Being told not a true little

[buggyhockey1988]

I just had a daddy tell me I'm not a true little just because my little space is not 24/7. I am a true little. My little is part of me just because I usey regression as a stress reliever does not mean I'm not a little.I found what he said very rude and gurtful

[Guest Avera]

That's seems like a really weird thing to say tbh, I don't even know where he is coming from.

[Guest DaddyDean]

Don't worry about someone saying something so ridiculous.  My guess is that it is one of those all knowing E-Daddy's who have no idea what a r/l little is like. 

[buggyhockey1988]

That's seems like a really weird thing to say tbh, I don't even know where he is coming from.

I told him that my little is non sexual and that I tend to go into little space when im stressed or my adhd is acting up, this was his responds 

"That means you’re not a little by definition. You just have it as a way out while having issues. In that case you need to inform your future daddy that he should be a daddy only when you’re having trouble, not when you’re just you. It’s a pity that ddlg-relationships are used in such cases"

[buggyhockey1988]

Don't worry about someone saying something so ridiculous.  My guess is that it is one of those all knowing E-Daddy's who have no idea what a r/l little is like. 

I hate it.. It really hurts that someone would say that

[Guest Arc]

There is no definition for a little, and there is no wrong way of being a little. Just because you don't fit his expectations does not mean you won't fit someone else's.

 

He seems very set in the one true way mindset. Personally I wouldn't pay any attention to it. You'll find someone who understands and works well with how you are in time. Don't let him put you off.

[buggyhockey1988]

There is no definition for a little, and there is no wrong way of being a little. Just because you don't fit his expectations does not mean you won't fit someone else's.

 

He seems very set in the one true way mindset. Personally I wouldn't pay any attention to it. You'll find someone who understands and works well with how you are in time. Don't let him put you off.

I know the only reason I messaged him is because he sent me a rude message about being an a sexual little (which i am not) and I was very polient and explained to him that I was a non sexual little and it went on from there

[Daddydompdx]

He doesnt sound like a true daddy. Dont let him upset you. He is mistaken. His lack of understanding makes me believe he was only looking for the sexual aspect of ddlg

[buggyhockey1988]

He doesnt sound like a true daddy. Dont let him upset you. He is mistaken. His lack of understanding makes me believe he was only looking for the sexual aspect of ddlg

It makes me sad that there are daddies out there. Someone is going to fall for his trap and get hurt

[Guest littlekittyvixen]

In my opinion he was just being a big meanie. We are all littles in our own different ways. He was no Daddy trust me I have had my share of his kind. Do not let that get you down. You should stand proud and say "I am a little" and no one can do sh*t about it (probably get punished for swearing) anyway.. if he can't understand that you cannot be a little 24/7 then he should take a hike... for real. You are amazing and wonderful no one can tell you otherwise. A daddy who cannot see that isn't worth crap and surely not your time ..... be free doll .... peace

[Guest mayachan]

I think his thinking is pretty weird normally I would think i't just matter of opinion. You think ddl means this he thinks it means that, and such. You think differently argument ensues - easy.

But actually living as a little 24/7 is pretty hard. First I think you need to live with daddy and he need to be pretty resourceful both financially and in time management sphere. He need to get enough money to care of your needs but also need to spend a lot of time with you... and it should be all in correct atmosphere and such... I don't think there are many full time littles, i am pretty sure of that. Telling you you're not little because you haven't achieved this what most of us just dream ? It's not being mean - it's cruelty in my eyes.

If someone would be so sure yourself to ask me this question, answer is simple. I would ask him bluntly - how he see it and does he can afford it at all in first place. And why i should trust him so much to even give that much power over myself to him. This would propably end the discussion in quick manner.

Edited February 21, 2018 by mayachan

[Guest curiousmiddle]

There's no 'right' way to be little. There are many different ways one can be little, and each individual way is acceptable. Some stay little 24/7, some only once a week or even once a year. Some don't even go into little space, they just enjoy the lifestyle. Some may do it for sexual reasons, others may not. Some use it to manage stress or past traumas, some just do it because it's fun. However you decide to be little, it's okay. You're still little and have every right to call yourself one. No two littles are the same. There are stereotypes, sure, but there is no textbook way to be little.

 

You ARE little! 

[Guest Loki]

I’d venture he doesn’t know what he’s talking about. DDlg is vastly complex and nothing complex is simple. He has reduced DDlg into one thing, and that’s silly.

 

Expecting anyone you don’t know to be little 24/7 is bizzare. A little has to pay bills, clean house, maybe go to school, and expecting someone to do all that in little space is baffling. Of course a little with a caregiver could have the opportunity to be little 24/7.

 

I’ll going to guess he wanted something fast and when he didn’t get it he lashed out.

 

It’s not you. You’re a little. He’s an ignoramious.

Edited February 21, 2018 by Loki’s Shadow

[xBabydollx]

Idk why ppl are calling him not a true daddy. It just seems like yall have different expectations. He perhaps desire a more 24/7 DD/lg relationship and perhaps someone who is more often in littlespace because it is part of who they are, vs someone who it may only be triggered sometimes or rarely. His approach is rude yes, but wanting to be 24/7 or not doesn't make someone 'not true'. It just makes u both incompatible and that's ok

[KaliGuurl]

If I dwelled on all the mean things people say to me online I would never get out of bed.

 

Seriously, don't focus on negative stuff like that.

 

Just move on and stop dwelling over it.

[Guest BabyPeach]

Most littles aren't 24/7 littles.  I'm not little 24/7 and I don't want to be.  In fact, I couldn't be.  I love little me but I also love adult me.  Adulting is hard sometimes, but rewarding.  I don't want to depend on anyone 24/7 to take care of 3 year old me.  I couldn't put myself into that vulnerable place 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.  Um, no. It's my opinion (yes, I said opinion because some might not agree) that nobody should put themselves at the mercy of someone else 24/7.  We need to have jobs and go to college and go out into the world and function and be able to pay our bills and support ourselves.  A Daddy can break up with you at any moment (and let's face it, most couples don't last a lifetime) so you have to be able to take care of yourself.  

 

Also, a Daddy is a Daddy whether you're little or adult at any moment.  He's still Daddy.  You just keep being you.  There's a caregiver out there for you.

[Maarloeve]

jerks like that need to be hip checked right through the boards.

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

I noticed your earlier status named the person this thread is about. I understand that you are hurt and frustrated, but imagine how this topic might make them feel. Probably not much better than you do now. Next time something like this happens it might be a better idea to report the messages to the mods and move on. Edited February 22, 2018 by aphroditelaughs

[Little Illy]

SFW - https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/23301-fake-it-needs-to-stop/ 

 

That is everything I have to say about being "Fake" or "not a real X". It is applicable to every role (Daddy, LG, Mommy, LB, etc) and honestly no one has the right to say you are not a real little. 

 

Don't let him bring you down. He just made it easier for you to hit the "block" button and never have to worry about him again. I know it hurts, I really do. I've been told I'm not a real little because I don't like pink. Or I'm not a real little because I had never gone into littlespace (at the time) and many more. Don't ever let anyone tell you who you are just because they want something from you. You owe people nothing other than to be yourself.

[buggyhockey1988]

jerks like that need to be hip checked right through the boards.

Hockey reference!! I like it!!

[Guest NorCalDD]

NO ONE defines who you are. YOU do. Never ever let people steal your dreams or ideals. Even if they go against the norm. Be YOU. It might feel odd at times, but you need to be you. I have found that having inner peace and love for myself has opened so many more doors in my life. I come across genuine, because I AM genuine. Not everyone accepts me, I am totally fine with that because I accept myself. 

 

Love yourself, and push aside those that hold you back in life.

[MissCri]

I'm new here but anyway..has he found the definition in a dictionary?!I don't think so..

The way he sees things it's not the only or the right way, he's only an immature jerk who doesn't know the importance of respect.

You should do only things that make you comfortable and happy and only you have a say in what you are!and a real daddy should know this!

[Guest NorCalDD]

I'm new here but anyway..has he found the definition in a dictionary?!I don't think so..

The way he sees things it's not the only or the right way, he's only an immature jerk who doesn't know the importance of respect.

You should do only things that make you comfortable and happy and only you have a say in what you are!and a real daddy should know this!

Whoa whoa whoa... now you're saying "a real daddy"... see the hypocrisy? 

[MissCri]

If you prefer I can say "a real human being",because a person should always respect the others!

[Guest ScorpioBeastWolf]

Indeed you are a little and he just a fake DD. A real DD never plays with the sentiments, emotions. He never hurts knowingly, he even tries not to hurt a little unknowningly. It is not necessary you are a little 24*7, because you are also to be in the world and face it. So, don't take his words to be true and you just be you. No DD ever is harsh.