Transitioning from a Dom/sub lifestyle to Daddy/little.

[Jason.n]

To begin, I've read countless things about the DDlg lifestyle, but different people might hit on things I have questions about.

I've been in BDSM for a few years and am Dominant, what's the overall difference between the two?

What is the trigger to being a caregiver?

Is there another mindset you have to be in?

I'm assuming the little needs a different treatment than a submissive?

[Guest lil-kitten22]

I was originally a sub, then became a little. In my experience a Daddy is more caring, touchy-feely and loving then a Dom. Littles need more love and cuddles then a submissive does. I added you as a friend if you had anymore questions. Unfortunatly i dont know the trigger or mindset for a daddy, but i do know the switch.

[unicornbaby]

A daddy is more like a parent like partner. and you would treat a little with lots of love and care. and punishments is something you gotta watch because i know a subd punishment is usually harsher dan a littles!

[Aquavita]

In my opinion DDlg relationship is more sensitive and protective than standard dom/sub. Daddy is somebody who cares about his little, about apple of his eye. He can do anything for his little, just like a parent. 
Also littles are not typical submissives. They can be cute, submissive bur also bratty and moody. Just like kids. 
Punishment for littles isn't so strong like for typical submissives. Punishment is form of teaching.

 

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

My Daddy isn't any less dominant just because we're a DDlg couple. We're a D/s couple, because at its core DDlg is still a kink and a power exchange dynamic. Treatment just depends on the person.

[Guest Arc]

I'm primarily a sub, but for over a year I have been with a Daddy Dom. In general, I would say DDLG is less harsh and more gentle, caring, and nurturing. But in reality it is whatever you make of it, just like BDSM is.

 

Being a Daddy is like being a Dom. It's either in you or it's not. You can't magically become something you aren't. And also like BDSM, things can change so much depending on who you are with. It's something you have to work and negotiate based on the needs of both you and the person you're with. 

[Onesie]

A true daddy loves and takes care of you like a little girl. You are his responsibility. So, of course he has the right to make the rules and administer the punishments. It's the little girl's job to do what she's told, surrender to his punishments and let him know we'd be lost without him. His is to let us know we are adored. The rules are in our best interests and the punishments are to teach us lessons.

ADLG requires far more love and responsibility than just Sub/Dom. 

[Onesie]

 I was raised to be a submissive wife.  I think we evolved into a Daddy and little because of some of my husband's rules and punishments. I have a bedtime because on my own I'll stay up late and be cranky. My husband made me suck my thumb during lectures then sent me to bed or nap time. Now I can't go to sleep unless I'm sucking my thumb.  He started dressing and undressing me when I broke the dress code and never stopped because we liked it like bathing and feeding me . The more dependent I am, the more I worship him, the more proud I am when I make him proud like when his friends say what a good girl I am. The more impossible it feels to disobey, shameful even. It is nature and nurture. It requires both work and the tendencies to be there in the first place 

[moondust mochi]

My Daddy is my partner, my best friend, my protector, my Caregiver and my Dominant. We're all multifaceted and I find that not all one size fits us, just like clothing! The difference between a Dom and a Daddy is really just about preference of the partner. Dominants are no less nurturing than Daddies, and I know some Daddies who are really sadistic and dark! Rules and punishments can exist in both dynamics. I think it's entirely dependent on what you and your partner prefer to label your dynamic as.

[Onesie]

I was a submissive, obedient wife. My punishments were just spankings but that didn't work. Then my husband/daddy started making stand in the corner. He gave me a bed time. He dressed me in onesies and diaper punished me because I need humiliation. It's been ten years I've been a little and we're very happy