Newly Single and Scared

[CursedVixen]

Hi there. I don't really know how to start this. I just made my account here a little bit ago, and I'm coming from a much scarier, intimidating site called FetLife. I figured that here, I wouldn't be messaged nonstop with gross guys asking to be my Daddy >.<

 

My boyfriend/Dom/Daddy and I broke up after nearly three years of being together. I discovered my sub/little side a ways into our relationship, so I only have experience with him. I'm not questioning why, since it was a pretty solid grown-up reason, but I'm a little worried about... Getting back out there.

 

I've never been someone who has been able to be single for long, but with the emotional toll this one has taken on me, I don't think I can handle a relationship in the meantime. But I figured I'd best be prepared in case someone comes along.

 

Here are my worries.

1. I've never been little around anyone but my ex. I have a little best friend and I'm not even comfortable enough to be little around her.

2. He used to help me with my meal planning (ie. sending him pictures of my meals, making sure i eat three a day) and now that he and I are not talking like that anymore, I've lost that sense of control. Which is hard, especially for a recovering anorexic.

3. I'm bisexual and scared that I'll never be able to find a caregiver again. Or worse, that I'll end up with someone who is against any CG/L dynamic.

4. He was... Pretty much all I had. I tried to have friends, but he didn't really like me hanging out with them or anything like that. Part of the reason it ended.

 

I don't really know what I'm trying to do here, maybe get advice, reassurance, make a friend? All I know is that I am absolutely terrified to be on my own.

[Guest Rowan_]

Let's talk. I sent you a friend request so we can message each other. I'm pretty simple. If you respect me, like I respect you, and you care about me, like I care about you, then things will be great. That to me is a solid core for friendship and having good times in general. I've been used in the past and never want it to happen again, which I why I wrote that just now, it's good to be clear. 

[Cutieebbabyy]

Hi! I sent you a friend request! I am here to talk to if you need someone I know how it feels to be lonely and just need a friend.. I’m in the same boat when it comes to that. *hugs*

[CaresAlot]

Sometimes you just need a friend to lean on and to steer you in the right direction.  I'm new at this dynamic, but two things that I am is kind and patient which I think you can use a little of right now.  Change is never easy, but this is an opportunity to be able to be find some friends.  I took a look at Fetlife and this group is where you need to be not there.  I'll be there to push you to do things (eat right and take care of your self) not because you have to, but because you want to.  You deserve to be happy and you will find lots of little friends in here as well - there are tons of them.  Many will have been through the things you have.  What do I get out of this? Chance to help somebody that just needs a little positive influence.  A smile from a cute little girl.  Anything else is just bonus points.

You can look at the post I've made to see a little bit of who I am.  Chat with some of the Littles in here.  They have so much valuable information that will be a real help to you.  Plus you don't have to explain yourself to them.

[Guest Prat]

You'll be okay. 

[kittyboo]

I'm on Fetlife too but don't post about anything to do with Daddy or little things because I want to avoid all that grossness too.

 

Change is scary. It's really scary to be alone sometimes, especially when you relate all of the good times with someone and it hurts and you're not sure what to do. If you'd like a friend to talk to feel free to message me and there are lots of other people here who understand too. Sometimes it's easier to be honest with people you don't know too well rather than a best friend.

 

You can deal with this, everything will be okay <3

[Little B]

I came from fet life too this site is a lot better in my opinion because its a lot more friendly. If you ever want to talk add me

[Quirkygrl16]

I'm so happy to see all these people jump in and want to support you. Just know you WILL be ok. I've only been on here a few days but I love it. If you need someone to listen or just to vent,feel free to add me as a friend. As for the meal planning part, they have apps where you can set reminders to make you eat. Maybe those would help you? Thats the part I'm most worried about for you.. you have got this sweetie..