New to this and curious?

[DinosBeforeDolls]

I'm bad at titling things, but I just have a bit of a dilemma that I can't find information on.

 

First of all I'm a little/middle (4-6 yrs, correct if I'm wrong on terminology). And although I'm a girl, I don't like girly things. No glitter for me . I like army men and sharks and the like.

 

Anyway, my question is this: can a Sub be a Sub even if they don't want a Dom? I've realized that I really don't want a mommy/daddy/cg, rather other littles/middles to be like playmates or siblings. If anyone has any opinions or insight I'd be curious to know.

 

Thank you!!!

[Guest Arc]

Of course. You don't have to be in a relationship to be who you are.

[Guest bunnybear11]

No because ddlg is a part of bdsm, which is strictly under the d/s category (dominant/submissive), so you would fall more under the category of age regression than age play.

~Anyone feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.

 

Also I have a question, is this a kink ur willing to participate in with other littles? bc if so then that's a whole other story heheh

[Knoxdom]

No because ddlg is a part of bdsm, which is strictly under the d/s category (dominant/submissive), so you would fall more under the category of age regression than age play.

~Anyone feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.

 

Also I have a question, is this a kink ur willing to participate in with other littles? bc if so then that's a whole other story heheh

DDlg doesn't have to be associated with BDSM, it just frequently is. In recent years the movements have diverged into distinct communities. 

 

To answer OP's question, some may argue semantics on if you can be a sub if you have no desire to have a dom, but you can definitely be a little/middle without a cg or any desire to have one. You don't have to be a submissive to be a little/middle.

[DinosBeforeDolls]

No because ddlg is a part of bdsm, which is strictly under the d/s category (dominant/submissive), so you would fall more under the category of age regression than age play.

~Anyone feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.

 

Also I have a question, is this a kink ur willing to participate in with other littles? bc if so then that's a whole other story heheh

[DinosBeforeDolls]

I mean, it certainly still is a kink, sometimes. But never with a Dom of any kind. It just serves mainly as a coping mechanism which I guess falls more under age regression. It's hard for me to say since I've only been around a few dd/lg or related people and couple's.

 

All of your insight has been really helpful though, so thank you //>U<\\

[Guest BabyPeach]

I have been a single little and if I were to be single again permanently, I would still consider myself a little and not an age regressor.  The age regressors that I have encountered have been completely against this lifestyle (because some littles are sexual littles). Labels don't really matter though.....just be you.  You'll still find these boards to be a good place to learn and stuff and there's lots of littles here.

[xBabydollx]

Im with carobear. Sounds more like age regression/age play to me. Its not uncommon for ppl to ageplay with others (even those who are just friends). Not everyone who ageplay is part of DD/lg. As for the sub and Dom thing....I mean after all it is called Daddy Dom/little girl. Dom being the key factor there. In the end, u can call ur self whatever u want, but if u claim to be a little, then expect a lot of ppl to approach u thinking u want a Daddy Dom/Mommy Domme. You'll have to do a lot of clarification for ppl with going that route, to try to get them to see ur way of viewing it. Whatever floats ur boat.

[Guest bunnybear11]

DDlg doesn't have to be associated with BDSM, it just frequently is. In recent years the movements have diverged into distinct communities. 

 

To answer OP's question, some may argue semantics on if you can be a sub if you have no desire to have a dom, but you can definitely be a little/middle without a cg or any desire to have one. You don't have to be a submissive to be a little/middle.

 

I have been a single little and if I were to be single again permanently, I would still consider myself a little and not an age regressor.  

 

You can definitely be a single little who is into ddlg (which definitely is a part of bdsm), you don't have to be in a dom/sub relationship, long as it is a kink to you, but if it isn't a kink to you and you have no desire to be in this sort of relationship (a ddlg relationship) then it isn't age play (because that involves a kink) it is age regression, and you certainly can be into age regression and have a caregiver (as long as it isn't a kink to you and there is no dom/sub relationship involved). And you can still call yourself a little if you're into age regression obviously.

Edited March 20, 2018 by carobear

[Guest bunnybear11]

And there's no need of getting defensive when people fit others into the age regression category instead of age play, I know it's not cool to go and put people you don't know under categories and make assumptions, people seem v entitled sometimes and that may be what causes this, that's not what we're trying to do,  only you can do it, if you want to even, don't ever feel like you need to put yourself in a box in order to fit into a certain community, this is all very fluid and shouldn't make you feel uncomfortable. Experiment, discover yourself, this is very important especially in the beginning. And most importantly have fun.

Edited March 20, 2018 by carobear

[Guest bunnybear11]

I mean, it certainly still is a kink, sometimes. But never with a Dom of any kind. It just serves mainly as a coping mechanism which I guess falls more under age regression. It's hard for me to say since I've only been around a few dd/lg or related people and couple's.

 

All of your insight has been really helpful though, so thank you //>U<\\

 

Also for it to be a kink to you doesn't mean that it has to be a kink all the time c: