So I'm so sensitive to what anyone says.

[Guest littlegirl707]

So I'm just wondering if any or all you littles out there are super sensitive to what people say to you. Or around you. Do you get hurt easy or take everything personal??? 

 

I seem to even tho my adult side knows its not always me. My little side its all your fault. 

 

What do you do to change that? 

[Guest Lissy Lu]

I've always been a sensitive person. Even if it's just joking around, I know that it's just joking, but I could still end up crying... I've always found it ridiculous that I can't seem to handle that, but I just can't help it

[Guest littlegirl707]

Yeah i feel like it might have to being little too.

[Guest Silent_Rose]

I'm a little but I'm not very sensitive when it comes to verbal. I don't often take things personal because I personally see it as unnecessary on my part. But I was raised harsh some have commented so that may be a factor. I often take comments around or towards me pretty nonchalant. So I would say it varies person to person not just a little thing.

[PrincessPear]

I'm also a very sensitive person. I find that it helps to try to not take everything so personally. I've had to work at it, but I've gotten better with effort.

 

Being sensitive can also be a good thing, so don't let your sensitive self die out. Just develop a thicker skin for protection.

[baby_k]

This is an interesting topic. I would not describe myself as too sensitive, even occasionally, and specially if already on the edge, I can get really easily upset but it is more about the POSSIBLE ideas behind words, not so much the words themselves.

 

What other people say and do should be seen more as their representation of themselves than you. This however is harder to do than say. Also upset often is imo more about what you THINK the other one MIGHT mean, not what they actually mean. So, I guess it relates to selfesteem in someways.

 

I used to once work as a manager in one really toxic work environment. There was shouting, people calling you with names, back stabbing, actual stabbing... You name it But there I did develop this thick skin (which starts to be worn out and gone now as I don't normally need it at all). It was actually somewhat easy to take all the nastiness as you got used to it and I had the role of a manager: people could shout at me but people in my team were off limits. So, I took the punches for them, and this probably protected me a lot mentally there and I did not take things personally. It is easier to defend others than yourself, sort of. And if you see it as your job to deal with all sorts of crap, it distances you from what is happening.

 

But distancing yourself and creating a protective shield are..... not too great options in my opinion. Maybe it is about mastering the balance with those and being sensitive but I felt that I also lost connection to my job while I got really good with not letting things affect me. I did good job but I was not that passionate about it, I just did what needed to be done but I did not truly care about my work anymore. After I realised that, I quit. Because I want to work for a cause, work for my passions, feel connected with what I do. Not be a robot. Not just survive.

 

So, donno. If random person says something randomly nasty to you, no point getting upset with it, that will just take tons of energy and for what? No reason really. But is it just thicker skin or should we be able to see that has those things any meaning in grander scale? Thicker skin means often that you don't care which can be healthy but also it makes people cold.... Being sensitive is really great trait as long as it does not bring you down all the time.

 

( Sorry, bit messy post as I don't have any clear view on this... :/ Would love to hear other opinions or thoughts on these )

[XmochiX]

I am very sensitive, but I've taught myself to be less so. I used to get in a lot of trouble because of it and start fights and arguments, but I've learned when to just walk away.

[Guest Samibubbles]

Yes! I take literally take things personally, when someone has a fight with me or say rude things to me. And I wouldn’t let sh** go quickly. Edited April 6, 2018 by Samibubbles

[Guest littlegirl707]

Thank you everyone for your responses. I am working on getting toxic people out of my life too.