So disappointed... :(

[Guest MermaidKiss]

My Daddy ghosted me. It is so depressing when that happens and I'm just needing some comforting but of course now I don't have a Daddy to do it! :'(

[Cyrus]

Im sorry you had to go through that, but sadly its all too common, especially on this forum. Im sure there are plenty of people who went through the same experience on here that you can vent to, should you need it. 

[ProfessorDaddy]

I had it happen once to me, too.

Sympathetic to anyone experiences it.

You'll find your way. I'm sure of it.

[Guest JoeKarr]

I'm sorry that you have to go through this.  But, sadly, it's just comes with the territory.  Like most things, you'll pick up and move on.

[CaresAlot]

In sports I used to watch lots of film on wins but even more when I lost.  In business, I do the same thing and look at deals or cleints - what did I do right and what could I have done better at.  Sometimes in sports, I would just find out I did everything right and still lost.  More often than not, I would learn something that I needed to be better at.  Then put into play ways of being better at it - either more practice or better planning.

 

If you have access to the conversations or just have to recall them, think about what was said by you and by him.  Things like the answers you gave and the questions you asked.  Positive or negative responces.  How much about you did you share.  Look at the things he said.  Any indication that he was going to ghost.  That he did not share much about himself.  There may not be anything.  One of the hardest things to do is to look at yourself as and outsider.  Would I like her or did she just crash the deal.

 

In life you always have loses.  If you learn from those loses, then it can make you better the next time around.

[Guest SweetPurpleCherry]

In sports I used to watch lots of film on wins but even more when I lost.  In business, I do the same thing and look at deals or cleints - what did I do right and what could I have done better at.  Sometimes in sports, I would just find out I did everything right and still lost.  More often than not, I would learn something that I needed to be better at.  Then put into play ways of being better at it - either more practice or better planning.

 

If you have access to the conversations or just have to recall them, think about what was said by you and by him.  Things like the answers you gave and the questions you asked.  Positive or negative responces.  How much about you did you share.  Look at the things he said.  Any indication that he was going to ghost.  That he did not share much about himself.  There may not be anything.  One of the hardest things to do is to look at yourself as and outsider.  Would I like her or did she just crash the deal.

 

In life you always have loses.  If you learn from those loses, then it can make you better the next time around.

WOW.

Now how cruel is that.

How can you blame someone for being ghosted? How is it acceptable to tell anyone to "be better" for someone else? It's totally pointless, since nobody but he knows the reason why he just left her like that.

It reminds me of the usual victim blaming, like "if you didn't smile to him in response then he wouldn't have thought he could misbehave with you".

 

---> YES, ghosting someone can leave emotionnal wounds too. Even more when it comes to DDlg relationships, regarding how far you get involved. It's about broken trust, not a simple game/contract you lost with clients!

 

No matter what you did, it's not your fault and i absolutely sympathise with you.

He's the Daddy here. He's supposed to be "a real man", taking responsibility to tell you that for some reason, he lost interest in you. He should have managed your feelings, since you were his little.

It would hurt but at least, you wouldn't feel lost wondering what happened to him or what "you could have done better".

 

Again, it's not your fault. If you did something wrong, then he should have told you. He's the one to blame, not you.

 

In my opinion no good Daddy would do that.

[neworder]

Ask the people who know you how long you should take with a guy before you consider yourself to be in serious relationship with him (ie calling him your bf) and not just an infatuation. Use their average recommendation for you as a guide to how long you should wait until you start calling the next guy your daddy. If the guy is long term minded, he can wait... if he's impatient and pushy - he's likely to ghost when you are no longer his shiny new thing.

[neworder]

Sweet Cherry... CaresAlot did say “I would just find out I did everything right and still lost” His analogy was a little off and seemed uncaring, but that’s the nature of analogies: they are usually not perfect comparisons.

I felt CaresAlot’s main point was look back, identify the signs between a real man and a ghoster.

The ghoster was a ghoster long before Mermaid ever spoke to him...and probably has done it before. I feel that no one was saying she caused a person to ghost.

