TurtleKid Posted March 13, 2018 Report Posted March 13, 2018 I know it's a sad thing to hear, but it's true. Every single time I've talked to one, I end up getting hurt. I'm sick and tired of it. I'm sick and tired of getting my hopes up and being let down over and over. It's just too much to deal with. And I can't take it any longer.
Guest BabyPeach Posted March 13, 2018 Report Posted March 13, 2018 Okay, if that's what you want. I get it. I had a Daddy before this one and it tore MY heart out when we parted. I think he got over it quickly. Just remember, you don't need a Mommy or a caregiver to be little. I'm a little whether I'm single or not (I've been both as a little).
Rebel Posted March 13, 2018 Report Posted March 13, 2018 I wouldn't give up Turtle. I will say just take a break from the dating scene and just enjoy life. Do everything you love to do, talk and have fun on the forums here, and you are bound to find someone.
TwilightSparklez Posted March 13, 2018 Report Posted March 13, 2018 I know it's a sad thing to hear, but it's true. Every single time I've talked to one, I end up getting hurt. I'm sick and tired of it. I'm sick and tired of getting my hopes up and being let down over and over. It's just too much to deal with. And I can't take it any longer. A mommy is not the most important thing about being little, you are TurtleKid. This is a wonderful time where you can dedicate all your energies to yourself, your hobbies, and anything you like to do. I'm single and I understand it's hard especially when I have been searching for over a year, which in reality isn't all that long. But you know what, I know when I find the right person they are going to be super awesome and special because I had to wait so long; the universe was getting them ready for me and me for them. So this is the time to do whatever you want and grow who you are as a person and don't forget you're little even without a Mommy, your personality does not simply disappear because you don't have one.
Guest curiousmiddle Posted March 14, 2018 Report Posted March 14, 2018 The only reason you should give up on something is because you don’t want it anymore. If you want a mommy, don’t stop looking for one. Yes there’s a possibility you can get your heart broken, but there’s also a chance that you might meet the perfect mommy for you! Life is all about taking risks and going out of your comfort zone. I know from personal experience that loneliness isn’t worth it. I was scared to take risks and put myself out there, I spent years longing for someone but being too scared to look. But I did! And I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. I have 2 amazing people looking after me. I look back at my old self, isolated, 50 walls built to protect myself, and I hate that person. No one should live like that. So take risks! Maybe not kw, but when you’re ready. It’s okay to have some alone time. You don’t need a partner. You can be happy alone, if you let yourself. But if you want one, please, pleeaseee don’t stop looking.
TurtleKid Posted March 14, 2018 Author Report Posted March 14, 2018 I'm just sick as tired of all the heartbreak. I can't even count the number of mommies I've talked to over the years, and hardly any of them got past the first couple days. It was always the same, too. I hate getting my hopes up and get thrown away like a piece of garbage. It's happened even more since I got back on this forum a few months ago. And I too, hate being the "guarded heart" type, but after all this, I feel like I have to be. And it's not JUST with this lifestyle either. It's in the vanilla area too. I've been hurt so many times, it's not even funny. But that's probably my fault cuz I get attached fairly quick. And my depression and anxiety spiral out of control, which makes it worse. I'm just gonna stop trying for awhile. With both online and in real life stuff. It's just too much to deal with, especially when I have other personal stuff going on, on top of that.
Saga Posted March 14, 2018 Report Posted March 14, 2018 I know it's a sad thing to hear, but it's true. Every single time I've talked to one, I end up getting hurt. I'm sick and tired of it. I'm sick and tired of getting my hopes up and being let down over and over. It's just too much to deal with. And I can't take it any longer. Don't give up, there is always light and hope, at the end of every tunnel. Don't give up hope, friend. I bet a 'Mommy' will be glad to have you around - you just haven't found the right one. I'm just sick as tired of all the heartbreak. I can't even count the number of mommies I've talked to over the years, and hardly any of them got past the first couple days. It was always the same, too. I hate getting my hopes up and get thrown away like a piece of garbage. It's happened even more since I got back on this forum a few months ago. And I too, hate being the "guarded heart" type, but after all this, I feel like I have to be. And it's not JUST with this lifestyle either. It's in the vanilla area too. I've been hurt so many times, it's not even funny. But that's probably my fault cuz I get attached fairly quick. And my depression and anxiety spiral out of control, which makes it worse. I'm just gonna stop trying for awhile. With both online and in real life stuff. It's just too much to deal with, especially when I have other personal stuff going on, on top of that. That is completely understandable. Maybe finding one on top of getting hurt and finding a Mommy isn't a great idea. Take a break.
Guest Arc Posted March 14, 2018 Report Posted March 14, 2018 If you want to give up then give up. You don't need others to support or encourage you to give up. If that's what you want then do it. Not sure why you're making a post about it because it kinda seems like you're just looking for attention and/or sympathy. I personally believe it's better to risk being hurt than to risk never finding that happiness. My suggestion would be (if you decide not to give up) to see them as friends and talk for a few days (or even weeks) about what you want and need. If none make it past the first few days it seems like you're rushing into things and not taking that time to establish if your needs are compatible and if you even like each other. Plus if you are friends first then there is no getting hopes up - it sounds like you get super attached way too fast and maybe this can help slow you down. But if you want to give up that's your choice. Perhaps it would be good to take a break and reflect on how things happen and what you can do to minimise the chances of it happening again, should you ever try. 1
RavenclawPrincess Posted March 26, 2018 Report Posted March 26, 2018 I don't necessarily think you should give up BUT I do think you should focus less on finding a mommy. Let things happen naturally with the right person instead of putting so much pressure on yourself to find a partner. Focus on YOU. You don't need a caregiver to be little, and it sounds like you're adding to your own frustration by putting so much emphasis on finding one.
Frog Posted March 26, 2018 Report Posted March 26, 2018 As someone who has given up finding someone, I can see your dilemma. For now, just worry about making friends and learning more about the scene or the world around you. Then revisit your decision from time to time. Not saying you should or shouldn't give up, just try not to worry about it for right now. Worst case, you chose it. Best case, you took a break. C'est la vie, ouais?
Guest Little Otter Posted April 7, 2018 Report Posted April 7, 2018 Take some time. The best thing about being a little is you aren't quite as defined as such based on a partner, unlike doms that have real difficulty expressing themselves when single. We have little space! We can be cute and adorable all the time! The beauty of childlike naivete is a facet of our being, and its wonderful! Of course, everyones little side is unique to them, but this is how being a little is for me. So sure, take some time away from dating and just be yourself and enjoy your time alone as best you can. I hope with time the right mommy finds you. <3
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