Marriage and Ddlg

[Guest SamBAMAAM]

I would like to hear from those in the community that are married and living together. What are some of your rules? Is there anything specific to the dynamics of marriage that you think influences ddlg? What have you learned along the way... etc. Whats your stories?

[TheDaddyest]

Oh wow. Another marriage and ddlg thread. albeit a much different one. I'm interested in listening to other couples too. I'd love to know how certain people make it work. especially the ones where the little is a younger variety and there is a family involved. Seems things could get complicated fast being a mother and a young little.

[KaliGuurl]

My Daddy wants to marry me but I don't believe in marriage.

 

That being said, in the event that we would end up getting married, it wouldn't change anything.

 

I don't see why marriage has to change your relationship. I've never understood that line of thinking.

[Mikaitaku]

Getting married should just mean things are really serious.

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

My Daddy and I are engaged and living together, so close enough.

 

For us it's about four things:

- A representation of our commitment

- Safeguarding our children if they are still minors when one of us dies

- Making sure finances are secure for the living person

- Making sure we can make important medical/funeral decisions if the other is unable

 

The law can be really funny about unmarried couples, so we want to avoid problems before they start. That said, being married doesn't mean there's a different commitment to each other. We love each other very much, but we still have to choose each other every day. We've been choosing each other for almost 3 years and marriage doesn't change that.

Edited March 9, 2018 by aphroditelaughs

[AZDaddydom]

My wife and have been married for over 15 years. We found out about ddlg about 3 years ago and slowly been making it part of our relationship. It started off as age play but then we wanted to take it further and incorporate it in our marriage. You know like she calls me daddy more, acts more submissive, uses stuffies, things like that. We are having fun with it. We do have 3 kids 12, almost 9 and almost 2. The kids do add a different dynamic to us trying to live this life style but I think we started early enough most everything we do, except dress up, the kids think it's just mom being fun. Like she has a princess cup too and watched my little pony with them ( the two older ones are girls). So they just think mom is being fun. But I will admit they do make it hard sometimes for her to go into little space because she is always so busy taking care of them so a lot of times she goes to little space when I get home and that's when rules go into place. We are trying to work on a sticker chart for her, a way for daddy to enforce rules when I'm gone but kids do always come first and we understand that. But we are always working on it. I love being married to my princess, I love the commitment we have for one another and how we continue to grow together and build a life we love together. I hope that helped some of what it is like for those that are married, if you have any other questions just ask.

[cutelittlevixey]

Daddy and i have been married 10.5 years. W/we have pretty much always been a D/s couple, but W/we first discovered DD/lg a couple months after the wedding and it was fun and exciting for U/us for a couple of years. W/we backed off that dynamic after O/our first baby was born (about 2 years after getting married)

 

i didn't really want to back off, but i was changing my entire identity in becoming a mother and i was confused about my feelings on DDlg. i never thought it would be gone for good, but it took 7 years for me to finally break down and tell Daddy that i missed that dynamic badly and wanted it back.

 

He was a little taken aback, but He agreed and though it took a while, He and i were able to settle back into those roles.

 

Being with Daddy every day makes some things easier - He is always there to tuck me in or talk to me if i need Him. i am not allowed to curse, i must ask before masturbation, and i am Daddy's for the taking sexually (i am also His slave).

 

But in managing my end of the adult responsibilities, it can be hard to keep that little mindset. W/we have four children now (and are done!), ages 8, 5, 3, and 1. i am a stay at home mom and cooking/cleaning housewife. So my days (and nights when baby wakes up) are consumed by being the responsible one. It gets frustrating at times, because even once they are all in bed, i am often still in "mom" mode.

 

i love being married to Daddy and raising a family together has been an immensely rewarding experience. my advice to anyone, DDlg or not, married or not, is always going to be about improving the way you communicate with each other. It is the MOST important thing couples who are generally compatible should be doing!!

 

i could have saved myself years of heartache and made it easier on Daddy if i had been up front about my desires still being present (once i realized that, myself, of course).

 

i spent years wishing He would initiate it again, feeling horribly too awkward to just ask (even though i am pretty sure in retrospect He wouldn't have thought i was "weird" lol). And He spent those years oblivious that i was desiring DDlg.

Don't do that to yourselves!

[Guest littleloveslars]

I am married to my Daddy. We met online 6 years ago. We have always had an alt relationship, and have grown from there. We have two children and I am currently a housewife. He has to be pretty flexible with me because we just had a baby six months ago, so our structured schedule is a little off. I have a list of rules that we read together weekly during our coaching session. Every Sunday we meet and meal plan, budget, talk about the good and bad parts of our week. I also let Daddy know where I havent done so well, forgetting a rule, disobeying, being disrespectful, and sometimes I get punished. There is also a maintenance aspect to these meetings. We keep notes so that we can review, and to make sure we are accomplishing our short and long term goals. Did you have specific questions about the married DDlg dynamic?

[hisangel]

I'm married to my Daddy too. We started out with domestic discipline and eventually moved to DDlg. We realized the majority of what we were doing already is ddlg without the titles. Having kids (we have 6) does make it harder but we make it work.

[Guest SamBAMAAM]

I am married to my Daddy. We met online 6 years ago. We have always had an alt relationship, and have grown from there. We have two children and I am currently a housewife. He has to be pretty flexible with me because we just had a baby six months ago, so our structured schedule is a little off. I have a list of rules that we read together weekly during our coaching session. Every Sunday we meet and meal plan, budget, talk about the good and bad parts of our week. I also let Daddy know where I havent done so well, forgetting a rule, disobeying, being disrespectful, and sometimes I get punished. There is also a maintenance aspect to these meetings. We keep notes so that we can review, and to make sure we are accomplishing our short and long term goals. Did you have specific questions about the married DDlg dynamic?

No specific questions, I am just interested in hearing more from people in the same position as myself. I am not anywhere near 6 years into the ddlg and appreciate hearing stories and how people work through the little things that can be different when married. Like children and the overall structure of a married couple living together vs an online relationship. We've been married 2 years together for 5 but only within the last 6 months has it changed into ddlg so I am doing my research   

Edited March 16, 2018 by SamBAMAAM

[Guest littleloveslars]

No specific questions, I am just interested in hearing more from people in the same position as myself. I am not anywhere near 6 years into the ddlg and appreciate hearing stories and how people work through the little things that can be different when married. Like children and the overall structure of a married couple living together vs an online relationship. We've been married 2 years together for 5 but only within the last 6 months has it changed into ddlg so I am doing my research

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