How do I set rules? and need advice for being a daddy

[jihun128]

Hello I'm with my girlfriend who recently opened up that she is into DDLG, BDSM, etc. 

I didnt know anything about ddlg but after listening to my girlfriend and some research i realized it is similar to my nature and i dont mind it at all.

me and my girlfriend are currently living far away, and she has been passively telling me that she wants me to set rules for her.

I'm trying to make a list of rules for her, but I'm not so sure what I should do.

also, i would like some advice for a newbie daddy. 

[cuppycakes]

You should be making this with your partner! Rules are different for everyone and different littles have different needs. For example, a rule saying "brush your teeth twice a day" would be stupid for me to have because I already do. However, a rule saying "go to bed by 10:30 every day" is reasonable and would be something that I would be willing to implement.

 

Talk to your little about this, sit down adult to adult (maybe through skype) and make a list! Here's some ideas to get you started:

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/2210-what-are-your-rules/ (sfw)

[TheDaddyest]

Rules are never universal. You know your girlfriend best. Think of ways you can help her grow as a person or help her stay healthy mentally and physically. Start there as those rules are most important. Then when that is done bring it to her. As long as you KNOW that this will help her and it's not to the benefit to you try to be strong willed about changing things to be too lax. When it comes to long distance punishments, god I know it's hard to figure out. Punishments break down into two categories sexual and nonsexual. Try to come up with 2 lists one of each with a bunch of punishments. see which she is willing to accept. You should be less stubborn to which punishments she needs to have because if she is against it and hesitant it's likely it's against her limits or borderline.  Until you get comfortable with her as a little/sub try to be as cautious and understanding as you can. It's hard to do the whole rules/punishments long distance with certain littles as a daddy is less intimidating if he isn't in the room lol. Honestly What worked for me rules-wise is do the rules and the punishments but long distance means you need to supplement with lots of support and caring and love. She will come to you when she breaks a rule and will be upset. Give her more simple less sexual punishment0s at the start (like writing out lines) and lots of after care (even though it's not a traumatic thing or anything the support helps her to keep her on the track to do better.

[Daddy4Princess]

You need to talk to your girlfriend to determine what kinds of things she needs help with.  Rules are there to help your little follow through with things she might not normally be able to.  If she is supposed to do her laundry once a week, and she can't do it consistently, that might be a rule that you set for her.

 

You're trying to help your little grow and evolve and flourish.  Just make sure that whatever rules and consequences you implement are followed through with.

[Guest Prat]

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12632-cgl-over-distance/?p=68819%27%5DCgl

 

Try this!

 

*flies away*