Little space at work - Help!

[Guest Little Otter]

Hi,

 

So some back story, just got out of a relationship. My ex works at the same job as I. It has been fine, we've worked together well until recently. One of my closest friends who happens to also be my protege' and assistant at work I found out last week that he and my ex had an 8 month on-again, off-again relationship last year while we were together. My ex is a little, and hes a DD and since he was at my house almost every weekend, they figured this out in each other (I didn't know he was DD, they decided to hide that from me until after the breakup). So the next day I told my manager the whole story and asked for a couple days off work. She gave me the week off, and she was even shocked I didn't cause a scene or quit.

 

I start work again tomorrow and I'm kinda scared to work next to him, and with my ex. I've spent most of these 5 days in little space simply cuz I can't cope right now, but I can't get into little space well at work. I'm worried I'll collapse emotionally. I love my job, I have a bright future here, and my managers have been great to me always. My former friend is quitting soon anyways and moving back to his home state (apparently he's upset my ex wouldn't hookup with him after our breakup and he turned into a mild stalker!) 

 

What tricks or tips do you have that can help with getting into little space, or just feeling little at all while at work? I did buy this lil' squishy car from the movie Cars, it's super cute and squishy and fun to play with, but to ensure I can be OK tomorrow I may need more than just that. 

 

Thanks for reading, you're all so wonderful <3

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

To be honest, I think you should find another way to cope at work. Work is work and in my opinion, not the place for being little. Try breathing and grounding exercises when you get overwhelmed, maybe some soothing music/nature sounds if you can listen to the radio.

[Guest Little Otter]

Youre probably right, but being depressed at work sucks and makes me unfunctional, so I figured better be happy and less-functioning than depressed and less-functioning. Im not an angry or aggressive person so I know Ill work with them professionally, but its just gonna be tough.

[TeaPartyBaby]

Youre probably right, but being depressed at work sucks and makes me unfunctional, so I figured better be happy and less-functioning than depressed and less-functioning. Im not an angry or aggressive person so I know Ill work with them professionally, but its just gonna be tough.

i wouldnt .. i find myself wanting to slip into little space at work all the time (i work in a toy store!) And its not good, i have to supress it... what i say to myself is "when i get home i can make myself a big bubble bath, but ive gotta be big right now" and it really helps.

 

Its like any other kink... it wouldnt be acceptable for me to come into work in full bdsm clothing so i keep little space outta work too

[Guest vegan freebird]

I'm really not sure if slipping into littlespace to help you at work, is the best idea.

I know you feel better/happier in littlespace; but perhaps dealing with all this directly, IRL,

will help you process and move on more effectively & quickly.

Just something for your consideration. Good luck whatever you decide though

[Guest Little Otter]

Omgosh OK being little isnt just a kink for me! I mean, it is that too when Mommys involved, but its just a goody squishy feeling inside where I "feel" cute and happy and little. Not always sexy time!

[Guest Little Otter]

And TY freebird!

 

Ugh I guess you all are right though. Its just a lot to deal with, on top of my pre-existing depression and anxiety.

[Guest BabyPeach]

Omgosh OK being little isnt just a kink for me! I mean, it is that too when Mommys involved, but its just a goody squishy feeling inside where I "feel" cute and happy and little. Not always sexy time!

 

Same.  I'm basically 10% (or more) little and 90% adult (or less) ALL the time.  Little me is just a total part of me.  Of course, I can be completely little in little space, but the adult world isn't little space.  Some things at work that make me feel little are: sitting in an office chair that's too tall and swinging my feet back and forth. Knowing I have on cute panties and sockies! Cute pens (even adults like cute pens). Vibrant colored Sharpies. A tiny toy in my pocket. A cute snack like fruit snacks or apples chopped up. I have a little stuffie on my desk (my coworkers know I'm girly and love things like Hello Kitty so it isn't strange to them). 

[Guest BabyPeach]

I also want to say that I'm sorry that happened to you.  Just take it day by day and it will eventually get easier.  Wishing you a good first day back and sending you lots of strength.  Remember, adult you NEEDS a job.  If it gets too stressful, you can always look for another one.  It's always best to look while you still have a job (easier to find one) or at least give a two week notice.  Hugs!

[Guest Little Otter]

Tysm Baby Peach ur awesome. <3

 

Yes I just bought a house so I need this job for sure! I wont quit, screw them THEY can quit!

