How to take care of two littles

[ShadowKing_347]

Hey, I'm new and I made an account because I need help, iv been with my little for 2 and a half years, and there's been way to many problems, u see, she's cheated on me, left me for some 1 else, and as broken my heart in other ways time after time again, iv already been given the "u need to let go and move on" speech 1000 times, that's not what I need, I have come to realize that no matter what I do she will always have my heart and that I can't leave her, this is out 6 or 7th time dating again, my heart and mind is scared from all the damages but I need her, we've been doing....better, ig, but I'm still broken, before I explain understand I do not believe in cheating what so ever, not for revenge or anything, I am strictly against that, going with that iv met this 1 girl, at first we were just friends but I started to develop feelings for her, I told my little and explained that this new girl give me the feeling in my stomach that reminds me of my little before she hurt me over and over, I found out this new girl was also a little and that she liked me just as much as I liked her, I talked to both of them about a triangle relationship, now iv never wanted nor been into those kinda things, but I want this 1, I fell for this new girl and still love my first little, the new girl was all down for this idea (at least trying) and my first little was upset but understood and was willing to try it 2 make me happy, my problem is that iv never been in 1 before, and I don't know how to take care of 2 littles at the same time while making sure both are equally loved and cherished, they both mean everything to me and I don't want 1 2 feel insecure about the other, any advice???

[xBabydollx]

Main thing is transparency and communication in poly dynamics. Idk if u plan on it being a family dynamic or not, but u will have a big reaponsibity of managing ur time. Make sure both are getting an adequate amount of ur time, to their standards, so check in with them about it reguarly. Moments of jealousy or someone feeling left out at moments is inevitable in poly (imo) no matter how well they get along. If u do a family dynamic, I suggest highly paying attention to their behaviors and moods if u for example show one affections in front of the other. If the other person becomes immediately withdrawn or attitude clearly changes, take note of it and discuss it. Not everyone is ok with witnessing or hearing about the other person. Reassure them to be open and honest about u about any feelings they have. Sidenote tho, I hope u fully divulge ur circumstance of ur situation with ur current little with ur new little. It's only fair for her to know what exactly she is stepping in to. When a relationship is already broken, it isn't always wise to drag someone else into the mix, so it will be helpful for her to know exactly what she is signing up for. Besides that, good luck and be patient.

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

Every relationship is different. Especially if there are 3 people involved. You should take it slowly and make sure everyone is on the same page. If you show 1 of them affection you got to show both of them. However your situation is going to be very difficult. Your old little that has broken your heart repeatedly will probably feel that you are doing this triangle relationship to hurt her. She will need extra reassurance that it isn't about revenge. In order to get them working together and familiar with each other you should try having your little help train your new little. Also providing a chore chart for both of them will help.

 

Finally a little bit of what else needs to be said. My first little was incredible she was beautiful, sweet, and had a bad girl vibe. We were friends for about 4 months, then we got together for another 4 months. She then kissed another guy and instead of coming home like I asked she went and drove his truck. I left her the next day. Part of me still loved her so 6 months later when she sent me an incredible text saying sorry for everything (no shit like 3 pages long). We got back together after talking Everything over. We stayed together until around Christmas. She didn't talk to me for Christmas Eve or Christmas day. She came home after that and spent 3 hours with me then left. I didn't hear from her for 3 days. I called her and she had been crying. We got into a huge argument at 2am because she had cheated on me with 6 guys in 3 days. I left and I haven't looked back. Eventually I realized something. The more you let her in the more she's going to continue that behavior because she believes it's acceptable. You have a new little there's your chance to drop your first one and go find happiness. It will sting a lot and part of you will always want her but you need to focus on having a partner that you can trust and has your best interests at heart. I know you don't want that kind of speech but I felt I could relate a lot.

[Mikaitaku]

I have been where you are at, the first girl is never going to care about you. You can give everything for years and it won't matter, she probably keeps you around because you are useful. If you are into being used and discarded cool but my advice would be to stop dreaming of something that won't ever happen and focus on the girl that actually cares about you