Age gaps

[unicornbaby]

i have a friend whos a master/daddy and he told me that a little and dom cant be the same age. And that the dom has to be older and the little should never be older than the dom. im kind of confused right now im the same age as my dom and i know some littles are older than there dom's and i don't really see the problem with it . What do you all think about the topic?    

[Guest SweetPurpleCherry]

If you're happy with your relationship with your Daddy, there's nothing wrong with it or to be confused about

 

Of course, having a DD/CG older than you, or at least the same age, seems the better thing for obvious reasons, the 1st one being the authority aspect of it all... but it also implies that your DD is more experienced, and therefore will be more likely to help you grow.

It also depends on your needs...

I myself am pretty aware that i NEED someone older than me, but for example i wouldn't go past a certain age, which could make me uncomfy. On the other hand, meeting someone who's my age or just 1-2 years older could also be totally fine, depending on how he behaves towards me!

 

So again, do not worry about what your friend told you. If he's not ok having a little who's older than him, fine.

Some DD just LOVE the idea of taking care of a little who's just twice their age!

 

I think it was VERY judgemental of him to tell you such thing. Just be happy, and don't pay too much attention to people's thoughts about your own relationship

Edited March 22, 2018 by SweetPurpleCherry

[Guest BabyPeach]

What? Girl, no.  That's HIS opinion (and it's just that...an opinion).  My Daddy is one year younger than I am.  I'm not attracted to older men and I don't need some "oh wise one" sort of guidance.  DDlg is just that.......it isn't O(lder)DDlg.......haha. This dynamic isn't as rigid as some people want to pretend.  There are all kinds of caregivers and littles and middles.  Do what makes YOU and your partner happy.

[Guest BabyPeach]

*cue the much older men screaming about how a Daddy HAS to be much older*  lololol  Nope.

[ThePoet]

Of course, anyone can do anything, and don't listen to the haters, and dream big, and it's a free world, and we're all individuals and all that. Personally though, I just can't take young Daddies seriously, especially when they say things like "nineteen, with four years experience" :D or young littles who ONLY look for Daddies their own age. I mean, how can you get a sense of authority from someone who has to ask their mother to buy them alcohol? I'm sure that being young doesn't mean they're terrible people in any way... but what are they basing their guidance on? The advice their parents gave them when they moved out of home last month? This is just my own opinion, of course, and I don't MEAN to offend anyone. I'm just looking at it pragmatically. Edited March 22, 2018 by papapresents

[Guest SweetPurpleCherry]

Personally though, I just can't take young Daddies seriously, especially when they say things like "nineteen, with four years experience" :D or young littles who ONLY look for Daddies their own age. I mean, how can you get a sense of authority from someone who has to ask their mother to buy them alcohol? I'm sure that being young doesn't mean they're terrible people in any way... but what are they basing their guidance on? The advice their parents gave them when they moved out of home last month? This is just my own opinion, of course, and I don't MEAN to offend anyone. I'm just looking at it pragmatically.

You just nailed it :D

[Littleone89]

As long as you are happy, and both partners are adults ( 18+), I don’t see how age matters. I’m 2 years older than my daddy. Im 28 and he is 26

[Guest MelbourneDaddy]

I don't think there is any hard and fast rule for age in any dynamic let alone DDLG. Whatever makes the couple happy and comfortable in their individual dynamic should be the litmus test for whether it's right or not.

 

Yes an older Daddy may have more experience and authority, that's certainly true, but I have also known some younger Daddies (22 - 28 years) that are excellent as well.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

These topics might help:

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/18596-how-young-is-too-young-to-be-a-daddy/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/20100-being-older-than-your-little/

[neworder]

 Personally though, I just can't take young Daddies seriously, especially when they say things like "nineteen, with four years experience"

 

I don't have to have an opinion of young daddies, as it's totally irrelevant to me. 

 

I would say to the OP that he might be trying to use the process of elimination to be her best "potential" daddy by stating "as fact" that the idea of a young daddy is invalid. 

[Guest Arc]

There's no rules. There's no one true way. You do whatever you want and what works for you. 

