Any big (5+) year age differences between little and caregiver? Advice???

[princess gremlin]

I have started talking to a wonderful daddy who I met on fetlife, we talk every day and I really do enjoy getting to know more about him, and he really likes getting to know me too. We're talking about meeting up soon to grab coffee and I feel really lucky because I feel like this is what I've been waiting for - finally, a daddy close-by who is looking for a little just like me!!!!!

 

The only problem is that there is a seven year age difference between us. I am 20 (a junior in college) and he is 27, so he's totally a full grown adult to me, with a real job and a place to live and everything. The oldest person I have ever dated is two years older than me (and that was high school so we were still children without responsibilities), and the oldest person I have ever had sex with (just a dumb one night stand) is four years older than me. Most of my friends are younger than me, too, so I don't even hangout with many adults older than me, let alone by SEVEN years.

 

Does anyone else have stories about age gaps like this one, or getting used to large age gaps for the first time and making them work? Tell me I shouldn't be nervous!! (I also know girls mature faster so he may actually be easier for me to get along with than guys my age, but still, GAH)

[RavenclawPrincess]

I'm nine years younger than my daddy and I was 21 when we met! We didn't always see eye to eye on things because of the age difference but it's all turned out fine because we were both serious about talking and working things out as needed, and he's always at least tried to be patient with helping me learn and grow. We've been married for 4 years now and I've noticed that the age difference has had a much smaller impact on our relationship now that I'm older.

[TheDaddyest]

most of the littles I date are around 5 years younger than me. Idk why but I attract who I attract. Since I'm kind of not a full adult yet in the sense of the terms you put out I can't really help you though. take things slow see how it goes. The defintion of adult is more complicated than you think. And you might be surprised he's more relateable to you than you are aware of. If you get stressed out about the gap all you are going to do is set yourself up for failure. take a deepbreath and give it a try since it feels right. 

[Guest Silent_Rose]

I don't believe age gaps are a huge deal, as long as you two are both of legal age and you feel a connection there should be no worry. You two talk just about every day so he knows how old you are i'd imagine if it was an issue the conversations would have stopped long ago. I'm usually into older men my one relationship that lasted for four almost five years was between me and a man who was 14 years older than me. I was 19 when we met he was 33 talk about age gaps. haha 

[Guest Evil.Daddy.D]

Age gaps are normal especially for daddy/little girl. I don't think 20 and 27 is a big gap at all, that's pretty normal. I wouldn't be that concerned about it if you really want to meet him, just see if it seems weird when you meet up I'd say. Good luck!

Edited March 27, 2018 by Evil.Daddy.D

[neko]

my daddy and I are 15 years apart and honestly neither of us really notice the gap. On the other hand I've dated someone 10 years older than me and it was very obvious that we had a big age gap because we couldn't really relate to each other?

 

it really depends on the person(s) i guess

[Guest SUeB]

There is a 23 year gap here. Seven years doesn't seem like any kind of gap at all, to be honest. And thats nothing to do with the fact that Master is so much older than His girl. she would have said the exact same thing before she was in this relationship. (Speaking in third person as instructed by Master)

[Angel24]

All my Daddies and I in the past have had an age gap, it can be hard at times but for the most part age didn't have an effect on whether we got along or not, it was our personalities. My Daddy now is just as much of a geek as I am and we like a lot of the same stuff and come from the same place so we connect very well. The fact that there's 37 years between us doesn't change how well we get along.

[Lavender Candy]

Hi! Congrats on finding your daddy!

 

My daddy and I have a huge age gap, 17 years!

 

The age gap has been nothing but amazing in our relationship, cause it really set the little and daddy dynamic. He has a lot to teach me about the world, and I have a lot to learn. I can ask him for advice, I can ask him how credit card, bills, and taxes work, and so on lol

 

Also, it's more fun to have the age gap when you get to ask him what kind of childhood he had! He grew up in the age when there was still no Internet, so sometimes I ask him questions about the ancient times before the Internet. It really boggles my mind how people lived without the Internet! haha

 

It also gets very fun in the bedroom when there's an age gap, I think, especially in a ddlg relationship. It turns me on so much, because he's at the age that could be my actual dad, so we get very kinky about it. He actually feels like my daddy, if that makes sense?

 

Anyhooooww, good luck with your relationship, and I hope your first date with him goes amazing! 

[PapabearNYC]

7 is a relatively small age gap.  I don't mean in terms of DDlg.  I mean for relationships in general.  People dating and marrying with a 10 year difference it not uncommon at all.

 

Obviously, when you are young it seems like a big gap, but once you get to your 30's and up, the difference means less.

 

And, if you are open to it, especially in the kink & DDlg world, much bigger age gaps seem normal.  I have 2 littles.  I'm 24 years older than one of them and 27 years older than the other, and all of us feel completely comfortable with each other.  

 

Best advice... Don't worry about the number.  If you are into each other, then what difference does it make?

[Guest Arc]

My Daddy is near twice my age. I never really see age, so it was never something I thought of. If you want to be with him then don't let age get in the way. You have no reason to be worried.  

 

There are some downsides, but if he's worth it you work around it. Like.. your friends may be judgemental, or even your family. He might not want to be able to go to all the things you do at college, and you might not enjoy going to his work things. I know with my Daddy and I my friends don't feel comfortable, but I'm lucky in that they respect he makes me beyond happy. He doesn't want to go to my university events and parties because there's nobody his age, and I avoid his work things because his work is so far above my head I just sit there confused the whole time. But he's worth it. We work around the things that aren't 100% compatible. He makes me happy and I love him, and his age doesn't change any of that. 

 

So don't worry about it! If this is something you both want go for it. Age is literally just a number. If he makes you happy then that is all that matters

[Guest DarkLIttlePrince]

First of all women mature faster than guys in general which helps to sort of make that difference less important.. and second, don´t think too much about it. If the age gap made such a difference you would have probably noticed it by now. Respect, love and communication ( a lot of it) is always the key. Just enjoy and be happy. My girlfriend is 27(not into DDLG at all)  and I´ve just turned 45. There are differences but they re healthy and allows me, for instance, to see differenct aspects of life that I had lost or forgotten and she can learn from me and my experience. We both grow together and its quite a ride.

 

Don't allow fear to get in the way of what might be something special.

 

Finally, regarding being nervous... thats part of the joy I think.

 

PS - apologies for typos english is not my first language and my spell check died...

[switch_ddlg]

I met my Daddy two months after my 18th birthday and he was 46. We have a 28-year difference. I guess the age gap didn't change much about the way I think because I'd always been around people who were 20 plus years older than me and I always found it hard to connect with people my age. 

 

Also, positive note, my Daddy and I have been together for almost 3 years now and we got married last August.

[PapabearNYC]

First of all women mature faster than guys...

 

This doesn't mean what you think it means.  It has to do with physical maturity and boys, either with reaching puberty, or with brain development.  It has nothing to do with emotional maturity.

 

In any case, it's over with by the time what we are talking about is relevant.  A 20 year old woman is no more mature than a 20 year old man.

[Guest Arc]

Emotional maturity is person dependant. I know plenty of girls who are less mature emotionally than boys of their age. 

[anthrday]

I am 44. My little girl is 19 (little age is 10). So 25 years apart.

 

Can’t imagine life without her. :-)