Very, very new to all of this

[Guest Dreamless]

I guess Im looking for experienced littles to surround myself with as I learn more about DDlg. Im scard, nervous, excited, basically a rolller coaster of emotions and a billion questions.

 

Whats it like finding a daddy for the first time? Will I be safe? How do I figure out my limits?

 

No need to answer any or all of the above questions. Im just rambling because Im nervous.

[Guest Arc]

Finding a daddy for the first time is different for everyone, because everyone is different. That's a super complex question because emotions aren't always so easy to describe.  

 

A few points on safety

• You will be more safe if you make yourself safe.
• Meet in public places at first. Don't get in their car or go anywhere with them. Stay in public until you are ready to go elsewhere.
• Ask to talk to their previous partners. If they aren't okay with this I would take it as a red flag. Either there's something they don't want you to know, or things ended badly with their exes which is also a bad sign.
• Don't be alone until you are comfortable. And when you are alone, have a safety call in place. 
• If they ever even slightly disrespect what you want get out of there. If someone can't take no for an answer in a vanilla setting it's possible they won't in other settings. 
• Go at your own pace. Don't let them push you for anything more. If they are truly interested in you they will be okay with waiting for things. 

 

As for limits... just think about it. There's checklists out there that you could use as starting points. Carefully consider each one and if you would be willing to try it or not. Some people like to try things once before deciding if it's a limit. You have to think and experiment to find your limits, and over time they change based on experience and how far you are willing to go with your partner. 

 

This is an example of a very simple list. It's a BDSM list, so you may or may not be interested in some points on it. It's just a place to start.  http://danpetersdesigns.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/CEPE-Printable-BDSM-Checklist.pdf