Any advice would be helpful

[Littlemex]

So.. when I first started coming on this forum it was to read lots and then to ask a few personal questions to people who may be or at one point might of been in my situation. I know for a lot of people Ddlg is just bedroom only and I thought I could persuade my partner to be interested in it also if I went down that route, now I feel like I have proper made the wrong choice as that faded we have just sunk back into Vanilla world, and the thing is he is fine with that infact he's happy with it and I'm not the truth is I can't even bare to have sex with him at all now everything feels forced and all on my side, we have two beautiful children and a home we are in the making of building a life together I just feel a bit lost & have done since trying to discuss things with him things have sort of been up in the air. Sorry for the pure essay, but you guys are the only people I can talk to about this kind of stuff.

[DaddyJsPrincess]

sounds like you may have to carve out some time to have a frank discussion about your needs. If DD/lg is something you're gonna need to be fulfilled, then he needs to make an effort to take care of you.

 

Are you guys monogamous? You may want to look into the idea of a surrogate Daddy, or see what kind of BDSM community is around you so that he can learn about what he likes and doesn't like regarding the lifestyle.

 

I'm sorry that you're so frustrated I really hope that you and your partner can come to an agreement that you both enjoy. <3

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I have to echo the lovely DaddyJ'sPrincess above me. Talk to him. Communication is so important, especially in a dynamic like this one. It sounds to me like you aren't sure how he'd feel about being Caregiver/Little all the time. Maybe you should talk to him about it. Sure, he's happy with the way things are, but chances are, he won't be if he knows you're unhappy too.

 

Don't give up. I know how hard it can be to feel alone and frustrated, but you are in a partnership. It can be tough to remember that when you are afraid that you are alone in your feelings, but you never know until you try. <3

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

Just as everyone above me stated, you need to speak with him. Your feelings are very important and if they go unnoticed, you'll end up resenting him. I think you should let him know how important this is to you- have a real discussion about the aspects of this dynamic and what it means to you.