How much does real-life age/size/looks matter?

[Guest Looby-Lou]

A question popped into my mind this morning, and I'm very curious what opinions other DDLG people will have on this.

 

I'm 51 y.o. (real age) which seems waaaaay older than most people on here.  And I'm also almost 6' tall (180cm) which is above average for a woman and has been a minor issue in regular dating. (More in my own mind than in any guys!)

But then I wondered, is real age or height or size such a big deal in the DDLG community? When I feel little, I am totally little in my mind and heart, so does it make any difference what real age or height or size I am? Would a Daddy still feel protective, dominant, nurturing & sexy with a Little who was older/taller/larger than him?

 

Do other Littles feel their age, size, physical appearance affects the chance of finding a Daddy or pleasing their existing Daddy? (or Mummy/Caregiver, as appropriate) Do you need your Daddy to be physically bigger than you? Older than you in real life?

 

Do Daddies/Mummies/Caregivers need their Little to BE physically smaller & younger than them? 

 

Are there Daddies who have a younger real life age, than the Little they are with? 

 

I have to acknowledge that I'm drawn to men who are physically & mentally strong, preferably almost as tall or taller than me, and in mainstream dating I've always gone for guys the same age or (much) older. But because of the imagination, fantasy, role-play etc in DDLG (although a lot of it also feels very very REAL) maybe none of that stuff would matter in a Daddy-Little set up!

 

What are your thoughts & experiences with this kind of stuff?

 

Looby-Lou xxoo

Edited January 18, 2018 by Looby-Lou

[Airave Alamode]

Hello Lou.

 

Age and height doesn't really matter when it comes to DDlg. I am 100% sure there are littles out there who are older (and possibly taller) than their caregivers. There might be some caregivers that would like their little to be physically smaller and younger than them, but I haven't came across caregivers like that yet.

[Guest Prat]

Depends on the person. Some care and some don't. Some even prefer it.

 

Of course there are Daddies that are younger / smaller than their littles..

 

The main question here is if a Daddy will still feel like a Daddy if their little is bigger / older than they are and the answer is that it simply depends on the person.

If the person doesn't feel comfortable being with someone bigger / older or be able to perform the role, than that person won't pursue a relationship with someone like that.

If a person decides to try and finds out that it doesn't work for them then that's just how it is and a life lesson is learned and move on

If a person chooses to enter a relationship with someone older / bigger and chooses to not perform their role then that's just a bad partner.

Edited January 18, 2018 by Prat(Praetorian)

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

It matters to the extent that you let it matter. Of course, this is easier said than done.

 

There are people who won't date certain types of people for whatever reason, but there are lots of other people who don't mind. I'm plus size and it bothers me as a vanilla person AND a little, but it's never bothered any of my partners or stopped my little side from coming out.

 

I also have a size kink and a preference for older men, but my Daddy/life partner is close to my height and just a few months older than me. DDlg is so niche that you can have all the preferences you want, but it may not work out the way you expect. As others have said, if you feel little and your Daddy feels like a Daddy, then all that other stuff doesn't matter.

[Guest Mister_Kosmik]

First thing's first. Not all littles are small. They come in all shapes, sizes and ages and are all precious. I real caretaker won't care about details like "is my little taller than me, or older than me?" They will be thinking about how to make their little happy and feel safe, loved, and wanted. The CG/l dynamic, to me, is more focused on a mental and emotional connection over any physical one. Granted we are all humans and have physical preferences that does't mean we all have to adhere to a 'perfect' image. For me personally, I would rather find a little that makes me feel like a better Daddy, that helps me grow as a person just as much as I help them, and outside of the DDlg dynamic I also want to be able to connect with them on an 'grown folk' level.

 

So for me personally, no, I do not need for my little to be smaller or younger than me for me to feel like I am a good Daddy, I have had a little older than me and I adored her all the same inside and outside her little space.

 

What I NEED in this dynamic as a Daddy is a little that trusts me and knows I will do my best to take care of them and that I can trust to help me become a better man so I can continue to do well for all those around me.

