is it too far?

[sappyquiet66]

Okay, so. I'm a male. How i got into all of this, my girlfriend, she was a "little" long story short, i tried it and I'm kinda into it now. Well, here's my concern. It's gotten to the point where she is little almost everyday, she always use's "yes sir" "no sir" "yes daddy" no daddy" etc. She ALWAYS ask's before doing anything, and if she doesn't ask then she has to get punished. Which sometimes i feel really bad for! Like ofc she's gonna mess up sometimes! She always thanks me. Anything she wants from me, she has to ask. It's usually "Daddy may i please please please have *blank*? i'll be a good girl for my daddy i promise".So nothing to crazy so far. Well then, i was like do you love me for me? or for daddy? She assured me she loves me, i always come before daddy, and daddy exists because of me. So i thought hmmmm perfect. Well now we have started integrated daddy rules into our every day relationship! She has expressed how hot it is to me when I'm dominate with her, and how submissive she is. Is this going to far? Or is this what i signed up for? We met online, and i met up with her last week at the mall. She was not little then, but extremely shy, and lovey and giggly. Which sounds like she was little...but she would have told me. She always does. Well, I'm going to see her this weekend for Valentine's, and then i'll see if she really wants all this stuff, or if it's really just a silly fantasy. But over face-time, she always obey's me, and reminds me that i own her, and she belongs to me. I think she got the idea that i didn't only like being called daddy. Because recently she will say i belong to "" then my name. "i always will" "I'm yours forever" " you do anything you want to me" It's just so different. She also wants things like spankings, for when she's bad. But she also wants "good spankings" because good girl's get good spankings. She also loves having her titties slapped until she just can't stand it. She says she wants me to do those things until she cries! i don't want to hurt her! So she says "daddy will you ever hurt me?" i said "only during play time, and never a bad hurt".She has other "kinks" but no need to get into that. We will see this weekend if she really wants these things. Because she knows if she wants something she will beg me! Sometimes i just feel like being to dominate with her will scare her from me. That's the last thing i want. She always is stressed over stuff too. I mean, who isn't? I don't wan't to stress her out with any of this, but she loves her daddy so fucking much! God she loves it. I don't want you guys to get the idea that i don't like this stuff. I love it, and i love being her daddy. I love this girl so much, and i really see a future with her. But is this too far? Can i get some opinions on all of this?

[sappyquiet66]

Also. I wanna add this. Tonight we talked about how we we're going to integrate some of this stuff into our relationship. Well we were on face-time, and he grandma called. So, she talked to her for a bit then called me back. She wasn't feeling little. I could tell. But when i was saying stuff she was still saying "yes sir" "no sir" thank you "" my name. So wow, i think she is kinda serious. She would tell me things she was doing, then got so upset because she didn't ask she actually cried a little and begged me not to punish her. While she wasn't little. So i think she is very serious. Earlier she was acting really bad so i told her i was really upset, and she needs to be a good girl. She begged, and cried so hard. She felt so bad. She told me how she just wants to make her daddy proud of her, and she wants to make daddy happy. It took almost 20 minutes to calm her down enough until she wasn't sobbing and and choking on her spit! I mean she really felt bad for being bad! Maybe this is normal for all of you. But i'm just so new to this. Anyways, leave you're opinions. Thanks!

[Amber Sweet]

Hi! And welcome to the DDLG community. You will find that a Dom/Sub or Daddy/Babygirl relationship varies from person to person. I do not speak from anyone else's view than my own. That being said, it sounds like this babygirl of yours is pretty into living the lifestyle 24/7. And that's okay, but you and her must sit down and write out a list of rules, rewards, and punishments. She may be into being a totaly sub for a while, but eventually she'll even out and it'll be integrated into a normal lifestyle (like mine and my Poppas).

 

Both you and her should openly discuss like and dislike, limits and hard limits. 

 

From what you've stated, it sounds like she has other stuff that is going on in her life that she is wanting to distract herself from with you. And I honestly believe that a DDLG relationship works the best when both partners are happy and healthy. I hope that the two of you work out! The world needs more cutie couples.

[Cr33pyHollow]

Every relationship is different, especially in the BDSM community. What some consider "too far," others see as completely normal and exactly what they need. At the end of the day, you need to decide among yourselves how far is too far. If you're uncomfortable with the way she behaves, you need to express this to her, adult to adult, and try to come to a middle ground. 

[Mikaitaku]

Have you brought that concern up with her

[Guest SUeB]

If its too far for you, then, yep, it's too far. If you're happy with it and you are mutually happy with how things are, then no, it's not too far. It really is as simple as that. But if you do not want this kind of relationship, then i am afraid you need to tell her honestly. She may be "little", but she's an adult, not a child. Many lg's are deeply submissive. i am sub first, lg after. Or rather it's all mixed up together for me. And now i am heading deeper into slave territory. These things can all intertwine. But only if you both genuinely want it!

[kittyboo]

There's kinda no such thing as 'too far' (within legal limits ofc) unless either of you feel like it's too much. You really need to talk to her about her concerns and set out what relationship dynamics you would like, what she would like and find a way that suits both of you. We make our own normal. She may be a little but she's still an adult who should able to communicate clearly with you and understand your feelings as a grown up.