In a relationship who isn't really into it.

[Guest ₦intendo ¢artridge]

I am currently in a relationship where the girl isn't really into the DD/lg. She calls me "daddy" during sexual stuff but it's more of the "tumblr daddy" stuff. I would like to know how to approach the situation with her. I don't want to her force her to do it but I would like to know how to ask her if she would be willing to try. I would like to know how to bring it up to her.

She is also to independent and head-strong. Like when I am around her I become super submissive.

Edited February 27, 2018 by §witch Ðaddy

[Guest Snow White]

I feel you on this, I used to be in a long term relationship when I first found out about DDlg and when I brought it up to him, he didn't really care that much for it. Like I could tell he tried to be daddy-like but it just wasn't in his nature, I guess.

 

 

 

I feel like you shouldn't push anyone into something they're not into because imagine how you would feel if you were that other person, but I feel like you should talk to her about how she really feels about this and be like super objective about lol (well I don't mean SUPER objective but you get the gist lmao)

 

 

My advice is just to not be afraid of being really open and vulnerable when talking about stuff like this to your SO, just so they can see how important this issue is to you lol idk if that helps but I tried lmaooo ♡♡♡

Edited February 26, 2018 by Snow White

[Mikaitaku]

Maybe just ask out right. You should know enough to know that you shouldn't try to force people to do things they don't want to

[Guest Arc]

Only way about it is open communication and complete honesty. If you don't say exactly what you want then she might not understand it.

 

If she's not into it, then she's not into it and there's nothing you can do about that. But you have nothing to lose by trying, so go ahead and ask for her thoughts on it

[Cassiel_pup]

I agree with the above posters. Also, you might have to do a tad of explaining to let her know that the tumblr version of Ddlg isn't all there is to it and that it's like any other relationship: sure, there may be sex involved, but there are entire regions of relationship goodness to be experienced outside the bedroom. If you don't want to ask her outright, try asking a couple questions to get a feel for her comfort level with the idea; maybe ask what she thinks about the daddy kink outside the bedroom, or things like that.