The case of the disappearing little

[Guest now_in_3D]

For all the daddies out there this may not come as much of a surprise but nonetheless a painful scenario. A daddy and a little connect. The little decides she wants to call the daddy her own and the daddy gladly accepts. Months pass and all is well. A backstory for this story is that the little was working overseas and the moved back the states. The daddy and little were ecstatic that they'd be mere hours about instead of hours and hours and hours. However once the little moved back a schism formed. The exact source was unclear but the more days that passed the more the unease grew. A side story within the main plot came to light in that the little had some psychological issues that had been hidden until now. The schsim that was forming made the daddy feel guilty that he wasn't doing a good job and paying enough attention to his long distance little so in addition to texting or emailing everyday (calling or Skyping wasn't realistic due to time differences and grown up responsibilities) he would mail her care packages and gifts when he could. Regardless of these attempts to conenct and care for his little as best he could it turned out that part of the lack of response was that the little had growing mental issues which culiminted with a suicide attempt. The daddy felt as though a knife had been plunged into him when he found out but also a bit of helplessness from not having been able to have the trust and confidence built inthe realtionship to be talked to about these sort of concerns. After that incident all seemed well but then the distance crept back in. Repeated attempts to contact the little were met with "Hey you" and then nothing at all. The daddy now wonders what went wrong or if he was somehow responsbile for the problems that the little was facing or how he could heave better helped alleviate her suffering. Or for that matter how mcuh responsibility, if any, he should shoulder for the issues that were outside of his control. Mental illness is a burdensome beast, one that affects not only those upon whose shoulders it rides but all those surrounding that person as well.

 

I'm not sure if there is a moral to the story but there may very well be a lesson to be learned.

 

I'm done now.

[BabyGirlDumb]

First of all, I really enjoyed how this was written, it's beautiful. 

 

Second of all, never think that someone else's mental illness was your fault, or that you could've helped them, the only thing you can do is be there for them and love them, which it definitely sounds like you did/do. 

I think anyone would be lucky to have you as a Daddy, you seem so caring and genuine. 

 

None of this was your fault and none of it could've been made better by you, you obviously have done what you could. These things happen, and it does affect everyone who is involved with that person. (I know too well.)

 

Maybe she just needs some time to herself with her close family and friends, considering it's a long distance thing. 

I hope you're okay, and we are always here to talk c: <3 

[babygirl12]

beautifully written. 

 

I think that people forget that Daddies can get hurt too. 

 

I have heard that some subs and some littles/middles/babygirls do have mental illness. I'm sorry yours wasn't honest about it. 

 

Hoping the best for you. 

 

 

 

[FirmButFair]

Beautifully written and I feel ur pain. Cyber and especially dom/ sub relationships of any kinds need to be founded in trust. From my experience subs find these relationships as an escape, a way to be normal way from the problems they may have "IRL". All doms/ carees can do is hope that what they are being told is the truth and trust, so in answer to your question, no this is not your fault.

[PrincessBunnieButt]

Mental Illness and the side effects of such are no ones fault. You did the best with the information you had. As someone who has suffered from depression in the past I can tell you that there is a point where it doesn't matter what you or anyone else does or says. You just don't want to exist. If this little is still in contact with you I would keep it friendly and soft in communication. Say hello or send her a joke/story or something nice. Not every day but just to give her a smile. I can tell you it will mean the world to her that you are still willing to be even friends. Once she is on a journey to recovery from this spell then let her explain her story to you. :/ I'm sorry this happened to you. She should have been more honest but mental illness makes you do some odd things. 

[Guest Butterfly3]

This is an old thread, but I completely understand that. I have depression and anxiety and issues with abandonment. She should've of said something at the very beginning. Communication is key. And, attention is so needed for littles. I was just reading a blog about it. it's a demanding role as a caregiver. It wasn't your fault, hopefully you talked to her about what you were feeling though. 

[Guest brattynsweet]

First of all, I really enjoyed how this was written, it's beautiful.

 

Second of all, never think that someone else's mental illness was your fault, or that you could've helped them, the only thing you can do is be there for them and love them, which it definitely sounds like you did/do.

I think anyone would be lucky to have you as a Daddy, you seem so caring and genuine.

 

None of this was your fault and none of it could've been made better by you, you obviously have done what you could. These things happen, and it does affect everyone who is involved with that person. (I know too well.)

 

Maybe she just needs some time to herself with her close family and friends, considering it's a long distance thing.

I hope you're okay, and we are always here to talk c: <3

I completely agree with this message.