Have you ever told anyone?

[junebug0325]

I haven't told anyone about my DDLG lifestyle but I have told her I was interested in bondage. Eventually, I will tell her about my lifestyle but I want to find a mommy/daddy first and bring it up in a conversation that way rather than just telling her straight out. Any suggestions?

[imdaddyslittledolly]

i told my best friend then she wasn't my friend anymore smh

[BunnyNotKitten]

Nope. The only person that knows is my husband/Daddy, and that's all that ever will. Someone I was close friends with a few years ago mentioned that her ex bf was a Daddy Dom and the way she said it was so disgusted that I'd rather just keep it to myself. I know that's just one negative person, but I considered her a very forward thinking and open person before that. If she of all the people I know could be judgmental of something like that, I don't have much faith in anyone else.

[Guest Daddy_Dominus]

My experience telling people has had some serious ups and downs. Pretty much everyone I know, knows I'm kinky... Kinda hard to hide all that rope, chains, spreader bars, canes ex. But not many people know I'm a daddy dom. I grew up a pastors kid... You can guess how that would go if they found out. Some of my siblings know, they reacted as you would expect, I'm the oldest so they look up to me regardless. My friends though... That's a different story. I've had vinilla people totally understand and can see it in my personality. They seem to be more surprised that there's a name for what I am. And I've had fellow kinky friends call me an abusive asshole because they had a bad experience with a daddy other then myself. I work with my ex's dad... If he found out I'd be a dead man by morning.

[princessfreckles]

No they don't for a few reasons. 

1) Of my closest friends, two are super vanilla (and pretty close minded), one is still a virgin, and one might hear me out. The rest of my friends I don't feel close enough to open up to them. I've had a lot of friends in my past lose my trust by telling my secrets. 

2) I'm afraid of the reactions of my friends, especially the close minded ones. I don't want to scare the virgin! The one who might hear me out has a very hectic life as she's the mother of a toddler. 

3) I'm not sure I could handle the followup questions because I'm still learning about myself as a middle. 

 

I only mentioned opening up to my friends because my family is extremely conservative and doesn't talk about sex (they think I'm still a virgin). Also, they're judgmental of things they don't understand so the less they know about my life the better. 

 

I definitely agree with your last statement. I would be such a weight lifted off my shoulders if I could just be able to talk openly about it with one person IRL, because I hate keeping secrets from my friends.

[PrincessPear]

My daddy, my boyfriend, my girlfriend, and as of a couple days ago, one of my best friends now knows I'm a little/middle. All of them are okay with it.

[Guest Little Otter]

My ex is a little, thats how I found this and eventually that Im a little. <3

 

My friend is a DD, he told me just recently so I told him Im a little.

 

I can't tell too many ppl. My closest friend of 15 years dislikes DDLG he says bad things about it a bunch, it makes me such an angry little boy >

 

So 2 ppl know IRL. And they're both in the community anyways.

 

I told my ex that I hope we can be friends later on and I can be like her big brother, that made her smile.

[Babypinklittle1]

My best friend of 8 years is going to be visiting me for 5 days and I’m considering telling her. I haven’t had to not be little for more than 24 hours yet and I’m usually in little space 85% of the day. She’ll be sleeping in my bed with me while she’s here and the only time I’ll get to try and be little is when she’s showering. It’s become a huge part of my life over the last few months and it feels weird hiding such a big part of me from her. I want to tell her, but don’t know how she’ll take it. So have you ever told a friend? How did they take it?

[Angel24]

I've told pretty much all my friends and family. Most of my friends were supportive, minus a couple close-minded ones. My family on the other hand haven't been much accepting but I'm pretty much not giving them a choice, haha For me, I just got tired of hiding what was making me happy and so I'm pretty open about it. That being said, I would never intentionally shove it in someone's face since I know not everyone is comfortable with if. If you feel like you need to, I say do it:) If she doesn't take it well, you could always just promise not to be little around her, but I'm sure your friend will accept you:) Good luck!!

[Bigben9989]

I am a daddy Not a little so the correlation prob isn't the same

but I have been friends with a guy i know for years and I told him about my ddlg relationships and he looked at me and said 
You do you 

So true friends don't care what it is 

[Princessspankies]

No I haven't. I get judged already for dating older men. My mom would probably disown me if I told her lbvs. My family is very close minded so I just keep it to myself. I am a little with my daddy and with family I am a big girl. My family see's me as Del the future nurse, she goes to college and handles her business and that is fine with me because it keeps the peace I guess.

[Guest BabyPeach]

The only person who knows is my sister and she doesn't understand (or refuses to) even though I've tried to explain it to her.  She thinks it's weird and gross and she feels uncomfortable talking about any aspect of it, so we don't.  It's a 50/50 toss up.  You know your friend better than we do.  It hasn't damaged my relationship with my sister, btw, but it also isn't ever mentioned (at her request).  I will not tell anyone else.

[Guest Daffodil]

I don't bother telling people, because for me its a relationship between me and my daddy, i don't feel a need to tell anyone. I mean if i know someone is part of the DDlg or the BDSM community i might mentioned it. 

But personally i don't see point. i don't gain anything from telling people. My little space is different to what i think some other little's are like... i am an older little, and i'm always at least 10% little all the time so i don't go from like 100% adult to 100% little like i think some do. i'll still have all my stuffs out regardless who is around. I don't hide anything, but i also don't make anything really obvious? i just do what comes naturally to me and what makes me happy. 

I don't think my family would be okay with it, LIKE AT ALL, but thats okay with me because it's between me and daddy, and that all i care about. As long as me and daddy are happy, i don't care about other people's opinions. 

 

This is just my personal opinion, i think you should do what your heart tells you to ♥️ everyone is different. Do what works for you. 

