Animal ears on littles?

[Guest Fleur-Angelique]

So, quick background for this: I have been chatting with a female sub elsewhere - she has many years of experience on me so I've asked her for advice a few times. Now, the other day I mentioned to hear that I was a bit annoyed because a rabbit ear headband I had broke and I had to throw it out. She said she was surprised and that she did not know I also did petplay - which I don't anymore but i didnt explain that ^^

 

I said I did not I just liked to wear that sometimes - especially for parties which is what it was originally for and it had no connection to BDSM in my case. But she got really weird and said I could not wear it because it sends the wrong signal. I said I had never worn it at a munch but she said that if I wear it 'in public' with a collar (I actually would do neither on a regular day) it would mislead people.

 

I feel like she's overreacting but honestly I really dont know a lot about a lot of the stuff I'm not particularly into so I dont know if there's some kind of social conventionit is breaking which is why I am checking with you all to see what you say. It is not a personal thing since she was basing a lot of her criticism around assuptions about me so most of what she discouraged here would have never happened anyway.

 

But what do you think? Can littles wear ears with collars in public? Or even at munches? I just thought they were cute even though I looked basic xD But she did get me thinking so  I am curious to know what people think. I apologize for the bad phrasing - I am not too good at expressing myself in English. I hope this made sense.

Edited May 9, 2018 by Fleur-Angelique

[izz]

Of course, littles can wear ears with collars! There is no right or wrong way to be a little or a pet. If wearing ears and a collar makes you feel cute, then go for it! Personally, I think its super cute too. I'm not into pet play at all but I love wearing my bunny ears with my collar. 

Even if it does "mislead people," that's not really your problem! If it makes YOU happy, it doesn't matter how other people perceive it. If you want to, you can just explain it to people.

[xBabydollx]

I get what she is saying but it's not exactly true. If u are in a public place with animal ears, ppl wouldn't think anything BDSM related as many ppl wear animal ears cuz they find it cute. Especially since it's pretty common for girls around Halloween time, I think most just kinda accepted that girls find it cute and fun. On the other hand, if u was at a BDSM event and had on animal ears or any other pet related gear, then yes, I would assume u was a pet tbh. And I am a pet, so yes, I would def think that haha. It's like if someone came to an event with a Dominatrix sort of get-up then told me they was just a sub, I would be really surprised ya know lol. Like the person above said tho, u can explain it to the ppl (like me) who would be curious if u are a pet, or u can say nothing and simply do u. Whatever makes u happy.

[Guest Fleur-Angelique]

I get what she is saying but it's not exactly true. If u are in a public place with animal ears, ppl wouldn't think anything BDSM related as many ppl wear animal ears cuz they find it cute. Especially since it's pretty common for girls around Halloween time, I think most just kinda accepted that girls find it cute and fun. On the other hand, if u was at a BDSM event and had on animal ears or any other pet related gear, then yes, I would assume u was a pet tbh. And I am a pet, so yes, I would def think that haha. It's like if someone came to an event with a Dominatrix sort of get-up then told me they was just a sub, I would be really surprised ya know lol. Like the person above said tho, u can explain it to the ppl (like me) who would be curious if u are a pet, or u can say nothing and simply do u. Whatever makes u happy.

 

 I agree completely on wearing them at BDSM related gatherings and bever have worn them there either - only at home, at parties or in some rare cases on the streets (for carnival and pride and such) but I still was curious about the general attitude! Its like goths wearing collars I guess - like in public it has no other connatation that fashion? Anyways she did think I should never wear it at all but i still started thinking sbout it. ^^

[xBabydollx]

Its def like the collars thing. In public its just a fasion statement, at a BDSM event it means more. I think it's extreme for her to say for u to never wear them lol. It's a time, place, environment for everything.

[cheshirekitten]

Littles can do it as dress up play. I do both pet play and ddlg but I'm always playing dress up when I wear my ears and collars and even my kitten fur mittens in my little space