 

I do have stuffies on my desk my ex gave me of my fave animals, had them there a year before I knew I was a little

 

Thats what Im trying to do, operate a bit in little space. I do that normally even when Im in public like shopping or something (or rn at the mall!!).

[TeaPartyBaby]

Hi sorry i didnt mean that as in its a sexual thing! I meant it as in sometimes you gotta act like someone you arent at work unfortunately

It sucks i know but personally id feel way more vulnerable in little space and working too... id be slipping put of it every time someone spoke adulty to me and i haaaate falling out of little space

[Barbiedolly]

 Pretty pens, with little chains/keyring on the end of it

Cute dolly panties and bra on

Little crackers/lunchables/nibbles

Write a little note that morning with list of little things you are going to do when you get home, so you have this to look forward to, also have everything set out and ready, like dvds, stuffies, snacks, blankies, so that when you get home you can go straight into little space, and have recovery time and be relaxed

Wear pretty nail polish like a baby pink, or have a manicure, so while you are working you can look at your nails and feel all cute and dolly

Shoes. I find heels with a little t bar clasp, like mary janes, can feel quite dolly and little

Bubblegum to chew on while working

Wear a pretty scent, I find girly/floraly sprays make me feel little, the Charlie pink spray is very cheap or Soap and glory body mists, instantly give me a little boost of oohh and that little girl feeling!

 

Hope these help! x 

Edited April 8, 2018 by Barbiedolly

[Guest Little Otter]

 Pretty pens, with little chains/keyring on the end of it

Cute dolly panties and bra on

Little crackers/lunchables/nibbles

Write a little note that morning with list of little things you are going to do when you get home, so you have this to look forward to, also have everything set out and ready, like dvds, stuffies, snacks, blankies, so that when you get home you can go straight into little space, and have recovery time and be relaxed

Wear pretty nail polish like a baby pink, or have a manicure, so while you are working you can look at your nails and feel all cute and dolly

Shoes. I find heels with a little t bar clasp, like mary janes, can feel quite dolly and little

Bubblegum to chew on while working

Wear a pretty scent, I find girly/floraly sprays make me feel little, the Charlie pink spray is very cheap or Soap and glory body mists, instantly give me a little boost of oohh and that little girl feeling!

 

Hope these help! x 

 

I'm a boy! 

 

But I can use some of these suggestions, TYSM <3

[Barbiedolly]

I'm a boy! 

 

But I can use some of these suggestions, TYSM <3

ohh!! im a silly girl!! hehe me sorry

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

Hey Otter,

 

Man, that situation sucks.  You are right though, THEY can quit.  Fuckers. 

 

Personally, I really like to have several different shades of pens available at work along with brightly colored post-it notes.  Is there any chance of someone walking off with your pens?  If so, you can mark them in a fun way and just tell anyone who asks that you are trying to thwart thievery.  Notepads with otters or dragons on them. Not sure what your lunch situation is, but I would take that time to rest and recharge.  Watch funny youtube videos with puppies and other cuties that make you laugh and smile.  Bracelet - something that looks benign on the outside but on the part facing your skin has a cute saying or picture.  This might sound weird, but is there a way for you to turn your work day into a game or a treasure hunt?  Because it is possible to be in that headspace without looking like you are.  And if things get really tough, just imagine all of the fun things you get to do when you get home.

 

It sounds like these is a serious possibility that you will be stuck acting civilly to these people.  In a situation like that, I would keep a private notebook handy at all times.  Whenever I feel hurt, angry, or upset, I would write it down because purging the negativity really does help me feel better.

 

Hopefully these topics will give you some more ideas:

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/24161-being-little-in-college/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/23676-being-little-in-public-discreetly/

[Guest Little Otter]

Hey Otter,

 

Man, that situation sucks.  You are right though, THEY can quit.  F***ers

 

Personally, I really like to have several different shades of pens available at work along with brightly colored post-it notes.  Is there any chance of someone walking off with your pens?  If so, you can mark them in a fun way and just tell anyone who asks that you are trying to thwart thievery.  Notepads with otters or dragons on them. Not sure what your lunch situation is, but I would take that time to rest and recharge.  Watch funny youtube videos with puppies and other cuties that make you laugh and smile.  Bracelet - something that looks benign on the outside but on the part facing your skin has a cute saying or picture.  This might sound weird, but is there a way for you to turn your work day into a game or a treasure hunt?  Because it is possible to be in that headspace without looking like you are.  And if things get really tough, just imagine all of the fun things you get to do when you get home.

