Daddy hates little space

[unicornbaby]

if he dosent like little space then how he a daddy?

[Guest Arc]

daddy dom little girl. little is the norm. You do know you can disagree with someone without insulting them don't you? 

 

There's a difference between being little and being in little space. The post says he asked to keep little SPACE to a minimum. Not that he didn't want her to be little. 

 

I'm just seriously growing tired of how often people go on about "fake" daddies. There are daddies who do not fit our needs but there is no reason to call them fake. 

Edited March 5, 2018 by ArcOfInfinity

[kai.kai]

Yeah, it sounds like he's trying to make you into what he wants. If he doesn't like you being in littlespace, then, sorry if this is rude, he can't be called a 'daddy'. Ask him why he doesn't like you in littlespace ALL the time, and you guys can talk it out.

[xBabydollx]

He said he likes littlespace to a minimum not to 'never' do it or that he 'never' likes it

[ProfessorDaddy]

I found a lot of interesting perspectives to ponder here.

And while I agree with you in spirit, ArcofInfinity, I do think there are definitely self-described "daddies" who are nothing of the sort.

I've seen some of them on here, a few with active posts. Some harmless, some likely not.

It's a problem in the community, and it's also a problem how much the word "fake" is bandied around. I was surprised to find that, given that all my ddlg interactions until I joined were "irl" and with no community to speak of, aside from the vague recognition of one.. somewhere.

 

It might be useful if the original poster weighed in on some of the opinions. I understand she might be hesitant because of the opinionated responses, but remember that this is YOUR relationship. You know it better than anyone else.

 

That being said, it does sound like he's "downsizing" your little space, perhaps with the intention of not engaging at some point... and may not be cut out for this. And that's fine. Do what you can. Talk. Find something that suits you both, or start thinking about other alternatives. 

 

I wish you both the best, though. It's a difficult situation.

[Mikaitaku]

He said he likes littlespace to a minimum not to 'never' do it or that he 'never' likes it

It amounts to the same thing. Why else would he say keep it to a minimum.

[Mikaitaku]

He said he likes littlespace to a minimum not to 'never' do it or that he 'never' likes it

It amounts to the same thing. Why else would he say keep it to a minimum.

There's a difference between being little and being in little space. The post says he asked to keep little SPACE to a minimum. Not that he didn't want her to be little. 

 

I'm just seriously growing tired of how often people go on about "fake" daddies. There are daddies who do not fit our needs but there is no reason to call them fake.

 

You act as if that makes a difference, keeping it to a minimum is the same as saying don't do it. No one is calling him fake, but they are out there plain and simple. If you are so tired of denying that fakes exist that is your personal problem not ours.

[Mikaitaku]

This isn't the time or place to start a fight about fake or not.

[Guest Arc]

Well as far as I can tell nobody was starting a fight. And I never said it was your problem. Just stating my thoughts, which is allowed.  

 

Anyway... keeping it to a minimum is definitely not the same thing as never do it. If he never wanted it to happen then he would say "don't do it" instead of "keep it to a minimum." Keeping it to a minimum is asking not to do it as much, not to never do it at all. 

 

It's up to the OP to sort things now. Only so much we can do since we don't know the entire situation.

[xBabydollx]

It does not amount to the same thing. Some ppl may like this lifestyle 24/7 while others like it occasionally. Not everyone wants or enjoys 'Daddy mode' or 'little mode' often. Everyone is different.

[Guest Arc]

It does not amount to the same thing. Some ppl may like this lifestyle 24/7 while others like it occasionally. Not everyone wants or enjoys 'Daddy mode' or 'little mode' often. Everyone is different.

 

 

This is one of the best ways of putting what I think several of us have been trying to say. It sounds a lot like OP's partner isn't up for being in his daddy mode as much as OP is in little space. Doesn't make him any less of a daddy. Just means his needs/wants are different and they need to talk it out and find a middle ground so they can both have what they need  

[TheDaddyest]

It seems like a lot of ppl are looking over the fact that he didn't say to never go into littpespace. He said he prefers it at a min. So clearly he enjoys it, just perhaps not as often or to the same degree as the OP. Perhaps his preference is something that changed overtime. It happens. Anyways, what to do now? u said it ur self, u are not satisfied. Talk to him and find a middle ground for u to be satisfied. Maybe find a babysitter or get a second Daddy. If none of that is a possibility, and if he isn't willing to give a bit more while u dial back some, then u can stay and sacfrafice that part of u or move on to find someone who is better compatible. It always sucks to hear, but ppl grow and change, and what was once a good match can turn into it being not so. That's nobodies fault. Its up to u to accept it, work on it if both are willing to compromise, or find someone better suited.

 

I totally agree, but remember to talk out the whole situation before going to any plan involving a second daddy or babysitter. Poly is cases of monogamy like this should be a last resort if there is little to no compromise between you two and you both refuse to break it off. Talking to him about a babysitter or a second daddy too soon could really damage his self esteem and confidence, his trust in the relationship and even his trust in you. 

 

Little's aren't the only fragile people who can be self conscious in a relationship. Even if we are good at hiding our vulnerabilities as to not worry our littles most of the time, they do exist and depending on the Dom something like that could be really destructive. 

 

When I was a freshman in highschool I was friends with this amazing senior who kind of too me under her wing. After my first real relationship ended I was totally destroyed.  She told me that the purpose of dating isn't exactly as most people view it. You aren't dating to find the one and only, perfect other for yourself, you are dating to weed out those who aren't that. 

 

Also keep in mind perfection is a bit of a hyperbole when it comes to romance. If you are right for each other in other ways besides ddlg, and he does make some fort of compromise about increasing the daddy/little time even if it's not totally satisfactory, you should think hard about if it's a good enough situation for you. 

 

I totally understand there are some littles out there who need much more than the minimum no exceptions. If that's you and He's not the type of daddy to be able to handle that responsibility it will save you a lot more heart ache by looking for a daddy who is more inline with your needs and also prefers a similar time spend as daddy/little. 

 

Personally I'm very flexible and can deal with a large amount of little time, but I also need some intellectual stimulation and one on one outside d/l tme. So no matter how much I like someone who's 24/7 I've learned to not pursue it. And if I end up in a situation where I'm already dating a little like that I too discuss my concerns and try to compromise first.  

[roobarbandcustard]

wtf u deserve better