Three Life Lessons I wish I knew

[TinyTwaddle]

Hello everyone!

 

I wanted to make a post about three lessons I've learned over the years that I wish someone had told me when I was struggling.

 

1. It's okay to just.... not be okay

 

It's been the biggest struggle to always want to be okay always. But life is too short to always be happy. Does that sound funny to read because it sure sounds funny writing it. The movie Inside Out teaches Happy that it's out of the sadness that we realize what we have how truly blessed we are, it's okay to feel crappy. Cry, scream, yell, throw whatever tantrum you want. But know that you can't hurt yourself or someone around you. It's okay to express your emotions, but you have to do it in a healthy way. Like hitting a pillow or crying until you fall asleep. And perhaps the most important out of all of it is that, it's okay to feel crappy but it's not okay to makes someone else feel crappy too. 

 

2. There is always someone to talk to, if you reach out to them with an open and honest heart.

 

The most over used line when we are hurt that we like to say is "NO ONE UNDERSTANDS ME". Although there is never anyone out there that will 100% know what you are going through, there is always someone out there that will have a pretty good idea. We all have a few things in our past that we are not proud of, that are dark and scary, and that we hope never sees the light of day. But all those things made you the person you are today and it doesn't matter who you were, but it does matter who you are today and who you want to be in the future. You can't expect anyone to know that you are in pain unless you tell someone you are. And when you tell someone that you are in pain, don't expect them to have all the answers to your problems; but you can hope that they give you the shoulder you need to cry on or some advice that might help you. You have to be willing to listen to them as much as you are wanting them to fix whatever is wrong. 

 

3. It takes a lot more energy to try to be something you aren't then it is to be yourself.

 

It's always hard to not compare myself with someone else. Someone whom has the money, the body, the partner, the life that I always dreamed of having. But I found that it took so much more energy to try to be like them and pretend that I was something I wasn't. I wanted everything that someone else had without any of the work that they put into it. I sacrificed myself to get something that was never me. It never brought be happiness to have what I envied. Because there is always something that I could be jealous of. But it took nothing to just be me. To smile at a stranger for holding the door for me. Or to give some change to the homeless man. It took nothing for me to be kind and be happy with who I was. Nothing to be a little crazy in chat and to genuinely care about people. Nothing at all. And you know what? I wasn't even tired. 

 

This post probably seemed super random, but I feel like if I read something like this while I was going through what I did. I'm interested in what life lessons y'all learned and wish someone had told you. Please post your own down below! I'm interested to see what y'all share!

 

Have a wonderful day!

~TinyTwaddle