Testing littles

[Daddy's bratty baby]

I'm a new little and I love it and my daddy very much! I would do anything for him to make him happy and daddy knows it.

 

But Daddy's always likes to test me and it's confusing at times. I feel like I can never win.

 

Why do Daddy's test their littles?

[Guest BabyPeach]

How does your Daddy test you?

[sullenDaddybones]

Test your loyalty, I think couples do this every day. Though if the tests include a PH Meter I would find a new Daddy C:

[TwilightSparklez]

D-types have a tendency to test their s-stypes to see where they are, to test their submission, as a measure of their advancement, or simply to keep you on your toes. It depends on how you are being tested, if that is not something you expected or wanted, you need to speak up and respectfully ask your partner to discuss your current dynamic perhaps reevaluate it.

[Knoxdom]

It really depends on what type of test you mean, that's a quite vague term. If he's testing you as in quizzing you on what your rules are he probably wants a hint of a teacher/schoolgirl flavor to the dynamic. If he's testing you as in making fake profiles to try to flirt with you and see if you'll cheat that's probably due to insecurity and is usually not the best sign. But both could be seen as testing, so ultimately more context is needed for a full answer.

[Guest McLeodLot65]

It's true, we need a bit more information. As written, this sounds like a danger signal that, as Knoxdom points out, makes him sound really insecure.

[TheDaddyest]

I'm a new little and I love it and my daddy very much! I would do anything for him to make him happy and daddy knows it.

 

But Daddy's always likes to test me and it's confusing at times. I feel like I can never win.

 

Why do Daddy's test their littles?

 

 

D-types have a tendency to test their s-stypes to see where they are, to test their submission, as a measure of their advancement, or simply to keep you on your toes. It depends on how you are being tested, if that is not something you expected or wanted, you need to speak up and respectfully ask your partner to discuss your current dynamic perhaps reevaluate it.

 

 

It's true, we need a bit more information. As written, this sounds like a danger signal that, as Knoxdom points out, makes him sound really insecure.

 

Yeah we definitely need more information.  If by test you mean loyalty or sh*t tests and it's constant and he's with you officially, I'd take that as a red flag. Depending of the severity of what the tests are. It could be sign that he is manipulative, or abusive. But if you mean testing like pushing a little or sub, pushing the limits of their sexuality, or pushing them in their submission than that's actually normal like twilight says. Part of being a Dom is pushing their submissive. No matter how lovey or caring or anything a true Dom is, there is an instinct to push to see certain things; like how far he can get without any resistance, where your true hard limits are actually, how much you trust him as a Dom, ect. Honestly if I get in Dom space my own limits start to fade just like a subs in sub space, and I'll push as a pace that I know/think is comfortable for my sub, and see how far I can get before I'm stopped, even if it goes past my own limits. 

 

Part of the pushing at least for me is I'm a people pleaser deep down. And I'm sure other Doms will agree, even if not out loud, we care about the dark fantasies of our subs and want to know about them, and work them into play when we are ok with them, even if it's a soft limit, a but too hard core for us, or something we just aren't too interested in. 

 

The BDSM dymanic includes this type of thing, and it's a very good way to get to  know your partner, and in a way things probably wouldn't have been vocalized before you pushed. As the famous Dr. House says, people lie. Everyone has fetishes they won't admit to in the first few days, or even months or at all, due to shame or being self-conscious or the sexual conservatism of the world we live in. 

 

Anyways hope I helped at all. TTYL!

[Maarloeve]

Why do Daddy's test their littles?

insecurity and immaturity. it's hard enough to build a relationship upon the cold hard truth. if one partner constantly has their mind buried in hypotheticals and baits the other with gotcha questions based on lies of omission then eventually there's no trust going either way.

[jondavids]

Maybe you should say something like "never test me because you might not like the answer". Show him that you are a little, not a door mat.