Please Help.

[angelll]

My LDR boyfriend and I began a ddlg relationship about 4 months ago.

Since then, I have had two days of being little completely, and every other day I have only been little in the evening around twice a week.

Recently my daddy has said that he is tired out by being a daddy, and that it is hard work. He says he needs to drop everything to look after little me, and he only wants to be daddy when he is in a happy mood. I've told him that being little is a headspace and I can't exactly control falling into it, and he said he understands.

I asked daddy if he felt as though he was acting when he was daddy, and he said he wasn't, but his answer wasn't very convincing.
What do I do? He keeps asking for breaks from being daddy but I rarely get to be little as it it.

Please help

Edited February 27, 2018 by angelll

[DaddyHudsonValleyNewYork]

Don't force the interaction. If he's under pressure at work or school he will start to resent you.

Do whatever you can to take care of him. Cook for him, kiss him, cuddle. .Make him feel appreciated and he will baby you eventually. He will think to himself, wow this girl is so sweet.

 

I'm not scolding you but I find that some submissives tend to forget that their doms need to be cared for too and not just sexually.

[angelll]

Don't force the interaction. If he's under pressure at work or school he will start to resent you.

Do whatever you can to take care of him. Cook for him, kiss him, cuddle. .Make him feel appreciated and he will baby you eventually. He will think to himself, wow this girl is so sweet.

 

I'm not scolding you but I find that some submissives tend to forget that their doms need to be cared for too and not just sexually.

We are in a LDR, which I forgot to add. I do care for him as much as I can

[Guest Arc]

I agree with what's said above. Sometimes we forget how much they give us and just expect some things. 

 

I'm sure your Daddy doesn't see his role as an act. If he has a lot of stress or a busy day or is just tired he might just want some time to himself to relax. Daddies do so much for us and sometimes they need a break. Maybe he only wants to be a Daddy when he's in a good headspace because it means he can give you his all and not be distracted by other life things. 

 

Talk to him about it. Maybe you can come up with something for you when he's not up to it. Maybe he could give you tasks to do by yourself for him. That might even cheer him up if you're doing something he enjoys.  

[angelll]

I agree with what's said above. Sometimes we forget how much they give us and just expect some things. 

 

I'm sure your Daddy doesn't see his role as an act. If he has a lot of stress or a busy day or is just tired he might just want some time to himself to relax. Daddies do so much for us and sometimes they need a break. Maybe he only wants to be a Daddy when he's in a good headspace because it means he can give you his all and not be distracted by other life things. 

 

Talk to him about it. Maybe you can come up with something for you when he's not up to it. Maybe he could give you tasks to do by yourself for him. That might even cheer him up if you're doing something he enjoys.

But this has been since we started, and I don't understand

Part of me wants to do it privately, so he doesn't need to make himself stressed. He only ever seems stressed when I'm little.

I don't know what to do

[Guest BabyPeach]

You have several choices..........you can end the relationship if you feel you two are incompatible (it's only been 4 months, not 40 years) or you can do as others have said and just help him out and be there for him or you can help him out and be there for him and be little on your own most of the time.  

 

I have been a single little so I can little on my own.  I don't know your little age, but you could do something little for him like color him a picture (no Daddy stress), etc. Then again, I'm not a little who needs a lot of Daddy guidance and stuff.  I can make my own decisions and don't need to be told to do things like brush my teeth, etc. We're all different though.  If he can't Daddy at the level you need in the beginning, he probably won't be able to do it later.  Being a caregiver is HARD work and takes a lot of dedication.

[cherrylipgloss]

Remember that it's a lot harder to be a caregiver than it is to be a little... He might be going through some things that he just doesn't want to worry you with. Maybe talk to him about it and try to expect less from him to make it easier until he's feeling better. Sometimes caregivers need to start off small and gradually learn to take care of their littles to the full extent! If he ends up not giving you what you need to be happy, maybe you should think about your options.

[Guest daddy_zach]

Hi lil girl

 

As others have said.. Being a care-giver is no easy thing.

Perhaps he has more outside worries and concerns than you are aware of;

and this is affecting his desire or ability to give you what you need presently.

 

You say that you 'care for him as much as you can'.

I'm not judging you in any way, but that statement is quite ambiguous to me.

If you care a great deal about him, then I suggest giving him a little time and a lot of affection.

It might be just what is needed to get things back on track.

 

The alternative, is to consider, that the two of you may just want different things.

Perhaps it is a temporary difference. Or perhaps the two of you sadly, do not suit each other.

 

ddlg can be a very demanding relationship for both parties. LDR are never easy.

Both of you need to be happy, with what you get from your relationship with each other.

 

 

I wish you both the best of luck, and hope things work out well for both of you.

Edited February 28, 2018 by daddy_zach

[DaddyHudsonValleyNewYork]

But this has been since we started, and I don't understand

Part of me wants to do it privately, so he doesn't need to make himself stressed. He only ever seems stressed when I'm little.

I don't know what to do

Ask him to talk to you about his life. He may need to vent and he may not want to burden you. Have an honest conversation about his life and you may learn something.