Completely new to this!

[Ashweebooxx]

So I have always been into bdsm. Its always been something i have really enjoyed the thought of. I particularly enjoyed the daddy kink, but more than the other aspects of bdsm. So i got into digging and found ddlg. I found ddlg around 4 years ago. I would like to know from all of your perspectives, what is ddlg to you? What is little space to you? What is being a daddy to you? All of these questions are completely subjective. For me, im not sure if i am a little. I dont know what makes me one.

[Guest Arc]

What makes a little is just being one. There is no set way to do it. Try ignore all stereotypical expectations like loving pink and wearing diapers and baby talk. Be yourself. If you feel and identify as a little then you are. There are so many types of littles and middles. Not fitting a mould doesn't make you less of a little because being little is whatever you make of it. Want diapers and a paci? That's cool. Don't want them? That's cool also. Prefer black over pink - also cool. It's what you want. 

 

I'm part of both the BDSM and DDLG communities. Both of them to me are not just a thing between two people, but a whole community that accepts everyone and where people can share skill and an understanding in each other. You can do everyday things or things that people haven't heard of and it's all okay. It's your thing and you can't do it wrong. BDSM and DDLG are just ways for me to express myself without being judged or thrown aside for being a freak. 

 

I don't have a little space because I identify as a middle. 

 

And to me my Daddy is my safe place. He's where I go whenever I need someone because he is always there to love me unconditionally and set me back in my place if he needs to. My Daddy is someone who I have a relationship where we equally give and take to make us happy and to constantly improve each other. He takes care of me, and I take care of him. He encourages me to improve and is proud of everything I do, and I do the same for him. He's also the first person to kick my arse and tell me if I'm being unreasonable or illogical, and I get to do the exact same to him as well. He's the person I love, my best friend, and my cheerleader. 

[Guest mayachan]

I think it's about main traits you're looking for in your potential partner. If one of those is caring , or source of guidance ... there is high chance you're a little.

Especially if you feel you're not feeling comfortable in adult life and just dream of someone to help you out.