New Little.... have questions

[Guest MermaidKiss]

Hi, so I'm still very new to the Little life and I'm with my very first Daddy. For the most part everything is good, but I'm noticing some inconsistency so I'm just wondering if I should be concerned or if I'm just being paranoid.

 

One of his rules is that we text each other good morning and goodnight and have regular contact throughout the day, with the understanding that things come up in our adult lives so it doesn't necessarily have to be constant.

 

I've noticed the last few days have been a little different. He's taking longer to respond, and he hasn't said goodnight to me. Earlier today he promised he would call me, but then I never got the call, nor did he text to say why he couldn't or say goodnight or anything. Another of his rules I broke on purpose just to see if he would notice (I sent phone evidence of the broken rule) and he didn't say anything about it at all. Not even a "we will discuss later" or anything. I don't handle broken promises very well and he's letting me off the hook for a big rule. I don't understand what's happening. Am I freaking out over nothing? What should I do?

[Panda God]

Talk to him, adult to adult, and tell him that you're upset. Explain that you're feeling ignored, and ask why he didn't respond to you.

[Littlest_Bee]

At the first glance it seems as if he is losing interest but we don't know his side of the story. Maybe something happened and he's really struggling with that right now.

(An ex-boyfriend of mine behaved quite similar to what you described when he was going through a depression.)

 

Try to talk to find out where you stand and what it is. I know that's hard when he seems to ignore you. But it might help you find closure if the relationship does end.

 

Best wishes

[LittleKitten13]

At the first glance it seems as if he is losing interest but we don't know his side of the story. Maybe something happened and he's really struggling with that right now.

(An ex-boyfriend of mine behaved quite similar to what you described when he was going through a depression.)

 

Try to talk to find out where you stand and what it is. I know that's hard when he seems to ignore you. But it might help you find closure if the relationship does end.

 

Best wishes

 

I really like how you point out that we don't know his side of the story.  Upon first reading the OP's post, I thought it seemed like he was pulling away as well, but you have a very good point about going through something that he doesn't know how to express.

Definitely talk to him.  Make sure you express how this makes you feel without making him feel like you're attacking him.  Using "I" statements, like, "I feel like you don't care when you don't follow through on punishments for breaking rules," instead of, "You don't care if I break rules."  They both show how you feel, but the latter is much more likely to set him on the defensive.

[neko]

TALK. TO. HIM.

[Guest MermaidKiss]

It turns out there were some things going on after all, everything is okay.

[LittleKitten13]

It turns out there were some things going on after all, everything is okay.

Good!  I'm glad to hear that

[Littlest_Bee]

I'm glad to hear that too. It's always nice when things turn out fine.