little/little switch relationship: I need advice

[kleinemaus]

Me and my partner both identify as little and as switches.

I am collared and he owns me, I see myself as an owned switch rather than a sub (I am his posession but can be in charge if he or I want that)

From a sexual bedroom perspective that works really well so far. If I top in the bedroom I am just as satisfied as when I bottom. We either decide spontanously who tops or play a game and the winner is the one who tops.

For daily life stuff we both have rules and encourage each other to follow them and punish each other if one of us didn't follow a rule.

I am a very independent little I have my daily rituals and when I am at home I am always a little.

There are certain things we do daily:

I am always on a leash or tied up when we watch TV, he keeps me company when I read as my little boy/kitten and whoever needs to go to bed earlier gets a bedtime story and goodnight cuddles.

 

During the last month or so he was more little than usual and I love it very much. The thing is I miss my little space and little personality and can't be a caregiver 24/7.

 

So I would like to change our dynamic to me being the sister caregiver and him being my little brother. Who is in charge in this dynamic doesn't really matter to me and is flexible. We already have that dynamic to an extend I just want to intensify it.

Do you have any ideas for routines or scenarios?

I just need some inpiration and more things that help me take care of him but also be little at the same time.

[Guest BabyPeach]

Being sister and brother is great because you can play together as littles.  You could create a fictional "Daddy" character so that you could tell him things, but not have to be the Mommy telling him.  For example: "Daddy said not to jump on the bed!!"  Siblings are always bossy like that.

 

He could call you sissy (sister) instead of Mommy. You could call him bubba (brother) instead of by name.

 

If you are older in little space, that's great because you can guide him but still be little yourself.  You could suggest things like "let's color together" or tell him since you're a "big girl", Daddy said that you can make the snacks, run the bath, etc. for him and yourself.  Or take fictional "Daddy" out of it and just say since you're older or a "big girl" you can do it.

 

Use it as a teaching opportunity.  Unless he's an infant in little space, encourage him to make the snacks, etc. while you supervise.  This way you can both share in the caregiver chores but still be little.

[kleinemaus]

I really like your ideas. I struggle a little bit with the whole being an owned switch and now caregiver but maybe this is not as contradicting as I think it is. Caring for someone just seems so dominating to me. I am ok with topping but I like being owned. I like the names. He calls me sissy now and I usually call him babybrother. Or baby.I was dominant with my exgirlfriend but after the breakup I discovered that I am a switch and like both. Maybe my caring for him could also be an act of submission when I am in the mood for that.