Having Trouble Entering Daddy Space

[ChaoticKnight17]

So me and my girlfriend have been together for months, she's a veteran to the DDlg community but me on the other hand is new to being a caregiver/daddy. She helped me get accustomed to everything and things have been well until about 2 weeks ago, from which I'm having an extremely hard time entering daddy space, if I enter it all. She really tries her best and even if she doesn't admit it, it affects her severely.

 

I don't know what this might sound like, but if it sounds like I'm not a real daddy by heart, I can argue against that with full certainty, because I know that I am.

 

I'm just having trouble lately, and would like to ask people how I might be able to get rid of this problem, I want to make my little happy, but I'm having a hard time to, because I'm having trouble entering daddy space.

 

Any replies will be noted and read, and if possible I will reply to them all

 

Thank you.

[Little Illy]

Daddyspace is just as legitimate as Littlespace. Daddy has told me, specifically, that he can feel the shift. If you know and feel you are a real Daddy, then you are. Sometimes life gets in our way and it is more difficult to "relax" into our roles. But you shouldn't let that deter you. I hear you and understand it is taxing to see the affect its having on your little. But what you need to do is not pressure yourself too harshly. The more you force something, the less natural it will feel and the harder it'll be to slip into the headspace.

 

I suspect you need to figure out what is going on in your life personally, and if there are some significant stressors, then I believe they hold your answer. Is work being too demanding lately? Are friends wearing you thin? How is your physical health? Mental? What about your family? Are you overly anxious? And so on. 

 

A lot of people try to separate their DDlg side and their Life (Which is perfectly fine). However, the two go directly hand in hand and when your Life is affected, so is your dynamic. By figuring how "stable" (for severe lack of better term) your life is right now could be a direct way to resolving this issue. 

 

I would recommend discussing these things with your little. Maybe she has a different perspective and can add some insight. And honestly? You ARE new to the dynamic. It took me being a little for 4 years and THEN getting a Daddy before I successfully entered littlespace. Now I slip into it all the time. Maybe time is simply a factor here. Again allowing you to adjust to the mindset of this being naturally okay and accepted and exciting, etc. Adjustment periods are very real and very vital things in a dynamic. And there is no actual time frame for how long one should last. You know you're a Daddy and this is for you, but with it being new and can still be a mental shock that you're not mentally ready to fully dive into just yet. That doesn't make you wrong or a fake or disingenuous or anything like that. It simply means that you have your own speed at which you need to go at. And that is perfectly natural. 

 

Don't let it bring you down. Just keep doing things that you are comfortable with, keep allowing yourself to explore thing and, most importantly, keep being YOU. By doing this, the Daddyspace should naturally happen and you'll keep progressing where you feel it almost 24/7.  Have fun with it

[ChaoticKnight17]

Little Illy

 

Thank you for the insight you gave me, and also thank you for the quick reply.

 

I'll consider what you said, it really helped

 

Much appriciated