Big Daddy Smillie Posted April 5, 2018 Report Posted April 5, 2018 So there is this creepy guy who keeps giving my little girl gifts and even made the effort to find her place of work. The guys really creeping my girl out and isn't understanding that he's crossing a line that has been made pretty clear to him. Obviously I want to break his neck or bury him alive but its an LDR. Is there anything anyone can think of to help me and my baby deal with this situation?
Guest SweetPurpleCherry Posted April 5, 2018 Report Posted April 5, 2018 Well... i think she should file a complaint. How did he meet your little? Did she clearly tell him that she's not interested? Did she refuse those little gifts he made? Accepting anything from this kind of men, even smiling at them or small-talking to them, leaves the door open. Unfortunately they tend to assume that the girl/woman is interested. 1
RavenclawPrincess Posted April 5, 2018 Report Posted April 5, 2018 Yeah she needs to cut ties and file a report on that guy. Harassment/stalking is generally illegal and you guys should make a point to document everything that happens. 1
Guest Zephy Posted April 5, 2018 Report Posted April 5, 2018 I'm sorry, but why hasn't she reported him yet, told her parents, people at her workplace, friends, etc.? Surely I would assume it's something one would suggest. Because this isn't about crossing a line, this is clear out dangerous behavior from a person and raises all kinds of alarms. This also raises the question, does she really feel bothered by this or she seemed to like the attention she's getting from both sides? Or maybe this dude doesn't even exist and she just like getting you all riled up, seeing your emotions all over the place just for her. 1
CaresAlot Posted April 5, 2018 Report Posted April 5, 2018 Some guys think that they can do what they want and there are no consequences. So you have to send a very clear message. I've had to deal with something similar. We filed a police report and made a copy. Took all the crap he sent her burned it half way and put it in a box and wrapped it as a birthday present. We sent him a letter along with copy of part of the police report. Letter basically said: Dear Friends and Family. This guy - we inserted his name, picture and address and where he worked. This guy has been harassing and stalking me and will not stop. If I receive any kind of contact from him I will let you know. Please use your contacts and abilities to send him, his friends, family and employer a message that I want absolutely nothing to do with him. The police will also be following up as well. I have blocked all contact and hope to never hear from him again, if he does I will let you know. He never did contact her again. Sending the gifts back and a clear and unambiguous message does wonder. These guys are usually cowards. and think that no means yes if they have even the slightest hint like accepting the gifts. This is how you can help from anywhere. 2
baby_k Posted April 5, 2018 Report Posted April 5, 2018 (edited) As said above: document EVERYTHING. Just in case But just like @Zephy said: is she absolutely honest on how she treats that (possible) creep? It is easy to say that "some creepy dude just keeps bringing me gifts!" and in the actual situation just giggle away and encourage the behaviour. Depending on the degree of creepyness (some people are just socially awkward and some are insane serial killer types...) and the situation: A ) clearly communicate that the dude is being a creep and his attention is not wanted - in nice and calm manner or totally bashing the person and scolding him if he is not understanding that his attention is not needed - do step B after that and stick to it! B ) just ignore the dude totally, most people stop after there is no reaction for while (but this can easily take half year in my experience) C ) if he really is super creepy (specially if he came out of nowhere and his behaviour has not been encouraged in any point or there is any worrysome features in his words or actions): police I once made a creepy person cry as I totally lost it when he was not getting my "hints" that i was not interested to have his presense around me. He left me in peace after that, so in that way it was asuccess.... but I felt really bad for bashing him brutally. Maybe little less would have been enough. :/ So, try to remember that the other person is a humanbeing also with emotions. Edit: my list got some unwanted smily faces into it XD Edited April 5, 2018 by baby_k 1
Guest PrincessPengin34 Posted April 6, 2018 Report Posted April 6, 2018 (edited) My boss, parents, friends and local police are aware now and we're going to get a restraining order if he does it again... He gave me a hand knitted scarf his grandma made and gave me an autographed picture of my favorite actor and a necklace to match my charm bracelet my parents got me... All this after blocking his number and telling him to leave me alone because he had created this idea in his mind we were engaged... It was an overall just weird experience. Also I'm carrying around pepper spray too just in case... Daddy's really protective and I wanted him to be aware of what's going on but I hate that it hurts him too By the way my daddy is the one who made this post in case of any confusion Edited April 6, 2018 by PrincessWinnie34 3
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