Resources to help my new boyfriend feel more comfortable with DDlg?

[princess gremlin]

I started seeing a new guy about three weeks ago and already feel so so comfortable with him - he loves everything about me! Really soon into spending time with him, I knew he wouldn't judge me, so I told him I was very much into BDSM and, more specifically, DDlg. He knows I am a little and refers to me as one regularly, doesn't quite refer to himself as 'daddy' at all or feel involved in the dynamic yet, but he punishes me consistently and knows that I like being a brat to get that attention from him - so he's got a few different aspects of the dynamic down. And he has seen my little blog. I even earned spankings last night for finishing my dessert before I ate enough of my dinner! I sleep in his dorm room almost every night of the week and I sleep in ~little pajamas (Disney, Care Bears stuff) and I sleep with my Frozen blankie and my stuffy in his bed, which he thinks is cute. He thinks the little aspects of myself I have shown to him are adorable and cute and part of who I am (sometimes I suck my thumb when he reads to me and I find myself using a more ~little voice with him at night).

 

HOWEVER - he expressed to me yesterday that although he loves that I am a little, part of him thinks that because he likes that, that it makes him sort of a pedophile when I act younger.... He thought it was gross when I exclaimed, "I'm just a baby!" and "I'm just a little girl!" ...... so even though he calls me 'little girl' most of the time, at that moment he suddenly got uncomfortable and said, "No, you're twenty years old though". And I argued saying..... "but i'm still a little girl". I was very serious with him when he voiced his concerns and I tried comforting him saying, "But DDlg isn't pedophilia because it's between consenting adults. I'm a consenting twenty year old but I am a child at heart too."

 

So he's super new to DDlg and incredibly (!!!) supportive of me being a little, but at the same time he doesn't quite understand how the lifestyle and his part in it can be natural and fun and okay when it is about him being with me when I'm acting like a real child. I don't think it's something that will always be weird to him, but I want to give him some time to understand and accept it. I want him to get to the point where he feels as comfortable with my (non-sexual, regressive) little space as I do, and I really ultimately want him to be my caregiver! He's already very comfortable being my Dom as part of BDSM, but caregiver is the next step... I don't necessarily need to call him 'daddy' 100% of the time because I'm not gonna force that on him 24/7, but I wish I could be in FULL little space with him! I wanna be able to watch kids shows with him and have my actual sippy cups out and I want him to take care of me as if I was a real child - so I can feel totally comfortable and be cared for by him.

 

Have any other littles gone through this transition period with new partners - who are trying to be supportive? What are some resources (links - websites, Tumblr posts, Youtube videos) I can show him to make him understand the dynamic better? Maybe encourage him to find that daddy space in himself in a way that feels comfortable? He really likes kids so I know that's something that will probably come naturally to him if I can coax it out.

 

Thanks!

[Guest Arc]

There are many posts out there like this. Scroll back through a few pages and you'll find heaps on it. 

 

Personally I think BDSM and DDLG means completely different things to everyone so it's best to find things that support what it is for you, otherwise giving him resources that are nothing like what you want could get confusing to someone new. 

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

Start with this one because it has a bunch of links: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12028-advice/

 

This is the master list for DDlg youtubers: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/25972-ddlg-youtubers/

 

Oh!  Any my personal favorite: https://www.domsub.life/

 

And if that doesn't have what you are looking for, try these:

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/211-how-did-youyour-daddy-ask/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/660-ideas-for-beginners/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/1530-how-did-you-introduce-ddlg-into-your-relationship/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/2212-new-to-ddlg/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/3056-transitioning-from-a-vanilla-to-ddlg-relationship/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/3924-convincing-my-master-to-accept-ddlg/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/4436-how-to-tell-bf-that-im-little/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/4532-talking-to-people-about-ddlg/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/4745-how-to-explain-to-my-boyfriend-as-be-daddy/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/5619-help-telling-vanilla-partner/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/5689-coming-out-about-being-little

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/5802-how-to-tell-my-boyfriend-about-my-ddlg-fetish/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/6017-new-relationship-help/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/7254-how-to-encourage-ddlg-to-boyfriend/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/8951-introducing-ddlg-to-someone-new/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/9630-my-boyfriend-doesnt-like-ddlg/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/10414-how-do-i-introduce-ddlg-to-my-partner/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/11646-how-to-tell-him-im-a-little/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/11956-explaining-ddlg/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/13107-introducing-my-bf-to-the-ddlg-lifestyle/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/14101-need-advice-im-a-new-little-and-my-boyfriend-is-really-put-off-by-ddlg/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/14969-how-to-talk-to-my-husband-about-trying-ddlg/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/14905-how-do-i-bring-up-ddlg-to-my-boyfriend/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/15347-introducing-ddlg-to-a-vanilla/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/16742-getting-husband-on-board/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/16903-how-to-tell-my-husband/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/17019-how-should-i-tell-my-daddy-to-read-more-into-ddlg/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/17141-i-want-my-bf-to-be-my-daddy-but-he-doesnt-like-it/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/17395-getting-my-partner-into-ddlg/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/17793-afraid-to-tell-him/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/21314-little-needing-advice-nice-daddys-only/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/24255-how-do-i-tell-my-boyfriend/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/24204-help/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/26545-how-do-i-tell-himcome-out-about-ddlg/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/26645-i-need-advice/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/27210-how-do-you-explain-ddlg-to-someone-who-doesn%E2%80%99t-know/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/28198-advice-and-help/

 

Good luck!

[Mikaitaku]

maybe assuring him it isn't a sex thing will aid in him being more comfortable

[WhiteRa]

The best way is to ease him into it, because thats what worked for me. It sounds as if he's receptive to the lifestyle, so you guys have that going for you. I would not come full out and state your true little age for a bit of time. Just do things that your little age feels like she would do, without explicitly saying what you're doing. I would say slowly start to get him used to the idea of being around you when you enter little space (like ask him to watch you draw/color/paint) but don't make it overly little. I feel like he will get comfortable doing these things as a daddy without feeling like he's doing "pedophilia" because you will be letting the context of the situation develop organically. Find a Disney movie that he likes (every guys has at least one they like more than most) and times like that lay on the little behavior more than you normally would. Basically you should just be thinking of this as someone learning to swim, don't throw them into the deep part of the pool all at once, start in the shallow end and slowly work your way to where you want to be.

[strawberrystarbaby]

It may just take time. When I first ventured into DDLG, I was honest to god disgusted. I liked it, but I had some sort of mental block that made me feel repulsion towards the term Daddy, the onesies, the pacifiers, etc. As I explored it and found random articles and spaces online that were more open and explained it better, I found myself settling in a bit more. Using the word Daddy with my first Daddy helped ease me through my initial emotions. Now I'm a paci suckin', onesie wearin', big ol' Daddy's girl. lol