Will you hurt for me?

[Guest DominantBlogger]

It is an awkward question...  Many even in the lifestyle will be wary of someone who opens with this.  It isn't....  First date material, lets say....  But I've found for me it is important.  It is a requirement.  I need someone who needs to be hurt, not someone who tolerates it.  

 

Don't get me wrong, I can train someone to like pain.  Psychologically, it is a really simple process.  But, I need you to need it or be willing to be trained to need it.  I need you to want it as bad as you want an orgasm.  Because in the grand scheme of things I'm going to need to give it to you that often, as well.  

 

You see...  My love language is pain.  I'm not sure how to say that without it sounding creepy.  Those that know me know I'm a pretty average guy.  A sane guy, so to speak.  I'm not a serial killer.  I'm not cutting up girls and making lampshades out of their skin or anything....  I have been known to say, "It puts the lotion on it's skin or else it gets the hose again." But let's face it, that was all fun and games.  I am good at administering pain.  I can make the heaviest bottom safeword within 10 minutes or sensually drag out a novice player for hours alternating between pain and pleasure until she doesn't know which is which.  I'm good at it and both women and men approach me for my skill at it.  But that's not why I need it.

 

You see...  For me...  And this is weird to admit...  But, for me, pain is love.  What pain will you take for me?  How will you react when I hurt you?  What kind of pain will you ask for?  Will you just endure it or will you eagerly expect it?  

 

Loyalty is a big thing for me.  With those who are close to me, I am willing to pretty much give them everything and anything I can.  But I expect the same in return.  Sometimes, that leads to unreasonable expectations.  Expectations that are based on my own intentions and willingness to sacrific for those I consider family.  Because, in the end that is what I consider family.  The people you are willing to sacrifice for and vice versa.  

 

So the question I always am asking those who approach me is, "Will you hurt for me?"  The answer to that tells me everything I need to know.

[brebunny]

This is beautifully written! There's a lot of love in pain for sure! 

[littlemariposa]

I actually really love the way you put this because I understand it. Love is definitely not without pain and it means a lot to take it for someone. It makes me think how much I'm willing to take...

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

I love this so much

[hislilbabygirl]

This is so beautifully written..