Urgently need advice!

[Guest curiousmiddle]

I'm sorry this whole situation happened. I'm sure you wish you could take it back, but what's done is done. The best thing to do is just move on and use this as a learning experience. If you guys were together for a while, then it would be good to try and talk to her. See if the relationship is salvageable. Communication is key. I'm sure if you guys really love each other, you can try to work something out. This is just a speedbump in the relationship, it doesn't have to be the end. But if the relationship was new, I don't think it's worth it. Soulmate or not, if your relationship didn't have a strong foundation, there's no coming back from this. She already didn't trust you, and then this happened. Best to just forget her. 

 

Also, If you're going through that many health issues because of this, I don't think jumping right back into a relationship is the best option. There's nothing wrong with being single. It seems like you need some time to deal with your feelings and your health before being with someone else. Mental and physical. 

[DaddyHudsonValleyNewYork]

Almost 4 weeks ago my little and I had a bump in our relationship. She said that her trust in me was almost gone. That next night after a bad day for her we started reconnecting as in holding hands, calling her baby, her laying in my lap, got her a new stuffy, flirting, sexy stares, and rubbing on her legs and vagina etc. Well then she started texting and turned towards me while doing so as if to hide it, which she didn't usually bother to since I never look. A few minutes later she started downing herself calling herself a succubus that only destroys peoples lives etc... I countered those comments with love and support. Then i got her in a better mood by joking and playing. She asked me to lay down with her. I get the feeling she wanted sex so while spooning i slowly took down her shorts, she was quite wet, then we had sex. Only this time she was quiet.. After the sex i felt her shake twice immediately i asked baby What's wrong and she curled up slightly sobbinh and told me, " you just took it." I of course said omg wtf why didn't you just say something!? So she asked me to leave then filed a report against me. Next night her home was supposedly ransacked. I was called by her former lover and blamed.

 

Now I've never had one malicious or evil intent or thought towards this girl or any woman. I will not and never have had any urge to do anything against a womans will and I was sure she knew that.

 

Can this even possibly be fixed? Case has been dismissed but she hasn't spoken to me since.

 

Idk if she's being genuine or if it was planned to get this other guys attention but she had told me and showed me that i made her happier than anyone else ever had. I love her so very much that this has literally given me health issues anxiety depression heart failure etc. Not to mention a host of other issues.

 

I can forgive her for the problems it's caused me. I thought I had found my soul mate honestly.

 

But her feeling violated by me who she finally trusted so deeply... Even if i cant have her again.. I feel a deep and urgent need to resolve that because I never have nor will choose to harm a woman against her will.

 

Can anything be done? Preferably I wish to win her back and prove my love and sincerity.

If not I will settle for proving my sincerity and hopefully ending that pain for her.

 

Please help if you can...this is tearing me apart and if she was who I thought... Its fked her up too

The girl is out of her mind. Leave

 

Seriously, I would never stay with a girl that accused me of rape. 

[Tekken]

After reading your story. I hist wanted to comment

On something i feel you over looked. Firstly if her trust in you was broken and she hsd been pulling away exsmple hiding her phone. You would have been best to put sex aside its way to confusing for her at that time. You are the caregiver its not alway what does dhe want sometimes its what she needs. I feel that was a huge miss step.

If my little ever said that to me all play would cease till i understood why she felt she didn’t trust me. Then repair it if possible if not you need to part. I feel trust is even more important in dflg.

[Guest littlegirl707]

Awe no theres littles that will love you. Im sorry this happened . work on yourself for awhile and ask yourself what attracted you. u dont want to repeat this. sending hugs