Falling apart. Plz halp.

[Zacky]

My cat has been dead since March 7th. I can't stop feeling deeply sad about it. What do you do to get past the grieving process when your best friend gets murdered in your own home?

Backstory: March 7th, I'm at work and Fiancee is home with the dogs and cats; she lets her dogs outside and takes a shower. When she gets out, there are 3 pit bulls in the back yard with her dogs, attacking her dogs. She tries to separate them and get her dogs inside. All of them push past her and come in. Immediately, they see my older cat and - to spare details - they murder her...

Fiancee called the police and animal control but it was all too late; she kept me on the phone and I could hear my baby crying out her last pained breaths while I was speeding the 25 miles to get home.

 

Her light was out by the time I got there.

[Guest Arc]

Losing a pet is never easy. My dog passed away 11 months ago and I'm still not over it. Pets become such a huge part of our lives, and so often we don't even realise the extent of this until they're gone. 

 

There's no easy way or quick fix. You need to grieve and cry and anything else you feel like. Nothing is going to make it easier so take it at your own pace and don't rush it. But also don't let it get in the way of real life things too much/for too long. You can't change the past so you need to grieve and find a way to cope and move forward. 

 

Consider finding someone to talk to. Maybe a friend or a therapist or something. You don't have to do it all alone. 

[Papa-Caillou]

Terrible and sad story... Time is gonna help, but honestly i think psychological support from a professionnal is adviced. I mean, home attack ? This is serious, speak to your doctor.

My english vocabulary is a bit limited, but kind words to both of  you 

[Guest SUeB]

Don't attempt to get past the grieving process. It's a necessary part of healing. There is no time scale, or any way to make it go faster. Accept that it's going to hurt, and that yes, it WILL eventually ease.

[Guest BabyPeach]

I am so, so sorry that happened to you and your kitty.    Like others have said, take the time you need.  We live in a "get over it" society, but we are human and humans grieve.  Just keep taking it day by day.  They never leave us completely, but it does get easier.