Have you ever told anyone?

[Guest sexbreath]

I've told a select few friends... but I dont typically bring it up out of the blue. When my friends ask about what I'm into, I usually tell them about fetlife and we discuss things about the general world of kink before my being a little ever comes up.

[FirmButFair]

Ha certainly not, not because I am embarrassed of what I like but simply because its something that is personal to me.  Sites like this are great as you realise its a pretty popular fetish..... I think  .

[FirmButFair]

It's becoming pretty popular actually. Ageplay and AB/DL has been a long time fetish and from what I've seen, sissification is really common with it, so it's nice to more of a variety of genders interested in it. As for DD/lg, it's still not widely accepted in the overall BDSM community, but it's getting there and that's a good thing. It's really hit it off on Tumblr thanks to popular tags and word of mouth pretty much.

 

Agreed, it will never be accepted in general "society" however. 

[SoCalMoose]

Agreed, it will never be accepted in general "society" however. 

unless you live in japan

[special-blackbitkitten]

I've only directly told my sister but a friend of mine knows I have paci's and some people that I know irl follow my tumblr but they don't comment on it so it's all good! I wouldn't tell some people that I know though like one of my best friends because she's rather judgmental saying things like "why would you want somebody to think you were gay". My mum doesn't know either because she's super judgmental too and she'd freak out because she has bad associations with DD/lg from my sibling.

[FirmButFair]

unless you live in japan

Ha true!! But they accept electronic girlfriends there, plus the humidity would kill me!!

[SoCalMoose]

So my exgf came into town and we had lunch together to catch up (shes married with a 5month old now) and I told her I was into DD/lg and petplay, since we use to be super close and I felt I needed to talk to someone.

she was pretty accepting and more just interested in what DD/lg consisted off, since her husband is a vanilla only kinda guy. Its definitely nice to now have someone to confide in and talk to... and apparently she says one of her friends might be a little, so thats good lol

[Guest LittleAnna]

i have told 1 or 2 of my friends about it me being a little but didnt talk much about the lifestyle since they have no idea about it at all

[LunaPrincess11]

I told my sister once when we were drunk, who seemed offended almost by it, saying she didn't like anything that involves kids. Which it doesn't it's just an act, it's not like my

Boyfriend and I have feelings for children or anything. I think she took it differently since she had things happen when she was younger, so probably not the best person to tell about it I realized later thinking about it sober. I think I would tell like more of my hippie friends but that's it, it kinda put a bad taste in my mouth, as if I was doing something bad or something.

[SargeantCuddles]

I have told my closes friend. He is completely okay with it. he was extremely open minded when I told him and that's the reason why I told him lol. He let me talk and he listened and asked questions about things that I didnt clarify and went smoothly.

[Guest Harienju]

I have a few friends that know about this, but those friends are into kinky stuff too so they can't really judge me about this, haha :').

[princess.kiki]

i have told my grandma, my mother, sister, and best friend. 

my grandma... she pretty much said "what ever floats your boat." and i can tell that whenever i bring it up, i am silently judged. 

my mother... she is very understanding as she knows a lot about the BDSM world. and she yelled at me to share my stuffies (of which i do not!)

my sister... she really could care less. but she is curious on how things work. 

my best friend... i was not sure about her reaction. she was very quiet, and curious. again, silently judged. but she brought it up again a couple days later and we were speaking openly about it and aspects of it.

[captainbrill]

I told one of my closer freinds.. And my therapist. But I'm scared that people will generally not understand and be put off by this dynamic. But I have some friends that are pretty kinky/sex-positive and I'm sure they'll have an open mind.

 

Still, it's awkward for me having to hide this part of me from people.

[The Perennial Princess]

Neither my papa bear or I are much of 'friend people' so this subject wasn't something I much considered until yesterday. I had told my papa bear that I had met a girl at work that I liked and that we had spent the day talking about a myriad of subjects, the novel Lolita being one. My papa bear had then smiled and said, "Did you tell her that you are a baby and that you have a papa bear yet?" I had laughed and said I would tell her next time. I could tell that he was being serious though. Papa bear is proud to be a papa bear and I'm proud to be a baby. Both of my parents are deceased but before my mother passed she was aware that I had a desire to be a 'baby.' She however deemed it a desire to be a 'lolita' and found it cute. However, my mother was not just my mother but my best friend and we had a relationship unlike most that mothers and daughters share. I also had an acquaintance at work last year who was a male who was aware of my preferences. I'm not ashamed of who I am and am less ashamed of my relationship dynamic and don't have many people to be ashamed with in the first place. I think the decision is up to the individual and everyone has different life circumstances. I just know that I could never be embarrassed of something that makes me so happy and that goes for anything in my life. 

