little has absolutely nothing to do with Daddy issues or parental issues. We're parents were very loving as a child and I continue to have a close relationship with my mom as my dad passed away a few years ago.

For me my little side has everything to do with reducing stress. I work in a job where I am relied on to solve the "unsolvable" issues. Being little gives me time where I don't need to be the one everyone is looking to for solutions.

[iamsmoll]

On 4/10/2018 at 8:43 AM, Lola Step said:

I've been apart of this lifestyle for about 3 years, although even before I discovered I was a little I would vehemently defend DDLG against people who would try to pass it off as simply "Daddy Issues". That is until about a year ago when out of the blue I realized - *I* had daddy issues! I'd never made the connection before between the DDLG stereotype and the issues I had with my father, but put simply- at best we have a love hate relationship, at worst he is emotionally and verbally abusive, manipulative, passive agressive, controlling, the list goes on. One time I accidentally dipped a sugar packet into a cup of coffee and a 10 minute tirade ensued about how I couldn't do anything right.....anyway I was just wondering if there were any littles out there who really DO have "Daddy issues"? :/

I certainly do. I even got entire family issues not dedicated to the daddy ones alone lmao sad but true. My family never felt like a family.

[wittleboiDL04]

I guess I can kinda relate....when I was younger (an infant) my mom gave me to my grandma because she was struggling at the time, and my grandma ended up filing and getting granted full guardianship of me. My grandma has always been a piece of crap to my mom and uncle, but for some reason she thought my grandma changed. Nope, instead she abused me, neglected me, starved me, diaper-punished me (I think that's where my dl comes from) did the absolute worst things you could do to a child that's not sexual or enough to put them in a hospital, then at 11 I was "too much for her to handle" and she shipped me off to mental health institutions. I stayed in them until I was 17, when after my dad (who didn't see me since I was 2) finally found out where I was and got me out. Never been to middle or high school except my senior year, and I just graduated in April 2022 (sad yay). Throughout my entire life , I was only in public school for 3 years. When I was with my grandma, I didn't get to be a child, I was always looking around the corner, worried if I burped the wrong way I'd get a whooping (with a belt till my bottom bled, did that once cause I peed the bed) or something thrown at me or yelled at or slapped. Also, she abused me for wetting the bed, which is why I've struggled with bed wetting for my whole life off and on. I think I have more of parental-figure issues, and the reason I'm a ab is because it's the best way I can cope with the trauma I have from my grandma, as well as trying to replace that feeling of childish innocence I didn't get to have when I should've. The reason I'm dl is because my grandma would lock me in a room and diaper me, and ig my brain grew comfortable with me wearing a diaper, I don't fully understand it but it's just the way it is. 

[Vampiress]

11 hours ago, wittleboiDL04 said:

I guess I can kinda relate....when I was younger (an infant) my mom gave me to my grandma because she was struggling at the time, and my grandma ended up filing and getting granted full guardianship of me. My grandma has always been a piece of crap to my mom and uncle, but for some reason she thought my grandma changed. Nope, instead she abused me, neglected me, starved me, diaper-punished me (I think that's where my dl comes from) did the absolute worst things you could do to a child that's not sexual or enough to put them in a hospital, then at 11 I was "too much for her to handle" and she shipped me off to mental health institutions. I stayed in them until I was 17, when after my dad (who didn't see me since I was 2) finally found out where I was and got me out. Never been to middle or high school except my senior year, and I just graduated in April 2022 (sad yay). Throughout my entire life , I was only in public school for 3 years. When I was with my grandma, I didn't get to be a child, I was always looking around the corner, worried if I burped the wrong way I'd get a whooping (with a belt till my bottom bled, did that once cause I peed the bed) or something thrown at me or yelled at or slapped. Also, she abused me for wetting the bed, which is why I've struggled with bed wetting for my whole life off and on. I think I have more of parental-figure issues, and the reason I'm a ab is because it's the best way I can cope with the trauma I have from my grandma, as well as trying to replace that feeling of childish innocence I didn't get to have when I should've. The reason I'm dl is because my grandma would lock me in a room and diaper me, and ig my brain grew comfortable with me wearing a diaper, I don't fully understand it but it's just the way it is. 

That is so awful and I am sorry that the people who were supposed to love you and care for you failed you in such unimaginable ways. 

[wittleboiDL04]

On 8/28/2022 at 3:20 AM, Vampiress said:

That is so awful and I am sorry that the people who were supposed to love you and care for you failed you in such unimaginable ways. 

Thanks u for the sympathy......I mean it sucks, and when I think about it it really takes me to a deep dark place I really don't like, but I mean that's just the way it is ig. Wish I was more fortunate, but oh well. Can't even sleep right at night (unless I have a daddi or big bubbi that's holding mee keeping me safe, then I'm happy), I have to rely on freaking benadryl to put me to sleep,or get sh*tfaced on a bong or blunt and get high as hell and fall asleep..... sometimes I just don't wanna feel anything, awhile ago I overdosed on benadryl and I was so numb, rn I'm craving that feeling but can't get it. The pain I try to numb but can't.....it tortures me, really all I want is a daddi or big bro or both that'll lemme b babi 24/7 that doesn't creep me out or isn't 20-30 years older than me, but it's so hard to find and I jus don't know why, I just wanna lose control and become helpless, and have someone there who'll let me be a helpless baby but I'm afraid I'll never find that. I would be truly happy then, either that or if I fall asleep and get real numb then never wake up. But neither of those things are realistic and I don't want to accept it.oh well tho, life's a b*tch and then you die, it's not supposed to be that way but it is. Thank you for your concern and thoughts.

[LilDemonBaby]

On 5/23/2018 at 10:56 AM, Misha said:

I firmly believe it shouldn't be assumed that someone has "daddy issues" just because they are a little/middle. I'm also into D/s, petplay, and other kinks. If those kinks don't automatically result in someone assuming it must be because of some childhood trauma or mental problem, why does my involvement in DD/lg have to flip that switch in the minds of others? I can see how it's possible that it might be the case for some people, but I think it's really narrow-minded that so many people think that every little MUST have daddy issues and that's the only reason they are a little. /endrant

 

i firmly agree! there are so many reasons that ddlg can be a part of someones life. i myself have a few reasons of my own beyond it being a kink. That being said, i dont know if it counts as "daddy issues," but i never actually had a father figure myself. before i was adopted by an elderly, twice divorced woman, i had been made to visit a  man cps CLAIMED was my father. no dna tests or anything. keep in mind i dont look anything like this man but he looks exactly like my little half brother. cps was simply desperate to get me out of the system. my bio mom did have issues  w drugs and had a tendency to bring in men that were BEYOND evil. other then that, i never got the paternal care that many did. i dont resent it, but i wonder what my life would have been like if i did have a dad. i do also wonder if that is a small part of why i like ddlg, and if so, is it really a bad thing? wanting a man who cares and wants your happiness shouldnt be a bad thing, even if it is in unconventional ways. so long as its not toxic.