Does anyone feel this way?

[Guest Poems14]

I am a very very shy person.. so what I'm about to ask is maybe a bit weird? Also I'm sorry if this isn't the right section to ask this.

 

I'm gonna try to explain this as good as I can, because I think this will be a bit hard to explain.

 

I am very shy of strangers (I'm pretty sure some people are as well), but its to the point that I'm scared to do certain things by myself like going into a store by myself, talking on the phone with someone, or answering the door without being scared. I feel like a child at times because I don't fully do exactly what adults do (like do things on my own).. can I do things on my own (well..most things), but the main thing is.. if it involves me interacting with other people then I may ask for help (from a friend/family member) or ask for guidance on how to start a conversation with the other person. When I'm in the car with a family member going to a store, they usually ask do I want to go in with them and I be like "...no, I'll stay in the car" and when they're inside the store.. I'm outside in the car trying to hide from people.. I feel a mixture of being scared and shy.. I do feel it's my self esteem and confidence that is making me feel that way.. I know one of my family member do want me to grow up and start acting my age but it's hard.

 

But anyway, does anyone feel this way at all? Even if it's just asking for help or guidance from another to speak to people?

[Guest SquishyDorbs]

I feel this way a lot.. i try my best to stay my distance away from the outside world.. but little by little im getting better, im getting more extroverted the more i push myself..

I don't know if this will help at all, but something that really helps me is to just throw out all my worries. like say if I want to talk to someone, all i would do is just speak my mind, and if they don't like that, then they don't like me and they weren't going to like me in the first place!... you cant really change fate. 

but um.. anyways, yea.. just push yourself! its okay to feel uncomfortable sometimes, it just teaches you what you like and what you don't like! 

 

example:
I just went out of my comfort zone to write this! id be scared to do something like this usually >.>

lots of love! <3 stay safe!!

[Guest jimmy3737]

You are not the only one out there like this.  I had a little who was very similar.  She did not like to go out or interact with people at all.  Even when we first met she was very shy.  We met thru a mutual friend.  She was able to improve a lot over time.  I'm sure there are others like you here.  Just keep being you and I'm sure you'll find your way.

[meows kohai]

It sounds like some pretty severe social anxiety :c 

I get social anxiety pretty bad, but if I have a few drinks before I got somewhere that makes me uncomfortable I feel better ~ ^^

[Guest Poems14]

@SquishyDorbs

Thank you for the advice, I will keep that in mind. And that's great that you're doing better.

 

@Jimmy3737

Thank you! Hopefully I will improve, but I guess it will take time lol

 

@meows senpai

Yeah I was thinking it was social anxiety :/ I'm sorry that you have it too, but I guess that helps you. I don't drink or anything so, I may just find something that could help like practicing my communication with other people even though it may scare me xD

[Guest Murhan]

I am a very very shy person.. so what I'm about to ask is maybe a bit weird? Also I'm sorry if this isn't the right section to ask this.

 

I'm gonna try to explain this as good as I can, because I think this will be a bit hard to explain.

 

I am very shy of strangers (I'm pretty sure some people are as well), but its to the point that I'm scared to do certain things by myself like going into a store by myself, talking on the phone with someone, or answering the door without being scared. I feel like a child at times because I don't fully do exactly what adults do (like do things on my own).. can I do things on my own (well..most things), but the main thing is.. if it involves me interacting with other people then I may ask for help (from a friend/family member) or ask for guidance on how to start a conversation with the other person. When I'm in the car with a family member going to a store, they usually ask do I want to go in with them and I be like "...no, I'll stay in the car" and when they're inside the store.. I'm outside in the car trying to hide from people.. I feel a mixture of being scared and shy.. I do feel it's my self esteem and confidence that is making me feel that way.. I know one of my family member do want me to grow up and start acting my age but it's hard.

 

But anyway, does anyone feel this way at all? Even if it's just asking for help or guidance from another to speak to people?

Yeah it sounds like social anxiety

I deal with a lot of anxiety issues myself

It's not easy

 

I usually have to ask others to make phone calls for me or order food for me including other things

Because I just get really afraid to do it

 

But I've learned it's just about pushing yourself slowly but not to much to start doing things you normally can't do

Start of with small things and move up

It gets easier over time you just gotta work with it!

Everyone has their limits so don't pressure yourself on it that only leads to more anxiety and stress in my experience

 

[Guest Poems14]

@MarshmallowSnot and Murhan

 

Thank you both for the advice. I think me taking it step by step would help me to not be afraid, and it makes me feel a bit better that I'm not the only one that has felt like that before.

[Guest Murhan]

@MarshmallowSnot and Murhan

 

Thank you both for the advice. I think me taking it step by step would help me to not be afraid, and it makes me feel a bit better that I'm not the only one that has felt like that before.

Of course!

If you ever need someone to talk to about it

I'm usually online most of the time

Just hang in there

[Guest CaptainAmerica97]

Oh my gosh yes. I absolutely hate talking on a phone, i answer the door only because I half to but when i go to the store i like talking on the phone to my daddy or my MOM so i don't feel like i am alone