Not feeling "cute" or little enough as a LB

[Guest Little Otter]

This may be weird...

 

But as a man, I dont feel very cute or little. Like, when I look at myself in the mirror. Or become self-aware when acting cute or little.

 

I mean, you can see my pic in my profile and Im just not a cute-looking person. I want to be seen that way in certain circles of my life, like here, in private, to my Mommy, or my IRL LG friend.

 

Otherwise, Im very stoic, kinda stern, reserved, objective, intelligent, strong, muscular, etc. I like the genpop to view me this way, its a good way to socially interact I think. Plus I do love powerlifting, its a huge part of my life.

 

Unfortunately, it inhibits my little-side on occasion, and causes identity issues. Like Im too masculine-looking to be cute. I feel some sense of shame when I feel little and realize I dont look little.

 

I looked at some adorable collars online cuz Id like that eventually with the right person, but when I imagined what Id look like wearing one, I didnt feel little at all and I just stopped thinking about it

 

Im kinda just venting here, but maybe others feel the same way?

[TeaPartyBaby]

I know how you feel , i put in circle lenses to give me big baby eyes for when i see myself.. im losing weight too so i can feel smaller in little space. Maybe in little space dont go near mirrors for a while? It sounds extreme but little space is a feeling.. not a seeing yourself. Sometimes i babble to myself and reach up at plushies i put on a high shelf to feel small. Try that, making yourself feel small.. get giant stuffies, adult pacis ect..

[Guest Little Otter]

Ooh I am only 5'7", short for a guy, so maybe having things high up will help! And yes, I actually took all the mirrors in my house down except bathroom cuz I have image issues even outside of this. Just happened last night when I was brushing my teeth, and then various other moments through the day.

 

Ty! <3

[baby_k]

Stalked your pic, and I think you look cute

Umh, okay, personal story:

 

I really love all these cutecute japanese lolita things. However, in most I would look silly (in my opinion) as this overly cute even childish style just does not fit my adultlike features, pale pink for example does not compliment my skin at all, and so on.

 

How I solved this? I just started finding stuff that makes me look good. It may not be the cute pink bell shaped dress that would make me mainly feel uncomfortable but something more simple. Main point is: if it makes you FEEL good, then that is the thing. And it may not always be the thing you think looks cute that makes you FEEL cute.

 

So, start paying attention to what makes you feel cute and when you feel cute. As let's face it: you are cute, just need to make you see it also better

This is mainly between your ears imo, but sometimes we may need a bit of materialistic help to feel cute/pretty/handsome. Like if you ever have hear the story of a poor girl who went to a shop where the seller put this amazing ribbon to her hair and she just looked sooo beautiful. After paying for the ribbon she noticed that everybody were looking at her with admiration. But later she noticed that she had actually dropped the ribbon to the shop, and people just started to notice her because she felt beautiful (and maybe because she started noticing people noticing her...).

[Guest Little Otter]

First off... Awww tysm

 

Maybe thats what I should do too. Im new to being a LB, so I dont have a lot of cute or childish things yet. Im still figuring myself out, what appeals to me the most, what makes me feel little, etc. I get so self conscious when I look in a mirror, or even when I send pics to Mommy, I dont feel Im cute or little at all.

 

I do find that light blue makes me feel little and adorable. Its kind of a new favorite color, even though its never been aesthetically appealing before. I should maybe go on a shopping spree and buy some new clothes to reflect that. 

 

Thanks!

[Ilovemypaci]

I found that feeling cute was a big problem for me too. I am a pretty big guy so it can be hard convincing myself to feel like a little boy. 

 

What I did was find some accessories that I liked (paci and cat ears are my absolute favorites right now, blankie and stuffie to seal the deal) and then looked at myself in the mirror and got used to how I looked.

 

After a while I started seeing a cute little boy in the mirror instead of a 6 foot tall big guy.

 

Get used to how you look cause YOU are cute :3 you just don't know it yourself yet. <3

 

Another thing that helps me feel cute is my amazing, reassuring Mommy <3 she always calls me a cute little boy and showers me with affection, which made it easier to actually start feeling cute and comfortable being little.

[SpaceArmadillo]

I know how you feel as well. I’m really tall and I don’t fee “little” when I look at myself. When I think of “little” I don’t see myself. I’m almost as tall as my daddy and I have wide hips and a very very large chest, but I’m also skinny so I never feel cute. I feel oddly proportioned and too big to be little and on days when I’m self conscious it can definitely keep me from feeling like a valid little. But to combat that on good days I remind myself that everyone is different and just because I don’t look like other kitties doesn’t mean I’m not one. My daddy loves me and reminds me every day that I am cute and that I am little and my friend that is also a little treats me the same as any other little. Just try to find friends in the community and it will help