Boyfriend doesn't like being called daddy

[fragilebb]

Hi everyone! I need some advice, I have a very big daddy kink and daddy issues, and my ex I would call daddy all the time. I have a new boyfriend, who doesn't mind being called daddy but doesn't specifically enjoy being called it. Any advice on maybe helping him ease into it? ( He's open to it )

[xBabydollx]

Maybe try another term that isn't daddy, but something similar (maybe papa, da da, or something totally not related to daddy). Like for example, 'father' would creep me out, but 'Daddy' is fine. If that doesn't help, or isn't the case, perhaps tell him what 'daddy' means to u and why u like it. There is often a negative stigma behind it and ddlg overall, so he may need to see it in a different light (like perhaps maybe u like it because of the nurturing and guiding nature associated with the term and someone who embodies it. For example. Use whatever is true to u). If he continuously find the concept unappealing then it's something u will have to accept. Things aren't as fun or enjoyable when u know someone is only 'tolerating' u and ur desires.

[Guest Bedtime-Stories]

This is a really tough situation and xbabydollx is correct. You need to just communicate your point to him. If he is a good guy he will understand your point and appreciate the clarity and communication. Tell him about the lifestyle. Give him information from a trusted website (or from right here) explaining what the concept behind the word "daddy" really means to you and if he truly is open minded then he will accept it it will grow on him. I know some people kinda look down at members of this community because they just do not have the proper information and understanding of why we choose to live this lifestyle. Just be open and honest with him and he will want to be a part of that side of you. Also even if you feel he is uncomfortable with it never let anyone discourage you from being who you are. You are a little. Embrace that side of you. If he loves you then he will too. I wish you the best of luck fragilebb

[Guest Hys]

My master dislikes being called Daddy. To be honest I don't think easing him into it or trying to force it on him would be the best thing to do, since it usually causes discomfort and erects walls in the relationship. If you really need to call him something like that, try to find a median. If you can't, and he's not fulfilling other needs you have, find someone who can fulfill your needs. Whatever the case may be, easing him into it doesn't seem like the best course of action to me. Mostly because I've seen that behavior ruin relationships.

[LittleKitten13]

Maybe ask what kind of nicknames he's okay with?  Papa didn't like the idea of being called Daddy, but he said Papa would be okay, so now he's my Papa.

[Guest Arc]

There's a whole thread for other names you could call your partner. Maybe go through it together and see if there's anything you both like.  https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/17009-alternative-names-to-daddy/

[Guest SUeB]

Do you really want to try talk him into something he isn't entirely happy with?

[Guest BabyPeach]

My suggestion is to adopt the term usually used in the dom side of the community and try using "sir". You could also just use his first name or "mister" or "mister john (or whatever his name is).  If he's open to you being little, but just doesn't like the term "daddy" (and I get why), then I see no reason why a little couldn't just use a first name (or any of the other examples) for their caregiver.

[MadelynVictoria]

I'd maybe do what Arc suggested, and go through the names together, and see what you can come up with or another suggestion, would be to try calling him daddy during an intimate time and see how he reacts to it. Getting called daddy during the moment can sometimes bring the daddy side out of guys if he still doesn't like it, maybe call him sir if that's easier for him?

[Moonstone]

My daddy didn't like it at first, but once I explained to him what my needs were, he actually became okay with being called daddy and now even enjoys it.  Just talk with him about what it means to you and what your needs are, and go from there.  Like others have said, there might be other names that you guys can agree on. ^.^