[Guest littlegirl707]

Yeah I don’t get how people do that. But it’s happened to me and it hurt my feelings so bad. I asked lots what did I do. I never got a answer. I felt very insecure about myself. Witch I hope it never happens again. But u pick yourself up. I usually leave my little space for quite awhile. She really can’t stand regection. Sending you lots of hugs

[Guest SUeB]

WOW.

Now how cruel is that.

How can you blame someone for being ghosted? How is it acceptable to tell anyone to "be better" for someone else? It's totally pointless, since nobody but he knows the reason why he just left her like that.

It reminds me of the usual victim blaming, like "if you didn't smile to him in response then he wouldn't have thought he could misbehave with you".

 

---> YES, ghosting someone can leave emotionnal wounds too. Even more when it comes to DDlg relationships, regarding how far you get involved. It's about broken trust, not a simple game/contract you lost with clients!

 

No matter what you did, it's not your fault and i absolutely sympathise with you.

He's the Daddy here. He's supposed to be "a real man", taking responsibility to tell you that for some reason, he lost interest in you. He should have managed your feelings, since you were his little.

It would hurt but at least, you wouldn't feel lost wondering what happened to him or what "you could have done better".

 

Again, it's not your fault. If you did something wrong, then he should have told you. He's the one to blame, not you.

 

In my opinion no good Daddy would do that.

There didn't look to be any blame pointed at the op here. He was asking if there was anything to suggest this dude was likely to disappear within his messages, not that she herself might have said anything to cause it.

And to be fair, you're putting a lot of assumptions on this guy. Are you saying that he was responsible for the op after an unknown length of time of online interaction? What if it lasted only a week or two with no real commitment? We have no idea if this lasted a week or a year. People online come and go all the time. On the basis of a short time online thing, which is the most likely scenario here, he had absolutely no responsibility towards this girl. None at all.

[Guest SweetPurpleCherry]

I'm saying that :

 

1. If you claim to be a DD/CG, responsibilities come with it. Fun or not, it's just part of the self-claimed role they want to have. It's also called respect, and people should not forget there's a real person behind the screen. It's too easy to ask for involvement but vanish when they're done talking or more. Saying "i'm sorry, but for some reason i don't want to push any further/ i'm not as interested as i would think" may be hard to hear but at least, it's clearly over and help to move on.

Maybe he didn't feel it and there's nothing wrong in it! So what's wrong in asking for honesty?

 

It's just my 2 cents.

 

2. Telling someone to look back and try to figure out "what she could be better at" after they've been ghosted sounds very harsh to me. Maybe she was perfect, maybe she did her best, maybe she was a HUGE pain in the bum... we don't know. But again, it's about a relationship of whatever nature, not a contract or a game.

 

That's not a personal attack, it's my pov

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

I am confused.

 

Is the guy who ghosted you the same one that proposed?

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/31728-daddy-proposed/

[Guest QueenPrincess]

WOW.

Now how cruel is that.

How can you blame someone for being ghosted? How is it acceptable to tell anyone to "be better" for someone else? It's totally pointless, since nobody but he knows the reason why he just left her like that.

It reminds me of the usual victim blaming, like "if you didn't smile to him in response then he wouldn't have thought he could misbehave with you".

 

---> YES, ghosting someone can leave emotionnal wounds too. Even more when it comes to DDlg relationships, regarding how far you get involved. It's about broken trust, not a simple game/contract you lost with clients!

 

No matter what you did, it's not your fault and i absolutely sympathise with you.

He's the Daddy here. He's supposed to be "a real man", taking responsibility to tell you that for some reason, he lost interest in you. He should have managed your feelings, since you were his little.

It would hurt but at least, you wouldn't feel lost wondering what happened to him or what "you could have done better".

 

Again, it's not your fault. If you did something wrong, then he should have told you. He's the one to blame, not you.

 

In my opinion no good Daddy would do that.

If you go about life assuming people with a criticism of you will tell you to your face and otherwise you're blameless... that's silly.

Lots of people are lost causes, no point in pointing out their flaws.

If you review your exchanges and realize "he might not have liked me, but I was being authentic and harmless" then you'll learn something about what to look out for in a partner in the future. A clue about what was incompatible between the two of you or the red flags of people who will ghost you.