[TeaWhiskers]

So sorry if im doing this wrong, but anyways...

 

My best friend ever doesn't know Im part of the DDLG community and doesnt know I have a daddy or that Im a little. I want to talk to her about this stuff but i dont know how she might react or if she'll treat me any different for it. 

How do I tell people close in my life about this? (BTW: im scared out of my head about this)
 

[Tread]

Well, no one I know knows I'm part of the community. But if I had to go about it I'd start out slow and with something people are generally more understanding of. Like I'm into a kink... and then be like its a sort of bdsm except more loving. And then just explain everything. I think it really depends on the person and how accepting they are of other lifestyles. Like generally older people are still stereotypical, (though younger people are too sometimes, just saying its more common in older people)while younger people are more accepting due to the internet and most people ddon't do racial or gender slurs anymore. I have no clue if any of that made sense and its just what I would do. XC

[littlebrownkitten]

Hi! I'm new and all but saw this and thought I could give some advice since I'm thinking of telling my friends too!!

 

I agree with everyone else; that you should ease them into the subject.

 

My friends and I are really open about our personal lives and what we like and don't like, we've had many conversations about kinks and sexuality and stuff.

Once when I was with my last daddy, I told them that I have a daddy when we were having our very serious girl talk time.

 

They asked me a bunch of questions but mainly to make sure of my safety and well-being. They didn't judge me for my kink, but that's mainly because we're a very open bunch of females. I didn't tell them all the details like how i'm in the dd/lg lifestyle but I'm thinking about it. 

 

But like everyone said, it's better to go slow and tell them. 

[Guest KaydeeA]

 

I think you've got to really know your group of friends. I've learned over time that you don't have to share everything. Some people may not understand. However, I do know that every person walking around has something (a secret tattoo, likes to collect stuff, whatever ). I would wade carefully into those waters with your friends with the knowledge that you can have parts of your life that are intensely private. There is nothing wrong with that.

[Beckie]

I told my sorority big/best friend. (This is so hard to explain to people, she is my big in my sorority, like a big sister). She's a submissive with a dom who collared her. So, she wasn't exactly freaked out by it.

My sister asked me if I would call my boyfriend daddy. I told her I would.

[daddyslittletea]

Well no, and I don't feel the need to haha. It's more special when it's between the two of us. 

[Guest buddhagirl]

I don't hide or share. People honestly don't usually want to know about their friends/family's sex life. I do call him Daddy in public and around our friends, so they can make of it want they want. He is a dad, so I'm sure it just confuses most people.

[Lisa]

I, personally, would not bring up the topic if someone hasn't shown any interest or desire to know. Has she been asking questions that you couldn't answer without explaining you're in a daddy/little relationship? If not, I would not have that conversation with her. Though, for me, the daddy/little dynamic is a very intimate situation. Others may have a more casual outlook on it

[Guest pumpkinpatchPrincess]

Does your family (or family members) know about your involvement in BDSM and subgroups? 

 

What are their opinions?

 

How do you feel about them knowing/not knowing?

 

If they know, how did they find out? If they don't, do you plan on telling them? Why?

 

 

[Guest QueenJellybean]

My family knows that I'm polyamorous, but they don't know about my BDSM side. My mother once found out when I was outted a few summers ago, but the backlash was so intense that we just decided to say we aren't involved anymore. It was much easier than being subjected to how differently she looked at me and my partner. 

 

I'm glad some of my family members know about my polyamorous lifestyle because I enjoy being able to celebrate my relationships and love with them, but I honestly don't believe my sexual preferences should be any of their business, so I'm fine with them not knowing. I don't ever plan on telling them.

[Guest Prat]

They don't know, they don't care. If they did know, they wouldn't care. If they would care in a good way, great. If they would care in a bad way, I wouldn't care. But that's just me.