When Daddy isn’t in Daddy Mode?

[Guest Daddys1Babycakes88]

I’d like some advice or opinions from anyone, but especially CGs (Mommies or Daddies).

So, of course every Daddy is different and there’s lots of reasons why this happens, but.. What’s the best thing to do when I’m in super Little space but Daddy isn’t in Daddy mode? I can’t just switch it on and off.. and I tries to be good and lighten my Little mode ups a bit, buuut.. it doesn’t always work lol

Are there ways I can gets Daddy in Daddy mode? Do Daddies get frustrated when they can’t get in DM?

Just a side note, I do understand that Daddies need breaks ☺️

[neko]

These are more questions you should be asking your daddy, honestly.

 

We can't say if it's frustrating for him and we can't say what would get him in daddy space.

[Guest Daddys1Babycakes88]

Mmm true. Just didn’t know if there were any little magic tricks that people might know

Thanks for replying tho!

[xBabydollx]

u can ask him what little activites or behaviors does he especially love that puts him in Daddy mode. Buttttt honestly, i think ur focus should be on self care. What can u do to take care of ur self when u are in little mode? Because the reality is that he wont always be in Daddy mode, and may simply not want to be bothered with it some days. I look at it like sex. u may be in the mood somedays, and some days ur partner wont. u can try to get them in the mood, but also must be willing to accept and respect when they simply arent. In those moments u have to find some 'self love' haha this is basically the same thing.

[Guest Daddys1Babycakes88]

[xBabydollx]

Glad to help! There is lots of Self Care for littles tips/suggestions out there. Nothing a google search cant help. Check it out.

[Mikaitaku]

It should all be instinct so a daddy not being one seems wrong

[Mikaitaku]

It should all be instinct so a daddy not being one seems wrong

[LittleKitten13]

It should all be instinct so a daddy not being one seems wrong

Well, in some cases a daddy may be a switch, and if they are in little space, they wouldn't usually be very daddy-like.  I am very instinctively a protector and a caregiver in many situations, but when I'm little, I often can't be the one in charge and take care of others.  I need the cuddles and affection and attention.

[Little Illy]

I think the biggest thing that needs to be remembered is this - do you have consent to try to trigger a DaddySpace? I know that sounds weird but hear me out.

 

When I get stressed or put in situations where I feel Big, I actually do not react all that well for Daddy to try to well, Daddy me. I have to relax, I need to breathe and calm down and then I start opening up. What you may be seeing is that, like me, he has a hard time reaching that headspace. And if you put too much pressure on the subject, it could inevitably lead to him closing himself up entirely. 

 

I would recommend that you two have a sit down and discuss what good strategies there are to use. Because yes, Daddy triggering me can lead to me being a grump, however, there are triggers that are always welcomed. A "I understand/hear you" triggers that are more reassuring than them trying to achieve actual littlespace. Maybe your Daddy needs a few of these and then you can escalate. But the biggest thing is to discuss it with him. He is the only one who is going to have an answer to this situation. And take on board what he says, and make a point for him to see from your point of view as well. Between the two of you, I am sure you'll be able to find safe triggers and then the DaddySpace will flow more naturally. 

[Guest Daddys1Babycakes88]

[bellarose]

Thanks for the advice guys sometimes its hard because idk when I should be little or when I should just hold back.

[Guest Daddys1Babycakes88]

[Guest MusicianDaddy]

Great question. Daddies are ALWAYS Daddies....For me, I never leave Daddy mode. It's a deep instinctual drive to nurture, protect, and adore. However, human beings are creatures in flux; our moods, complex life situations, energy shifts....we shift with moon cycles, our diets, psychological distress, and anniversaries that we didn't even know held any significance lol It's what makes us love who we love and fill our own minds with deep insecurities.  Oh, the complexities of people.  Study your own personal needs and internal changes, while simultaneously studying each other's needs, and you will deepen the connection. And, humans are fucking weird loll