 

It sounds like these is a serious possibility that you will be stuck acting civilly to these people.  In a situation like that, I would keep a private notebook handy at all times.  Whenever I feel hurt, angry, or upset, I would write it down because purging the negativity really does help me feel better.

 

Hopefully these topics will give you some more ideas:

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/24161-being-little-in-college/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/23676-being-little-in-public-discreetly/

 

OMGosh I got a little excited when you said "treasure hunt"! Well, I work in an office in a "quartercle" (like a cubicle, but not quite a cube). I am glued to my desk most the day because Im an analyst, I basically read a billion things per day, analyze, interpret, and provide solutions. As well, the guy mentioned in my post is my protege' and I have to train him periodically, though I'm scaling back on that cuz he told me he plans to quit in June. I do get 2x 15min breaks and a 30min lunch. Plus, I can leave my desk randomly on occasion for bathroom or water or something outside that if need be. 

 

So, could you elaborate on the treasure hunt idea? That's kinda fun.

[Guest Little Otter]

Also, one thing about being LB that kinda sucks is that girls can do "little things" publicly that boys can't. Even our counterpart little interests don't convert to social situations well, such as this cute light blue phone cover that has a little teddy bear on it I was looking at. I don't think I could do that without raising some eyebrows and garnering some questions. So I have to kinda think outside the box. 

 

Ps: Please don't interpret this as one-ups-manship, it's just the reality I've gathered from reading different pieces of advice on this through the forum. I don't mean it that way at all.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

Women can get away with girly stuff that men cannot. I totally get that and am hopeful the younger generation will change it. Until then, we will try to get you as comfortable and happy as we can.

 

When I was younger, my parents set up a treasure hunt one birthday. I had a map and clues and found the buried treasure at the end. It sounds like your mobility is limited, but maybe we can work with that. Two breaks and a lunch. Is there something you can do instead of your normal routine? Something like:

 

-take a quick walk and pick a flower. Or take a picture of the prettiest thing you see? Or the coolest spider web? Or a funny looking bug?

 

-vending machines for candy. Because candy

 

-go find a room in the building that you have never been in before. Pretend you are a pirate seeking the best place to hide your buried treasure.

 

-play a practical joke one someone. Hide their office supplies, move their chair, post a set of eyes above their desk, or hide a snake in their drawer.

 

That is all I can think of for now. You can check off each item as you complete it and then go pick up your buried treasure on the way home. A cake or new stuffy or something.

 

If anyone else has ideas to expand on this, it would be greatly appreciated.

[Guest Little Otter]

Women can get away with girly stuff that men cannot. I totally get that and am hopeful the younger generation will change it. Until then, we will try to get you as comfortable and happy as we can.

 

When I was younger, my parents set up a treasure hunt one birthday. I had a map and clues and found the buried treasure at the end. It sounds like your mobility is limited, but maybe we can work with that. Two breaks and a lunch. Is there something you can do instead of your normal routine? Something like:

 

-take a quick walk and pick a flower. Or take a picture of the prettiest thing you see? Or the coolest spider web? Or a funny looking bug?

 

-vending machines for candy. Because candy

 

-go find a room in the building that you have never been in before. Pretend you are a pirate seeking the best place to hide your buried treasure.

 

-play a practical joke one someone. Hide their office supplies, move their chair, post a set of eyes above their desk, or hide a snake in their drawer.

 

That is all I can think of for now. You can check off each item as you complete it and then go pick up your buried treasure on the way home. A cake or new stuffy or something.

 

If anyone else has ideas to expand on this, it would be greatly appreciated.

 

Yes it's frustrating. TBH I partially blame these weird gender expectations for my repressed little side for 30 years > That's neither here nor there, though. I am at this point now and it's all uphill

 

Oooh OK I like all those ideas. I did take a pic of a cute bunny I saw at work once! My building is HUGE, I work for a big company so there's hundreds of rooms to go searching for! OK I think that's what Ill do first. I'll leave early for all my meetings and go searching around, maybe Ill find some neat stuff

 

Tysm, you're super creative I wouldn't have thought of any of that!