Upset little

[Petitchat]

I don't see anything wrong with an "apology gift", because it's something that can show the person really cares for the his partner: they took the time to think about what would please them, they took the time to go buy it, and they did it with the sole purpose of at least making them smile, the monetary value doesn't matter. And a lot of people have less difficulty expressing themselves physically than with words and it can help them. That said, it can't substitute itself to an apology (if there is something to apologize for !). The most important thing when I'm upset with my boyfriend is that he understands why and is willing to talk about it, or tries to understand it wth my help if he can't on his own (he always admits that he's not very empathetic). Leaving things unresolved and just brushing them off with a gift and/or an apology would be the worst thing we could do. I just need him to show me that he cares about my feelings and tries to understand me. And if I'm in the wrong and am upset about something meaningless or imaginary, because of course it happens, I sometimes need him to help me see it and be open to dialogue so that I can apologize appropriately. I don't think a gift would be appropriate to get forgiveness, but it could help open the dialogue and be nice to enjoy for after the making up to soften the whole situation (but not necessary!).

 

Small gestures mean a whole lot of course, taking care of your partner's comfort when they're upset is super important ! (if they want you to, some people prefer to deal with things alone, but giving them their space is a gesture too).

 

All of this goes for littles as well as daddies of course. I see more and more posts that make me feel like some people think it's more one-sided with one party taking care of the other withou real reciprocation. It's not, it's a relationship, it needs exchanges and respect and compromises. This lifestyle is not an excuse to treat badly your partner and take advantage of them.

 Good luck

[Missi]

Communication

 

You need to understand why they are upset...not just the subject, but the context. Put yourself in their shoes.

 

If you are genuinely sorry, they need to understand that themselves. And you can discuss ways to avoid this happening in the future, if that is possible.

 

Healthy communication is everything.

[Guest ScorpioBeastWolf]

Might help if we had more information. This could be anything from "i drank the last of the juice" to "i slept with her sister and killed her cat", lol. How did you upset her? How did she react? Have you apologised? Is this online or real life? Lots of missing information that might help us offer a relevant solution.

Well when you wish to be helped and want someone to listen to you, as the writer above mentions, we need a more information, as much as you can share. In other case, if you feel and have realized you are wrong... Talk to your little. It is always communication which can solve issues.