Good luck if you want to tell your friend, maybe you could just talk about the subject anonymously? and then maybe see how you feel?

[TimidLittlePupen]

I've told most of my true friends because it's a big part of me, and all of my true friends have always been excepting.  Admittedly there has been one or two I try and hold back a bit around, but that's just because they have anger issues and I don't handle people snapping at me well when little.  The first one I ever told was my older cousin, turned out she was little as well as her fiancé (so both were excepting). Followed, by my Tissy/momma (platonic),  she was my best friend at the beginning of high school and we knew each other for about a year and she caught on, she'd had friends like me before and was extremely excepting saying "Do what makes you happy, I'm not gonna judge and you'll still be my friend."  I was really nervous about letting her actually be around my little side at first, but she helped me actually come to accept my little side and be happy with myself.((she still helps me battle my metal issues every day))
Right before the end of our senior year some bad things happened in my life, and she let me move in with her, ((we'd been friends for 6 years at that point)), I'd only let my little side out a bit around her through out high school, and even more so after moving in, but by the time we graduated a month and a half later she'd gotten me to start being little around her...and it was the best thing ever.  At that point she had already been my Tissy ((my special nickname for her)), but I started to see her as a mom figure, my parents weren't the best and weren't that helpful in preparing me for life ((I suffer from depression, ptsd, anxiety, multi-personality disorder and, aspergers (a form of autism), and she started teaching me things I didn't understand and being there. She became the parent I'd never really had, and she was happy to be so, she loves little me, and big me, and says she wouldn't trade either for the world.  I ended up with a great life, an awesome and close friendship, and an awesome caregiver/sister all because I trusted my best friend with my little side.

​If you've been friends with her for this long and you trust her in your heart I say go for it.  Even if she's not sure how to handle it, what it is, or how to feel about it.  Talk to her explain what it is to you, and what it means to you.

[Guest Little Otter]

I'm telling everyone, one person at a time. I love my little side waaaay more than my big boy self so I just can't keep it hidden. Responses have all been positive so far!

[Guest littlegirl707]

No i wont tell anyone. I did tell my best friend it scared her and she got so mean. So now I tell noone really no one really cares about that. I dont want the judgment anyway. In america its all made fun of and there so hurtful. America is judgmental of all the little stuff and I feel its the worst to be may never be ok here. Ifr your not just straight doing just boring sex your odd here. Well all that they can have its so much more fun being little and controlled. Way more Love and unconditional love

[Guest Little Otter]

Yes everyone. The whole reason it took me so long to find myself and accept this is cuz of constant fear and shame. Now that I overcame that, its all or nothing. I even told my friend thats anti-DDLG and we talked for like 5 hours a out it, and in the end he said "I should leave the anti ddlg groups (on FB) they obviously dont know what theyre talking about."

[Babypinklittle1]

Just thought I’d give you guys a follow up, I did tell her and she was super supportive and it went great

[Guest You're adorable.]

Well, in my family we don't really discuss stuff related to relationships (or anything related to emotional stuff in general ) so nobody from my family knows. They tend to be quite judgemental about stuff (not to blame them, i can be judgemental too). And also nobody else around me does. But I usually interact with people in a way when discussing your kinks isn't really something that comes up in a conversation

 

The only people that know are the ones on the forum. (Duh )

[Elly The Evil]

Im quite open about it. I told 2 of my old classmates who used to be best friends with me at school about it, they didnt really care. I also told my big brother and my mom and they dont really care either, altough my mom started to call me cuter nicknames more often <3  My ex also knew before we got together but he wasnt into dd/lg sadly. Some gaming friends i had also knew, but i dont try to hide myself ever and sometimes my "behavior" is suspicious to them so i just go ahead and tell them if i feel like it.

 

But i guess its less difficult for me, as a trans person (that does not pass) im used to being judged/looked down upon. But over the years it just made me stronger and i found enough confidence and self acceptance by now that i stand for who i am. And everyone who dislikes me for being a little (or trans) doesnt deserve me in the first place. Id say its both a blessing and a curse, being able to stand above what people think also lets you weed out the people that might not be worth it in the first place. But then theres also less people interested in me and i get rejected more often, wich can be frustrating at times. 

 

Just be yourself, even if its hard at times. I believe in the end it is worth it.

[melodymaku]

I've told my siblings and my friends. I'm usually pretty open about it to strangers if they ask - I just don't go into extreme detail. I'll go into little space whether I have a daddy/mummy or not so they see it as more of a characteristic of me rather than exclusive to a relationship that I'm in though that also comes into play. My brothers didn't care, they were chill about it, and my friends were pretty supportive. I told my mum too, she though it was funny but not in a bad way. I'm pretty dominant in all other aspects of my life so it took her by surprise.

[tiffa]

I haven't completely stated it to anyone besides other people in the community but I explained a bit of it to my coworker who I was really close with. We both were pretty open and comfortable talking about our private lives and sex lives. I had to describe a bit to my mom when I still lived at home when she found some of my stuff. It never went over well because my mom's abusive, but I basically explained how things like my stuffed animals ad pacifiers brought me comfort and relieved lots of my anxiety.

[BabyFennecFox22]

I didn't really need to tell anyone . . .my friends kind of figured out on their own . . .I guess I just act little too much. Most people are pretty accepting of it actually, so i'm a little more comfortable with telling people now

[Marikitten]

I haven't told anyone. I brought up the kink before to an ex and ge was so against it, it kind of just kept me silent. I go into little space a lot but have no daddy for direction and I just end up feeling lost almost all the time

[Zacdak]

I've told my cousin and 2 of my best friends. None of them have made me feel bad about being a baby girl. They definitely don't understand it, but they are very accepting of my relationship with my DD.