Rant

[Guest Playful Bunny]

I was a member of the ddlg community for over a year now. I say was because i need a break from it all. I was in a steady relationship with a man who promised me a different experience to my previous relationship which was quite emotionally and mentally abusive. Things were going well for a while before i became ghosted on and after eight months he decided to make a reappearance in my life. I acknowledge that my decision to take him back was probably my dumbest decision yet but i did and he later ghosted again for another two times for shorter periods. During this time i believed that i was doing the right thing waiting for him and fighting for our "love". I accepted his apologies but my will for us to survive wasn't enough and i had given up on him and his cold distant behaviour and sexual demands. However this is when he wanted to change but yet again he lied to me and ghosted me whilst being on this forum. I regret allowing him to manipulate and abuse my feelings and i hate it took me so long to break free.

 

If anyone experiences ghosting please do not tolerate it like i didm it doesn't get any better.

[ProfessorDaddy]

Well said. 

Our hearts, hopes, and aspirations make us vulnerable.

That's part of what it is to let someone into your life, and share it with them; 

It's allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, and hope that this person

with whom you've dropped your guard and exposed your heart, won't abuse that vulnerability.

 

And this is quite the betrayal of that trust. 

I'm really sorry that you suffered this abuse, both before, and the variation thereafter in your next relationship.

 

Thank you for reaching out to people,

and trying to help them hold on to their own dignity, and their mental/emotional health.

And avoid the jaded pessimism or anxiety about people in general that comes when someone damages a person this way.

 

These users and abusers are parasites... They leave scars. An indelible mark on our soul. 

 

But you're using your pain, and the lessons you learned from it, to reach out.

And I think that's sort of amazing.

 

 

I hope they take heed and listen.

Because stories like this are all too common in the community.

 

It breaks my heart to think of all the people who experience suffering like this, when they just want love, support, and companionship.

 

Thank you for sharing.

And I truly hope you find that companionship you deserve,

whether in a romantic relationship, or just through friendship.

Find those people who lift you up, and would never tear you down.