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

For me it matters to a certain aspect. I'm very young so I would like someone around my age. That being said I don't mind if they are 5 or 6 years older than me. When it comes to size I'm 6 foot 1 inch, so I am taller than most (including you) and I'm still getting taller. I do know a few people who's sub is a decade or more older than them. I also know people who are a foot shorter than their sub. In ddlg and any relationship it doesn't really matter what the other person is like as long as you are happy. Just keep in mind people have their preferences on what they want in a partner.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Thank you everyone for the replies, it's so interesting to hear about your experiences and opinions.  I totally agree that each person has their own preferences, and personally I think the emotional connection is the most important thing xxoo

Edited January 18, 2018 by Looby-Lou

[Guest SUeB]

i am 46 years old (my Daddy /Master is 69). i am 5'8 and can squat and leg press many guys out of the gym, lol. And yes, i have a very strong lg side. You will hear this over and over again.....none of those things make the slightest bit of difference.

[Guest infinitecases]

I think everyone has their own preference!! Some Daddies like their littles taller than them too!

 

I'm quite small at 5 foot 2 but when I'm little, I wish I was smaller so that I could really properly fit on my Daddy's lap like a little girl but oh well I personally like someone who's taller (and stronger) than me and both looks and is older than me so I can feel all nice and protected!! I've always had preference for older guys and taller guys so I guess it just depends on the person!! 

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

Am I too (insert adjective) to be little?

 

Read the comments for affirmation:

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/18594-daddys-too-old-to-be-a-little-girl/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/24310-how-old-is-to-old-for-a-little-to-find-their-mommy-or-daddy/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/524-im-super-tall-and-i-struggle-feeling-cute-and-small/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/5539-tall-littles/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/9798-what-do-you-feel-about-height-difference/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/365-not-a-normal-little-help/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/524-im-super-tall-and-i-struggle-feeling-cute-and-small/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/4385-am-i-a-little/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/5895-am-i-really-a-little/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/8850-can-i-call-myself-a-little-even-though-im-a-virgin/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/10706-is-it-unlittle-like-to-do-these-things/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/14775-dont-act-like-a-little/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/21425-am-i-a-little/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/25214-am-i-allowed-to-be-a-little/

[Guest Arc]

Everyone has their preference. It matters to some and doesn't to others. 

 

I'm 21 and my Daddy is twice that. I'm 171cm and he's 160cm, but it doesn't bother either of us. I'm also much heavier than he is, but that also isn't a problem. Both of us are more attracted to minds and personality than age and physical appearance. I used to think physical appearance would be important to me because I like to feel safe and protected in my partners arms, and I also like to feel small and like that can overpower me easily. But my Daddy is smaller than me and he makes me feel more protected than anyone else ever has, and he is definitely capable of making me feel small and helpless.  

 

Like any kind of relationship, not just DDLG, it's really person specific. There's someone out there who will want and like what you want and like. Just because the majority doesn't seem to like or want it doesn't mean it's not out there. You just have to find the right person  

[Guest NaughtyNymphet]

As far as the physical aspect of things goes, there has to be a certain level of physical attraction in any type of relationship/dynamic. Different people are attracted to different things. Sure, there is a certain ideal/aesthetic that seems to accompany the thought of littles, but ultimately it all comes down to personal/mutual attraction.

[Guest NaughtyNymphet]

Edited January 22, 2018 by NaughtyNymphet

[Thysminia]

I am 49 and I think that i'll feel allways like a Little   

My Dono is 55 but when we're falling in love, we didn't think at all that, our feeling was stronger than anything. We don't choose 

[baby_k]

Everybody has their personal preferences on people, whether we talk about looks or personality. Some have it really strict, some not. Some think they want x but with right person y is actually more better. It is all quite subjective.

 

Story of my own: I once started to get to know one person I thought to be even bit ugly (physically). But he was a decent fellow. After really getting to know him and of course falling for him, I could with all honesty say that he was incredibly attractive and handsome -also physically. So, our views may change I have not been with him for long time but I can still see him as handsome, so it is not just the love chemicals speaking. I don't think he would appreciate my initial view..... but sometimes it is a matter of learning to see the beauty around you.

 

And as many have already said: women and specially littles often want to feel safe, protected and little. None of those things come with age, height or weight. Of course those aspect may help. But there are smaller men than I am, who make me feelt those things. I have met short(er than me) men who I don't even notice to be short because of the way they are and carry themselves. And I have met tall men who seem somehow small and when you stand close to them, you realise "wtf, he is actually 20cm taller than I am". Our observations are often reallyreally subjective and they change over time. Like in my early twenties men with wrinkles around their eyes would have not been my thing, now I see that as incredibly attractive trait. But do I need those smily wrinkles in my partener? No. But their smile is a must of course