He seems like a part time daddy...

[DaddysPrincess94]

Hi Littles

 

I am new to the site and looking to make some friends!

 

My boyfriends seems like a part time daddy, some days it comes naturally and I feel like he enjoys it and other days he isn’t daddy at all! Do you think he is trying it to make me happy or can I help him become daddy full time?

 

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[Princessspankies]

Hello. I understand where you are coming from. My daddy is a part time daddy because he is busy with work and he runs his own business so I just cut off dd/lg from our relationship. He doesn't fulfill my little needs anymore. I have become depressed because of it. Maybe your daddy is trying to get used to being a daddy. He will get better with time. 

[Guest QueenPrincess]

It might be as simple as he likes being daddy sometimes and not others, but you should really ask him. What if he is just doing it to make you happy but everyone on this forum tells you otherwise? That would be a sucky situation to put him in.

 

Nope, there's nothing you can do to make him a full-time daddy if he just doesn't want to. You can let him know that's what you want though. Might make it easier to decide if you're compatible off the bat

[DaddysPrincess94]

I have talked to him but he just says that he likes it and wants to do it but then doesn’t hopefully it just takes time to adjust.

 

Princessspankies I know how you feel I am depressed and on medication just so hard to work out where I stand, he’s very shy so I just can’t tell!

[Guest Daffodil]

i think you should have an adult to adult conversation with him, if he wants to try it, just keep talking to him! maybe he's just shy? some daddy's are

[Little Illy]

*Waves*

 

So I hate to be that person, but there is a flaw in this mindset. There should never be a thought of "making" someone be an identity that they don't do naturally. And no one should ever try.

 

It is a good chance a few things are happening:

 

1. He enjoys the role intermittently and doesn't want it to be a seriuos and massive part of his life.

 

2. He is new to the dynamic and is trying to come to terms with what it means to him.

 

3. He believes he is being a full time Daddy because he doesn't know otherwise.

 

4. He isn't compatible for your needs.

 

As it has been stated, the only way you are going to know is if you sit down and have and adult chat with him. And be willing to hear him out. He might not even like the dynamic all that much but does it to just make you happy. No one knows what is going on in your dynamic other than you and him - so you two have to come together to understand what is happening.

 

Here is a piece that could be helpful in finding out where you are at with your identity as a little and may help him understand what he identifies with. And if it helps him, then once he knows who he is (more or less) it will be easier for you two moving forward in your relationship. Here is the thread: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12897-ddlg-the-serious-end-of-things/ (SFW). 

 

Best of luck.

[RavenclawPrincess]

Listen to Illy!!

 

Just my opinion based on what you've told us, it sounds like he's trying to meet your needs the best he can for where he's at right now. Currently, my daddy is away from home for a long period of time and I only get to speak to him once a week. It sucks but right now he's forced to be less than a part-time daddy for a legitimate reason. We're used to being in our dynamic 24/7 so it's tough on both of us BUT it's happening for good reason. My go-to assumption at this point is he is always doing the best he can for us, even when all of my needs/wants aren't being met. Definitely try to adopt that mindset so you can focus on being happy about what you DO have with your daddy rather than getting upset because things aren't 100% to your liking.

[DollDirector]

I agree with Little IIIy that you can't make someone a daddy or a little,and am close to thinking that it's like you can't make someone gay or not gay.

 

Another thought is,that in this day and age where we all have to be perfect machines we can start blaming ourselves and/or our partners for things that are in fact pressure imposed on us by flawed systems. Perhaps your daddy is having,say,a hard time at work. In these circumstances the best mindset is the one RavenclawPrincess suggests,and the worst is trying to make him this or that,you'll loose chances of having him open up.