frustrated with Daddies!

[babygirlrose]

I have been frustrated as of lately. So many daddies on so many sites, confusing ddlg with incest and other things I won't even mention. Like you are NOT a Daddy or a Daddy Dom at all. Its soooooo frustrating. 

 

Please tell me that I'm not the only person that this happens to?

[xBabydollx]

Well its a matter of many ppl have many definitions for various things. Some ppl claim to be a title even when they don't fit the description. It can be done out of malice, or not. Ignorance, or not. It is frustrating and familiar, but u just have to find someone who share the same definition, ideals, and expectations as u do. Just like finding the 'perfect' gf or bf is hard, DD/lg is the same way. Difficult and frustrating, but worth it in the end when u finally meet someone on the same page as u.

[Little Illy]

This is kinda where I laugh (not at you!!!!!!!!). But like.... CG/l is literally like any other relationship, and I do find it funny that just because we use the words "Mommy, Daddy, baby, prince, princess, etc" that people are shocked when stuff like this happens.

 

These fakes would not be flooding the community if people would actually take their time to get to know one another instead of just jumping into a relationship without a clue as to who they are talking to. I have seen time and time again when people come together and instantly love one another and damned be the 5 days they have known one another - they are gonna make it! *sarcasm*

 

At some point people need to take responsibility and reflect on themselves:

 

- Am I rushing things?

- Do I reeeeeally know this person?

- Have we discussed the major components of a relationship?

- Do we have good communication?

- Is this a shallow relationship, or am I going for depth and long-term?

- Am I giving too much too quickly?

- Do I really know what I am involved in?

 

Obviously this is not the case for about 30-50% of attempts, but a lot of fakes can be avoided by being cautious and not giving your everything to every prospect. Maybe I am just too rigid, but if you're prepared to trust most people who show interest or call you pretty/sexy and say you're interesting without actually getting to know them.... welp.... then you're kinda setting yourself up.

 

You can't really ever predict who may ghost you or catfish, those things are completely out of your control, but you're saying things like "fake daddies" and those that have different interests... which leads me to think of how the main issue is a lack of compatibility. Even in the extreme age play fantasy for some people - that is their preference and as long as it is a fantasy or a roleplay between two, consenting adults, then to each their own. The only thing is... they are compatible with people of similar tastes, that is all. They aren't fake. And good communication and self-control helps weed out a TON of these issues.

 

Most people do not want to put in the effort of self-control and turning down those who show interest but you know they aren't a good fit. Many people (female littles in particular) are so ready to just hand off everything to the first Daddy who shows them a bit more interest than a sex doll. It is a bit unsettling of how easy it could be to manipulate a woman who is so ready to believe a stranger is 100% honest and selfless in every aspect. Everyone is rushing to find a partner when most of them don't even know who they are as an individual... which these fakes come in and see that as a massive target.

 

Anyways, my rant is over (and was NOT geared to the OP, but rather a rant inspired by some situations this post reminded me of). Sorry for kinda going off there. But self-responsibility is something that doesn't always come into play with CG/l relationships.

[babygirlrose]

@Little Sapiophile 

 

I can see exactly where you are coming from. And I see your point. 

 

I think its a little bit from column a and a bit from column b. 

 

I guess my idea of ddlg for me is different than from other peoples 

 

I can also see how it can be more of an issue  of miscommunication and incompatibility. 

 

I deeply appreciate the input. 

[soulmatewanted]

Coming from a guy, I absolutely think there are a lot of guys that completely do not get DDLG, and are on these sites for the wrong reasons.

[neworder]

 

Online there are so many p_s_y beggars that there is no telling how many littles they fked up cause they just want nudes or Skype. I feel like a dolphin swimming in shark infested waters, pitying the helpless prey. If I get serious about getting a little, illl go to a munch instead of online.... not too many sharks would still show up to a munch after fking over dozens of littles like they can do online on various boards

[soulmatewanted]

The problem I have is going to a Munch. Everyone would know what you are into. This is all very private for me.

I also think some take the ddlg, ageplay too far and I wouldn't want to be around that either.

[Guest BabyPeach]

Online there are so many p_s_y beggars that there is no telling how many littles they fked up cause they just want nudes or Skype. I feel like a dolphin swimming in shark infested waters, pitying the helpless prey. If I get serious about getting a little, illl go to a munch instead of online.... not too many sharks would still show up to a munch after fking over dozens of littles like they can do online on various boards

So true. God only knows what they might do with naughty Skype videos. Sell them? Host a private pay website. I feel bad for the people putting it all out there and trusting someone who could be using them like that. That private footage and pics could also be passed around online forever. Tip.....never take videos or dirty pics with your face visible.

[soulmatewanted]

Had the same with girls though.

I think anyone who wants to video straight away is a big warning.

i dont like the idea of video at all really, not a fan.
Rather chat, then meet to see if there is a connection.
Seems most girls (maybe for good reason) just absolutely don't want to meet.
thats fine, but be honest about it up front if there is no intention to.

Sorry, turning this into a winge about me

Just pointing out the frustrations are there for all of us.
Maybe the munch, events etc.. is possible the best way, but its not something I will ever consider doing.
 

[soulmatewanted]

So far,   this seems to be the most genuine website for ddlg, ageplay etc..

[Guest ScorpioBeastWolf]

Within BDSM like the “normal” vanilla lifestyle there is poser’s, fakes and fraud’s which a submissive has to be aware of and watch out for. These people can be very dangerous and give the Dominant’s out there a bad name.

Yes, it can be frustrating but best is to spot out the fake ones.