Heartbroken little girl

[Guest BabyG]

[Guest Loki]

When something like this happens remember - it’s not your fault!

 

Something in his life snapped and he had to change. It’s sad he couldn’t include you in it. Since he didn’t mention anything or attempt to include you, I’d venture he needed a break to see if he still wanted the relationship.

 

He could have handled it more maturely. Don’t let his faults prevent you from loving someone else.

 

It will take time to heal. Let yourself grieve. Cry, eat chocolate, binge Netflix, go for runs - whatever will help you through this.

 

I know this stinks, but you got this. You’ll find love again.

[Bambi95]

Hi there,

 

So I went through some of your posts and couldn't help but notice that you felt he was losing interest as far back as June. Did you not think that this was a sign? After reading through your posts, surely it shouldn't have come as a complete surprise. I don't mean to sound cold and blunt, just noting some things based on what you have shared with the forum. But you were afraid he was losing interest over 9 months ago for a reason. I'm just speculating here, but it is possible that he tried to salvage your relationship over those months and finally realised he cannot do it anymore. 

 

While I know it hurts now, and you will grieve the loss of your love, you will get over it. And you will be grateful he was at least honest with you in the end, and that you can move on with someone you are more compatible with. Another thing I couldn't help notice, is that your last status from October suggests that you were uncomfortable in a poly relationship due to jealousy. Have you considered that perhaps monogamy is more suited to you? 

 

I don't offer advice, as you haven't asked for any. Just pointing out what I have interpreted from your previous posts. 

Edited March 7, 2018 by Bambi95

[Guest BabyG]

Hey thanks for the response, in ways I guess there were signs but I don't think it's fair to base it solely on what I've posted here, I use this as a space to air my concerns but I guess I've never reported back to say we fixed or worked out whatever was bothering me/us. I think it's really normal for relationships to have ups and downs, so it still hurts it's come to an end. Kind of in the same way I don't blab to my friends about how great my life was going all the time but I'd go to them for help in bad times if that makes sense?

[CaresAlot]

Sometimes the price of experience seems high unless you take a step back and see what you got in return.  You got a Daddy for the first time and now you know what it is really like and not just being on the outside looking.  You now have an idea of what you want and what you are willing to give.  Its different when you get some actual experience as opposed to book smart. 

You found a true love and even if it was fleeting, you've gotten a taste.  Now you know that life isn't all about abusive relationships; there are lots of good ones out there.  What price would you pay to learn that.

You have knowedge and know what love is like.  Now you have a chance to put that knowledge to use.  Take your time and focus on those positives.  You will never know all the whys and whatifs, sometimes it just is.  Then get out there and maybe you find more than just a taste.