Being bratty once or twice results in your daddy leaving you?

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

Ok. 

 

He left you because he didn't like something, just didn't want to be with you, or had personal issues. Whatever the case, it doesn't seem to be a relationship anymore.  We have no idea what the pretense was for this being a relationship in the first place. May I suggest not jumping into relationships quickly as a good first measure? 

 

People are not mind readers as someone so accurately stated. You can't know or expect someone else to know anything if it isn't discussed. That goes BOTH WAYS!!!!

 

You mention brattiness being listed on your profile, however if it was there, I completely missed it when I just looked... 

 

Nobody has been anything but reasonable in their answers. If anything there has been some excellent points of view and ways of learning for the future. 

 

I asked why she assumed something is wrong with her. We learned because of the time spent looking. If the age posted is correct, really it couldn't be all that long in the grand scheme of things. The other part could be a change of attitude or thought process might go miles in how people perceive you. If you believe something for long enough it often becomes true.  

[Usagi]

I think this was a classic case of miscommunication. Your profile says that you can be a bit bratty and he didn’t pay attention to it, or he did and put it aside.

 

Here’s my whole thing with it: If you’re lookin for a partner, you deserve to be kinda picky. You’re going to be with that person for, hopefully, forever, so it needs to be somebody you like everything about.

 

With looking for a partner as a Daddy, you should be a LOT more picky, because there’s a lot more than goes into it, so you deserve to be a lot more picky. If you just “settle” for a Daddy, you could end up hurt, heartbroken, or something between those lines.

 

It couldn’t hurt to take a month or two to get to know the next partner you have.

 

As for what’s wrong with you, I don’t think there IS anything wrong with you. I think you both just didn’t communicate as well as you should have, and maybe you guys rushed into the relationship. Those aren’t problems with you specifically, a lot of people have this issue, and my advice is to just take it slower.

Edited March 8, 2018 by Usagi

[Guest SUeB]

Was that really needed ?

You're a great deal older and more experienced than PrincessKitten18. 

I'll resist telling you what you sound like..

Was what really needed?  It wasn't intended as an insult. But she was with someone that didn't act like he knew she was a brat, and she had no idea til it was too late that he didn't like brats. That's what the comment related to.

But to the subject that matters here. The op's problem.

All you need to understand is the unpleasant truth that you are not compatible. There is no clear sign of fault on one side more than the other, if there is any at all,

This is likely to happen more than this one time. This is one type of relationship where open communication is vital from the atart. You have to ask and answer questions honestly. You will not gel with everyone. Just because someone calls themselves a daddy, does not mean he would fit as YOUR daddy. The same goes for littles. Not every type of little will fit one particular daddy.

It takes time, and it most often takes trial and error. And patience. A whole lot of patience.

[Guest daddy_zach]

Was what really needed? The obvious truth? Did you see that as intended as an insult? Well, that may say more about you than it does about me. It wasn't intended as an insult. But she was with someone that didn't act like he knew she was a brat, and she had no idea til it was too late that he didn't like brats. That's what the comment related to.

But to the subject that matters here. The op's problem.

All you need to understand is the unpleasant truth that you are not compatible. There is no clear sign of fault on one side more than the other, if there is any at all,

This is likely to happen more than this one time. This is one type of relationship where open communication is vital from the atart. You have to ask and answer questions honestly. You will not gel with everyone. Just because someone calls themselves a daddy, does not mean he would fit as YOUR daddy. The same goes for littles. Not every type of little will fit one particular daddy.

It takes time, and it most often takes trial and error. And patience. A whole lot of patience.

 

"But one where neither of you knew very much about the other".

 

And how precisely do you know how little, or how much they knew about each other

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

I am not a slave girl. I am a little. And if I am not wrong, there is a big difference between a slave girl and a little.

 

PK18, she is referring to herself.  SueB, this might get confusing.

 

 

 

As a reminder for everyone on this thread, the Community Rules and Guidelines state:

 

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Express your opinions but please refrain from attacking a person's intentions or character.

[Guest SUeB]

PK18, she is referring to herself. SueB, this might get confusing.

 

 

 

 

Yes, apologies. It might be easier to put something in brackets when third person is being used. Just trying very hard to follow Daddy/Masters rule!

[baby_k]

First of all: there is nothing wrong with you. You did not do anything wrong. Being YOU is not doing something wrong.

