confident, mature, head-strong, assertive.....little?

[callmebabygirl]

Hi everyone.

I just made my community introduction a few minutes ago. Just to summarize, I know I've wanted a dd/lg for a really long time.

 

I'm currently dating someone who I don't think I can be in that space with. but sometime in the future I definitely want a dd/lg relationship.

 

the thing is though, I'm a mature, confident woman. I'm not 'shy' i'm not scared or worried or unsure about my feelings usually.  in relationships, I'm the one that initiate things and it's always been well received by men. 

 

I don't know if being a little (which is something I so desperately need to be at this point) will make me feel weird or out of place.

 

Being a little on my own, in my own thoughts and just day dreaming feels so natural but I don't know how that will play out in real life.

Has anyone else been in this situation? are you different from your little self?

[Daddy 2021]

It's not at all unusual for real life personality to be the opposite of the kinky one. In real life I'm usually more laid back that forceful, but not when I'm in kink mode. The first few times dropping into the little mindset with a partner might fell odd, but it will get easier. Look for threads discussing littlespace. 

[Guest SUeB]

Such a shame that we have been sucked into this generic belief that to be an lg means we are weak, incapable, insecure and in need of saving. It's a load of rubbish. Don't worry. You're good.

[Déphysios]

Being a woman who knows what she wants and who knows how to take care of herself should not be a shame but a great pride. Do not change especially.

[littlefemmenist]

all of those adjectives might be used to describe me as well, and have at some point or another — i would never use them to describe myself, though, because that's not what i want to be. well, maybe most people who really know me wouldn't describe me as confident

 

point is, who we are and what we like don't always/often match up. and just because you're not always "submissive" doesn't mean you're not...submissive. being a little doesn't necessarily mean you're shy and unsure. in fact, oftentimes we're the ones who know exactly what we want! 

 

it shouldn't feel weird or out of place if you're with the right person. it doesn't sound like you're there, yet, but someday you will be!

Edited March 14, 2018 by littlefemmenist

[Magpies]

Same.
My "littlespace" is something I go into when I don't need to deal with real life; in reality, I need to be assertive and independent or else I'd be in... trouble, to say the least.

 

It's apparently off-putting to some people, but they haven't lived a fraction of the life I've been forced to live.
If they have a problem with it, they won't be a good partner.