 

I personally could not have a younger Daddy. Not that I have anything against them. It's just that I'm 21 and about to graduate and move away from university. I've reached a point where I'm not longer interested in uni parties and clubbing (you can drink when you're 18 here so I've had enough years of it). I don't have anything against younger daddies, but I'm at a point in my life where I'm about to move onto the next stage and I wouldn't want someone behind me in that because it would be difficult when I don't want to go to uni things and they don't want to go to my work things. Maybe in a few years when younger people are at the same stage as me it wouldn't be so bad. I'm not sure. I guess it's something I'll face at the time if it ever comes up. 

 

But yeah. It's up to you and what you feel comfortable with, and who you feel comfortable with. 

[princessfreckles]

Whoever told you that is silly. Age is a preference that differs person to person. As long as both people are legal and consent to everything, I don't think the age of the Daddy or little matters. It all depends on what they want in their dynamic. 

 

Both of my daddies were a few years younger than me, and it didn't work. However it wasn't our age differences that was the problem. Both were inexperienced first time daddies, they were LDRs, and in both cases we were both figuring things out. Going forward I'd still consider a Daddy younger than me, however I definitely need one with more experience who can guide me and teach me more about what it means to be a middle.

[humanmusic]

lol...how can you call a guy "Daddy" if you are older than he is? Dad means older than daughter/lg

 

But!

 

I think ppl should do whatever they want age wise and/or anything but yeah it's kinda weird for the age thing to be reversed if you are using the whole "daddy" thing.

[switch_ddlg]

i have a friend whos a master/daddy and he told me that a little and dom cant be the same age. And that the dom has to be older and the little should never be older than the dom. im kind of confused right now im the same age as my dom and i know some littles are older than there dom's and i don't really see the problem with it . What do you all think about the topic?  

First of all, that doesn't even sound like an actual Dom. A real Dom would know there are no right or wrong ways to do DDLG or any power-exchange dynamic as long as both parties are of legal age and there is consent involved. Second, with that being said, again, there are no rules to DDLG. There is no reason why a Dom should be older than the sub (little) other than a personal preference. He sounds like a rude know-it-all just based on your small bit of information here. Don't be confused and do not ever let anyone tell you that your Dom/sub relationship isn't valid because of any reason, especially a reason as ignorant as age difference. 

 

I have been with Doms younger than me, the same age as me, and older than me. It is all a preference. I'm a switch and my subs have been older, younger, and the same age as well. A matter of preference isn't a fact and that's the way your friend's Dom is acting. Personally, I like my Doms to be older because of more experience. However, I also like my subs to be older because they are more mature, less likely to be bratty (brattiness is okay in moderation), they know how to be a submissive and you don't have to teach them anything (there is nothing really wrong with this but I am not the best teacher, again OPINION!!!)

 

Are you happy? As long as you are happy it shouldn't matter what your friend's Dom said. It should only matter how you feel with your Dom.

Edited March 30, 2018 by switch_ddlg

[Daddy4Princess]

Being a "Daddy" and being a "little" are not numbers, they're a state of mind.  If a 19 year old Daddy has a 40 year old little and the dynamic works for them, age isn't a factor.  I've known littles in their 50's.

[DaddysWholeWorld]

I’m 65 and Daddy is 54. Married almost 25 years. In totally monogamous relationship. Dd/lg has nothing to do with actual age. It’s a state of mind. I may very well be the oldest little with the biggest age difference on here!

[pawpaw]

As long as it's between consenting adults age is a meaningless number and there are no set rules that you must abide by.

There is also a completely seperate stand alone age gap kink as well.

I had a young lady 41 years younger than me hit on me in a store. We spent the weekend together and both had a blast.

She had zero interest in DD/lg

And neither of us care if someone else goes Ewwwwww... or Gross... We spent a wonderful weekend together and could not care less what others think about that.

[EvilDaddyD]

There's no rules with this stuff - I personally really like having an age gap for ddlg but of course you can have a daddy the same age as you or younger

[SaltyChindit]

No hard and fast rules... but...if there's too big of an age gap there are a lot of cultural touchstones that the younger party (or the older party) have missed and that preclude the more 'adult' part of forming a relationship where both parties can click; not to say it can't or doesn't happen.

Edited November 21, 2024 by SaltyChindit

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy is 21 years younger than me and we celebrate 7 years together next week. It's about the people, not age. Once everyone involved is of legal age then it just depends on the people.