 

If you are bratty, then you are. And that is alright. Some people love that, and you will find eventually someone who loves you just as you are. I'm pretty sure you want to find person like that, right? Not someone you need to change yourself into something else, something you are not. To be loved for who you are is one of the most amazing things in the world, and you will find person who will do just that. <3

People have bad days, stress, difficulties. That is life. People have faults, people make mistakes: we are not perfect robots. I like to think that those cracks and edges are actually the most real things in us. Something you want to know from the person you love. And can even ask is it love if you don't know the other persons darker side and accept it.

 

Why he left? I cannot say. Incompatibility, he had personal issues.... there is tons of reasons. Cruel truth is that if he did not tell you, you will never know that side of the story. Just know that you deserve love just as you are. He left but that does not mean you are somehow faulty, it just did not work out. Cliche maybe, butone day you know why it did not work out: because someone who loves you for you with all your bad sides comes along.

[PrincessKitten18]

First of all: there is nothing wrong with you. You did not do anything wrong. Being YOU is not doing something wrong.

 

If you are bratty, then you are. And that is alright. Some people love that, and you will find eventually someone who loves you just as you are. I'm pretty sure you want to find person like that, right? Not someone you need to change yourself into something else, something you are not. To be loved for who you are is one of the most amazing things in the world, and you will find person who will do just that. <3

People have bad days, stress, difficulties. That is life. People have faults, people make mistakes: we are not perfect robots. I like to think that those cracks and edges are actually the most real things in us. Something you want to know from the person you love. And can even ask is it love if you don't know the other persons darker side and accept it.

 

Why he left? I cannot say. Incompatibility, he had personal issues.... there is tons of reasons. Cruel truth is that if he did not tell you, you will never know that side of the story. Just know that you deserve love just as you are. He left but that does not mean you are somehow faulty, it just did not work out. Cliche maybe, butone day you know why it did not work out: because someone who loves you for you with all your bad sides comes along.

Thank you so much. That definitely made me feel better. Hoping for the best now.

[princessfreckles]

Because I have been looking for someone since ages. And I don't seem to find anyone, or no one seems to like me. So maybe the problem is with me? I am not sure about this..

I'm in the same boat. I'm not very bratty at all. Actually because I'm such a people pleaser, my main goal is to make my Daddy happy and proud. Sadly I've had nothing but negative experiences with Daddies. However, I don't think it's all me. Just like you shouldn't think your Daddy ending things is all you. You're human and can't be expected to be agreeable and well behaved all the time. That's not realistic. 

 

You mentioned before (I believe in your original post) that he wasn't just your Daddy but your serious boyfriend. Maybe it was something else outside of the Caregiver/little side of the relationship that caused the break up? Or maybe he just realize he was in over his head and used the brattiness as an out? 

 

Anyway, I wish you nothing but the best of luck. I know it'll be extremely difficult because I've faced the same thing, but please don't blame yourself for this. 

[Guest Juggalo king]

I think a little being bratty is fine just not all the time

[DominantEmperorTiberius]

What does it mean, to "be bratty"?  Only you know what you mean by that.  Maybe you meant something many of us would consider mild, you snapped at him bc of stress, or maybe it was much more than that, you obstinately refused to obey agreed commands for no reason that you communicated to him, or that you did something that you know made his life more difficult and repeated this behavior.  There's a big difference.  Speaking personally about how I interpret and handle brattiness, I know LG may have some challenges e.g. subdrop after an intense session, that's something daddy should know and understand, but OTOH she may well cross the relationship behavior line e.g. argue deliberately when there is a very stressful situation for both that needs mutual constructive resolution, not more problems.

[jondavids]

Maybe it's not the brat but the distance. Do you talk over the phone? A brat in person is easier to handle than apart imo. Something about the incident being unresolved compared to being there.

[littleprincesscamz]

I think its normal for a little to be bratty once or twice. i’ve been left so many times by my old caregivers because i was “bratty”, but it happens sometimes, i don’t think its fair to leave your little because of that if you really love them, personally it just made me really insecure and even clingier than i already was.

Basically they called me a brat because i didn’t wanna send nudes, that’s the main reason i’ve been left 28376th times.

Don’t do things you don’t wanna do just because you’re scared they’ll leave. if they do, great, it means they weren’t the one.