Late start

[Helloprincess88]

Maybe I’m the only one here in the same boat, but we’ll see. Here goes.

 

Hi all! I recently discovered that being a little is even a thing. Now that I’ve discovered it I want to explore it. Except now I’m 29 with a family. When I was younger I loved to dress up, shop at Claire’s, purchased some cute hello kitty clothes and things. My entire life I’ve been trying to bury this part of myself, assuming I was the only one and that I was somehow weird or strange whenever I would play dress up by myself in my room.

 

How do I breach the topic to my partner without scaring him off? How do I find this part of myself I’ve buried so deep and be comfortable with who I truly am? Thank you all!!!

[Guest PrincessPuppyPaws]

Welcome! You're definitely not the only one! ​Lots of little's have families and still manage to explore and enjoy their little side. It's great you're no longer trying to bury this side of you ​Sometimes people will let a bit of their little side slip out just to see how their partner reacts or if they'll catch on. You could try that and decide your next move based on what happens? I genuinely feel if someone loves you unconditionally they'll try to understand and accept anything you have to tell them. They should respect the courage it takes to be open about this and that you're trusting them with something so personal. I think an important part is how you explain it to them - the right or wrong words can make a big difference. Maybe think about what being little means to you, why you do it, how it makes you feel etc. It's hard to truly advise you because you're the one who knows your partner best... Being little is completely normal and I've even heard of people being told they should try it as a healthy way of coping with stress or trauma by medical professionals. Once you accept who you are I think that part of you will slowly start to grow and become comfortable. Try making small changes, like wearing silly/cute socks that make you feel little because that's discreet, maybe start buying colouring books (perhaps adult ones and slowly change to more little ones) start drinking out of cute cups, things like that. Joining this forum is a great start because you can make friends with others and learn more. I hope this helps!

Edited February 16, 2018 by PrincessPuppyPaws

[Helloprincess88]

Thank you for the very thoughtful reply! You make wonderful suggestions. I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but you’re very welcoming! I sincerely appreciate the feedback.

 

<3

[baby_k]

I don't think you have to immediately say that "i'm a little!". You are exploring it anyhow yourself also, so, just start exploring and try things.

 

You like that onesie? Get it and just say you liked it, same with any other stuff. You don't have to go fullblown stereotype of a little with all belts and whistles. Just be somewhat open of your own journey of exploration and take one small step at the time. And I also mean this with other than physical stuff: add new behaviours or start letting go in situations. You can also browse little stuff or blogs openly (so your parter may see) without making a fuss of it. You don't need little space or something like that, you can just start trying to be you. Little by little

 

I would also assume it is easier to adapt to your little side if it is gradual: your partner (and even kids to some limit!) know about that side and it is familiar before there is any label. As that side is just you. Maybe you like the Disney films, maybe you love stickers and like decorating things with them, maybe you want your partner to take a lead and choose restaurant. That is just you and I'm pretty sure your partner loves you for you anyhow.

 

Big dramatic changes of course can be scary to anyone and if you are not sure about how you are, it is more than okay, and probably even easier for your partner. But in the end best way is of course to talk to your partner: tell that you have got an interest in the little stuff. Again: you don't have to say you are little, just that those things make you curious and you like looking at them and doing some things like that make you relax (like colouring, I think it has been a trend anyhow and not related to being litle, so you can talk about it without even mentioning littles). You can also just make it a side note "oh, i stumbled into this thing called littles in internet, sort of cute and interesting that grown ups love cutesy stuff" (or watever is your thing in little stuff, if it is more sexual, then say it that way). Then your partner has more time to get used to the idea -and maybe even to know you are little before you actually talk about it.

[Helloprincess88]

Hey babyK! I thought I had responded but saw that I hadn’t. Thank you for the thoughtful reply <3

[EmilyLittle]

Hi Helloprincess88

 

I'm Emily, and I'm 31 and have a similar story. I too only just discovered DDlg and littles and I'm pretty sure I'm a little - still learning.

 

I've been experimenting letting my little side out a bit, for me colouring is a good outlet and I'm hoping to get some outfits soon that are more on the little side but still big too.

 

With your partner I don't know. I've always been able to talk with my partner about anything and recently found out he has a little side too. One thing we did recently is find a good kink list and fill it out. Especially since I've always been pretty vanilla until recent.

 

The suggestion from babyk is good "I just came across this, have you ever heard of this?" Or even just those social media lists about kinks or fetishes - you know the whole "21 kinks you've never heard of" reading them out and researching them can be a good starter for talking.

 

Best of luck and feel free to message me.

 

Emily

[PrincessKittenCupcake]

When I finally put all the pieces together and realized I was a Little, I was in my late-twenties. My vanilla relationship was about to hit the ten-year mark.

 

You know your partner best. What do they like? Which aspect of DDLG do you think will appeal to them the most? Which aspect do you think will be the most natural for them?

 

For example, my partner worried a lot about my safety, so rules and regulating my comings and goings really appealed to him. The relationship grew and changed over time, but that was what initially got him excited about it, so it was a good jumping off point.

[MissCri]

Hi girls!I also was worried about being "late" because I've discovered ddlg only recently..so it's very comforting to know

there are others in the same boat!

[Guest BabyPeach]

It's never too late to discover you're a little.  I know a little in her forties.  There are littles of all ages, sizes, heights, shapes, genders, etc.  I absolutely love the diversity of this community.  The majority does seem to be young, but there are older littles out there. <3  As far as talking to your husband about this, it's tricky.  People who don't know about this (and people who do know about this but still refuse to be understanding) can freak out and get disgusted because they think that we are something we are not (I can't say what because I don't want to get a warning for using words we aren't allowed to use on this site, but I'm sure you know what I mean). Definitely emphasize that this is a kink (what I consider it, but you don't have to) that ONLY involves CONSENTING ADULTS.

Edited February 24, 2018 by BabyPeach

[Helloprincess88]

Thank you all so much! I am amazed how much I’ve opened up just in the last month

[AZDaddydom]

Like the others here I agree, it's never too late to discover the little side of you. I think too often we see what society feels is acceptable and if we feel different than we shouldn't. But that's not the case as you found when you found this community. Being little is a thing like being into games, camping, traveling, thrill rides, ect. It's something that makes you feel at peace or it helps with stress or just something you love to do or be. I agree that it's not something you can take though, it's something that's inside you that you love and are. Sometimes like my wife, it doesn't come out till much later. We have been married 15 years and in the last 2 years has started opening up to her little side. I've always known she has had little tendencies, i.e. loves to color, snuggles, is naturally submissive around me, loves bubble baths, likes to wear her feety jammies and other stuff but never really thought about it as a thing until I introduced it to her. She is still learning about it and having kids makes it hard to get into that space but she does enjoy it when daddy comes home to take care of everything and she can stop faulting. Your never too old for I think, I hope your partner will be understanding and willing to help you and be apart of this.

[littlekikidfw]

I am new to being little as well. Been seeing an experience Daddy but we haven't gone into age play yet. He did buy me my first stuffy! I hope that your partner is very understanding. Communication I have found is key.